[tbone_kneegrabber]

I need to finish weaning my 2.75yo ds. He'll be 3 in August. I kinda hate nursing him right now. I hate the way it feels and I hate the way it makes me feel.<br><br>
He's down to at naptime when he's home for naps (which is not everyday), bedtime when I am home (not every night), and once or twice over night (for like 30 secs to 1 min) and maybe a little in the morning, if he wakes up before 7am.<br><br>
When he nurses now it makes me feel angry and sometimes I think I'd rather hear him crying than nurse him at all. I need to figure out a way for us to be done without undue stress on his part, although the current situation is stress on my end!<br><br>
I guess I just need to eliminate one feeding at a time until we are all done, but we've talked about how soon we'll stop nursing altogether and that kinda stuff and sometimes he thinks about it and it makes him cry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But I can't go on like this much longer or I think I will do something I regret, like yelling at him or even smacking him when he touches me, I *feel* like I want to do that, I haven't and I don't want it to happen, but when he's asking to nurse or actively nursing I just feel angry.

 

[Sunflower66]

I have no real advice for you but can certainly relate to how you feel.... I do think that the more you focus on wanting to stop at this point, the more he may be convinced to want to continue, it could almost become a power strugle. It doesn't sound like he is nursing very much any more, maybe if you try to let go of the anger and tell yourself that this time will pass soon, it will be easier for you to hang in there for just a little bit longer. I know that is easier said than done. Sending good energy your way!

 

[briome]

Defer and spot wean like you thought. Personally I would night wean first at this point but really taking out the easiest might be better. During the day you might be able to entice him with some good juice and a special cuddle???<br><br>
I am currently also nursing my 2 1/2 yr old and I don't particuarly like it too much but he is a wild emotional kid and the nursing seems to really help him more then it annoys me. I am also nursing his 1m old sister! He nurses a bit when he wakes up and maybe again at nap times if he takes one. He can go a day or so without nursing, or nurse a few more times in a day if I let him. The past day or two he has been asking more.... and less easily distracted by food or drink but I think he feels under the weather so it is expected.<br><br>
I think even cutting down one of those nurse times will really help you. Even one little nurse time left for another month or so will be good and may help him get past it a bit.<br>
(I have a 5 yr old that i weaned after he was 2...he was an easy weaning child)