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Ok....I know someone posted a thread about this last year and I was pregnant at he time and had a very negative opinion..... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
I'm taking one tutorial class, and one night class. DH doesn't get home from work until 7pm and my class runs from 6-9pm. He has already asked if her can leave early and his boss won't let him. I don't work anymore, so I won't have a regular sitter...and I am having trouble finding anyone who wants to watch him just from 6-7pm. DH thinks I should just wear him to class from 6-7pm and he would pick him up from my school then. The problem is that the class wil probably be 30 or less students and there is noway it would not be obvious I was bringing him with me...he is still relatively quiet at 4mos...but I just don't really think bringing him is the best idea - although I can't seem to find any other options than showing up an hour late.<br><br>
What do you think? I guess I still have a negative opinion of bringing a child to class...but I just don't know what to do. btw he is 4mos and the class is "human resource management."
 

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Speak with the instructor ahead of time, if possible. Let him or her know what's going on and they may be willing to accomodate you, especially for such a short period of time and regardless of how obvious your LO is.
 

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Check ahead of time, but I don't see why it shouldn't work. When I was in law school a number of moms brought their babies to class, including me. In my case I found it a bit nervewracking, and I was always sure others' babies were quieter and less disruptive than mine, but everyone assured me it was fine.
 

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I would say that it wouldn't necessarily be a problem, but it would totally depend on your instructor. I've known professors who have worn their babies to class, but it's certainly not the norm. It also depends on your child and the likelihood that he/she would be a disturbance. It might actually make it really difficult for you to concentrate though.
 

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It also depends on the temperment of your babe, and what your plan is if he gets fussy. Maybe this makes me the bad guy here, but if I were in your class and the baby was acting up, I would really resent it if you didn't leave. And then, what will you miss - will it hurt your grade, your understanding of the material, etc.? I agree that in theory it should work... but there are a lot of particulars that only you can answer. Sorry if that sounds harsh. Good luck in figuring this out.
 

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IME kids in class never made any diffrence I never noticed them unless I chose to sit next to them and with a 4mo you could prolly nurse him for most of the class.
 

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it's tough, he'll be young enough to be pretty easy at the beginning of the semester, but as you get closer to December he'll be mobile and active and a lot more difficult to bring to class.<br><br>
A woman in my summer classes brought her new baby to class every day - he napped and ate and was quiet, and it was no trouble at all. But this baby was very little and it was only a 4 week class. My DD was six months old at the time and there's no way she would have been quiet the whole time.
 

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I brought dd to all of my classes (full-time schedule) in the fall semester last year (from 6 days old to about 10 weeks). It was perfect timing, just as exams were happening, her needs outgrew the situation. But for that age, not a problem.<br><br>
Personally, I think it would be really difficult to take care of a 4 months + baby during a 3-hour class, especially at that hour. But, if he would stay calm and quiet (i.e. nurse <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">), I would support your decision in doing it!
 

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At my school they do not allow children under the age of 15 in classes...period. Twice i had a sitter issue and had to take dd with me. The prof allowed it. She just nursed and giggled a bit. It was no issue.<br><br>
I wouldnt do it as a full time option because it was distracting to me. I was worried the whole time that i was disturbing someone.
 

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Maybe you can hire a trustworthy teenager, who just wants some pocket money? They can watch the baby from when you leave until your husband gets home.
 

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Check with your instructor but also be sure to check the actual policies of your school. My instructors were OK with my newborn coming to class but there was an actual policy saying no babes in class and I was "reported" by a fellow student so just be careful...As far as babysitting - do you have an on campus day care? I used two girls to watch my kids last semester for just an hour at a time two nights a week until my soon-t-be-ex-husband got home from work. It was great for all parties: they were qualified and CPR trained, wanted extra oney, and were highly recommended...if they can't do it perhaps they know other reliable college students who love kids that can? If you school has a chld development program talk to the dean/director and get some names...good luck and keep us posted!
 

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This may be unpopular, but I would rather not see an infant in class. Like another poster said, if the baby started crying, I would really get upset if you didn't leave the room. I am there to learn, and it's detrimental to your grade as well.<br><br>
I would look for a mothers helper or a teen who can sit for the baby for the hour between you leaving and your DH getting home.
 

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I am a full time college student with children so I do understand about child care issues, etc.<br><br>
But I am personally NOT for bring infants/babies to class overall on a day to day basis. But I also think it depends on the situation...the size of the class, etc. I would talk with your instructor and go from there. Most instructors I know would say no. I know in my department you CAN'T bring children under the age of 16 into the classroom.<br><br>
I have seen some moms/dad bringing older school age kids with them to school, but that sat <i>outside</i> the classroom and worked on their homework, etc.
 

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I would be ok with this as a student as long as you were willing to leave the room if they baby was fussing even just a little. I think that's only fair to the other students.<br><br>
You could get a little recorder and keep it running in case you need to leave the class and that way you wouldn't miss out on the lecture.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">You could get a little recorder and keep it running in case you need to leave the class and that way you wouldn't miss out on the lecture.<br><br>
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thats a good idea...I'm still trying to find a way not to bring him. I absolutely would leave if he got loud. Thuis will only be a problem until daylight savings time and than DH will be home at 6pm.<br><br>
My DCP is keeping him ths week (her last thursday to watch him) so I will be baby-free to talk to my instructor - maybe I should just ask if it is better for me to bring him or better to come late?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This may be unpopular, but I would rather not see an infant in class. Like another poster said, if the baby started crying, I would really get upset if you didn't leave the room. I am there to learn, and it's detrimental to your grade as well.<br><br>
I would look for a mothers helper or a teen who can sit for the baby for the hour between you leaving and your DH getting home.</div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: Maybe you can take the class online? Thats what have to do.
 

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Most babysitters I've worked with (and when I've been one myself) request 4 hour minimum--could you have her/him come early so you could have 2 hours to study/run errands, etc. and then go to class? Just a thought, if you can't bring baby to class.<br><br>
Personally, I wouldn't mind. Crying babies don't bother me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> And they're usually loudest to the parents ...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Most babysitters I've worked with (and when I've been one myself) request 4 hour minimum--could you have her/him come early so you could have 2 hours to study/run errands, etc. and then go to class? Just a thought, if you can't bring baby to class.<br><br>
Personally, I wouldn't mind. Crying babies don't bother me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> And they're usually loudest to the parents ...</div>
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4 hour minimum? Thats crazy!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: Maybe you can take the class online? Thats what have to do.</div>
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I've been trying to take classes online, but I have a very hands on field of study; also I have so few classes left that I'm lucky to have even one offered a semester - the tutorial class I'm taking is just an elective.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">4 hour minimum? Thats crazy!</div>
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I've never heard of that either!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
If your prof does allow the baby, make sure to sit int he back by the door in case you need to get out quickly. If there were a quiz or test, I'd say it wouldn't be fair then- you'd need to leave him elsewhere for those times.
 
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