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Not sure if this is exactly the right place to post this...<br><br>
DD has been eating solid food pretty consistenly for a little over a month now. It's definitely a social thing for us because we all sit down and eat our meals together, plus she wasn't having any of us eating and her not. She was a fairly light eater of solid food until about a week ago when she started eating a lot of food(for her) at meal times-from a few teaspoons of food to sometimes close to a cup. None of that was a problem until about 3 days ago when she started not really taking her bottles (I'm a WOHM) or nursing very well-up until that point I thought it was a growth spurt. She's a reverse cycle nurser and takes two 5 oz. bottles during the day (approx. 10 hours she's away from me) and nurses 3-5 times when she's home with me. Her last bottle two days ago was around 2:30 and she left about an ounce in it. She took maybe an ounce or two from me between 5:30 and 9:30 when she went to bed, didn't wake up last night, and she nursed pretty lazily this morning when she woke up, pretty much the same thing happened yesterday & this morning. The other thing is she's very active and has a hard time laying still to nurse-she tries a lot of times to nurse and look around, put her heiney in the air, etc. Everything I've read says that the solids should be supplementing the breastmilk which should be the bulk of her calories-but that's definitely not what's been happening the last couple of days. I started giving her expressed milk in a cup at last night at dinner just to increase the amount of milk she's drinking, and I always nurse before meals. My husband had her to the ped. yesterday for something else and asked about this and he basically said he didn't know why it was happening, but didn't seem very concerned. I'm afriad she's going to end up weaning herself, waaahhhh-i'm not ready, seriously though I'll do whatever is best for her so would probably keep pumping <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> instead of giving her formula. Hopefully this is just a phase, but wondering if anyone else has experienced anything similar?<br><br>
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Keep up the nursing! It's just a strike- she's so busy that nursing isn't fun right now. Can you take a few days off to re-connect? Or even just the weekend. Concentrate on spending time with her. Have some good top-less time. Does she co-sleep? Let her have open access for a couple of days, I bet she'll be nursing more in no time.<br><br>
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Thanks! I've heard of a nursing strike, but it never even occured to me that might be what this was. My mom says I weaned early (and has been warning me that she probably would too) and I was really worried about that - I feel a little silly now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"><br><br>
I'll spend the whole weekend catering to her nursing whims! I was actually starting to feel like I was harrassing her because I've been so worried about this that I keep offering her the breast. What you say makes a lot of sense because last night she was nursing and started fussing so I put her down and she was standing and still fussing so I was kind of leaning toward her from the rocker and she turned around and started nursing while standing and leaning on my leg-so she wants to nurse, but is just too busy to lay there and do it. My husband said that was quite a picture!
 

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:LOL<br><br>
That was also around the age that my dd started signing to nurse (we use the sign for milk- think milking a cow- one hand) and she would sign it all the time for awhile there. She loved the drive-by nursings too. I'd sit on the floor in the living room while she played and all I had to do was lift my shirt and she'd come by for a sip <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
good luck!<br><br>
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As far as I'm concerned, 8mo babies don't self-wean. They can get distracted, they can go on a nursing strike, but they simply can't wean on their own that young. They certainly can be weaned at this age, and it's probably fairly easy to do so while the baby is already disinterested in nursing, but that would be a mother-led weaning, not a baby-led weaning.<br><br>
Keep on offering the breast (and ebm when you're not home) and maybe limit the amount of solids she gets when you're home. Is she being spoon-fed mushy baby food, or is she feeding herself finger foods? Letting her self-feed might be a good way to limit the quantities she eats- it will keep her occupied for the whole meal but she'll get less food in her tummy.
 

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ITA with Ruthla. When someone tells me their baby self-weaned earlier than a year it almost always seems that the baby just got busy so the mom took the opportunity to wean. In her mind she didn't wean because the baby started it but really before a year they need that milk so you really should keep offering even if she refuses. It's probably just a slight downturn in her demand while she's busy exploring. Don't worry she'll probably come back with a vegenance if you keep offering.
 

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Definitely sounds like a "busy baby" strike! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Let us know how its going after your weekend nursing marathon (hopefully!).
 

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Is she just learing how to crawl?? My dd did this around 8 months and i thought the same thing you did, but did a little looking around kelleysmom site and she's now a happy nursing 12 month old! I took the strik with my first child as early weaning, now realize if i would have kept it up he would have nursed for a long while... but live and learn at 16! LOL I'm really hoping to go CLW this time around but haven't fully comited i don't think, now i'm just pushing to keep nursing through flu season...<br>
Good luck over the weekend!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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that was around the age that ds started refusing his bottles too (i was a WOH, pumping mom at the time). i found that he took in a lot more during the day in a sippy cup than he did from bottles, so we switched.<br><br>
also, although i'm sure you're enjoying the whole not waking up to nurse thing, sometimes that's the best time to get an overly busy baby/toddler to nurse - wake her up gently in the night and get her to latch on, maybe right before you come to bed. good luck.
 

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My first dd weaned at 10 months. I sometimes think it was a nursing strike, but maybe not. She's always been really independent. I tried and tried but she adamently shook her head no, until I gave up. That's okay, her sister's making up for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
She liked her sippy cup and solid food, and was always on the go...busy, busy, busy. Hopefully this is just a strike for yours, because I was sad to stop nursing so soon.
 

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Babies don't wean at 10 months.... I just don't believe it. Biologically humans need to nurse longer than that.<br><br>
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What would your explanation be? She even gave up night nursing although she's slept with me since she was born. She's very attached, and I know my milk never dried up because I was still lactating when I conceived my second child.
 

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Could be an assortment of factors- was she given any milk-like-substance in another form (cup/bottle)? Did she have any other sucking (bottle/pacifier)? Personally if I thought a 10 month old was in danger of weaning I'd cut their solids down substantially and concentrate on nursing. Everything I've read says that nursing should be their primary form of nutrition for at least the first year.<br><br>
I think babies should be nursed until at least 2 years old. If an infant (under 1) "tried to wean" I would treat it as aggressively as if it was a 2 month old. Under 2 years I would do everything in my power to encourage the child to continue to nurse.<br><br>
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She drank expressed breast milk, water and juice in a sippy cup and never had bottles/pacifiers. At the time, the recommended amount of time to breastfeed was six months, so I didn't see any need to worry. I was also a new mom with no other mom-friends, so I was doing it pretty much on my own. I read everything I could get my hands on, but like I said, they only recommended breastfeeding for the first six months at the time.<br><br>
She actually nursed again briefly at age 2 when her sister was born, but got over it quickly. Her sister is 14 months old and is still nursing like she'll never quit. I get some satisfaction from that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Delaneysmom- Hope you're having a fun weekend. I'm a WOHM mom too and depended a lot on night nursing when Dd started to taper off on the EBM in the daytime. Never had the "problem" of her sleeping through the night, though! One nursing postition that worked for us when she was in a very "busy"/ distractible phase around 7-9 mo.: lay her on her back, you sit next to her, put your forearm on the floor above her head, and lean over with the breast hanging down to her mouth. I can't remember how we came up with this one - it looks very funny! A friend said DD looked like Cleopatra reclining to be fed peeled grapes. Just thought I'd share this tip for a distractible nurser. Good luck!
 

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Thank you to everyone for the information, suggestions, etc!! We had a great weekend and things seem to be back on track-yeah!! It's hard not to get a little nutty with worry when it seem like your baby isn't eating-it's also hard not to start giving her more solids which would actually have made the problem worse. She actually loves getting only food that she can eat herself-she wasn't get a whole lot of pureed food, but I cut that out entiresly.<br><br>
beeb-I'm looking forward to trying the Cleopatra position with DD!!
 

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Glad to hear things are improving.<br><br>
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I'm glad to hear things are going well <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
I find going to another room where there are no distractions really helps. I usually lay down in the bed and just let her nurse as much as she wants. I didn the lie her down and feed overtop for a while too. It was pretty funny to see, but really helped when she was hungry, but too busy to nurse.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Babies don't wean at 10 months.... I just don't believe it. Biologically humans need to nurse longer than that.<br><br>
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I noticed that you have one child not yet two?? You seem to be judging her weaning quite a bit when your child is not yet two. I support extended breastfeeding and CLW, but some kids really do wean before age two. I know children raised in the same family, some who nursed till 4 yo and others weaning at 2 yo. I just don't think you should be making judgements when you don't have the experience with nursing children that old. I don't want to judge you myself, but feel these boards should be a place of support and understanding!!<br><br>
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I'm a little confused here. As you said her child is not yet 2 but clearly she does have experience nursing a child who is 10 months. You gave examples of kids weaning at 4 or around 2 well around 2 is a lot older than 10 months so I'm not quite getting your point. If you think she was harsh that's one thing but to say she can't have an opinion on whether a 10 month old would self-wean because she hasn't nursed a 5 year old doesn't make sense.
 
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