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On Sunday, 11/29, my wife, son, daughter and myself went to the mall. I decided I wanted to wear our daughter who is 1 month old. I did not get any dirty looks. But I did get looks of what appeared to me, surprise. I was trying to figure out if they were surprised I had her in a sling or that me being a male I was wearing her. Hmmm. Anyone else had this happen?
 

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yep, my dh gets interesting looks. Sometimes they are "suprised" looks, and sometimes I've seen an eyeroll or two. However, mostly I've just noticed positive looks and/or remarks. Here's my dh and ds - this was abt 6 months ago<br><br><a href="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v222/mthomas/DSCF0235.jpg" target="_blank">daddy slingin'</a><br><br>
oh - and yea for you and dd getting snuggly time, esp in public, it does 'em good to see that, even if the common public doesnt realize it at the time :LOL
 

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My dh gets tons of compliments when he wears ds. Everyone comes up to talk to him and say how cute they are. He says he could have a million girlfriends or run for mayor!
 

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I got lots of abuse for wearing my daughter then my son. From guys who felt the need to approach me, a total stranger to them, and inform me how "stupid" I looked (like that means anything to me...bwahahahaha), to women who also felt the uncanny need to inform a total stranger that he looked ridiculous trying to "pretend" to be a mom. I guess I just have one of those faces.... people just feel free to come up to me and harass me... dunno.<br><br>
Friends and family however, all thought my kid-wearing was wonderful.<br><br>
My own belief and opinion was that it was just what was necessary to raise my kids and it was a helluva lot more practical than trying to do things with one hand.<br><br>
And somehow I'm still wearing kids... spent the holiday wearing my 6 month old niece... felt kinda cool to be saddled up again.
 

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they were staring at you for both reasons. i get double-takes and funny looks (and approving looks too) all the time, and i'm a mama.<br><br>
whenever i see a daddy wearing a baby, i grin like a fool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My dh never "wore" our children, but he carried them in his arms constantly. His mom always told him "put that baby down, you're spoiling her." His reply, "no, she's spoiling me!" That was the end of that.<br><br>
Blesses!
 

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My DH loves slinging my DD. I think he has only gotten positive responses. Definitely a babe magnet. But then, he's pretty cute, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
People are always coming up to us and asking how it works and where we get them (slings). This is a sling-friendly area, and not very macho. When I sling her, people are always asking me if I need help, a stroller, etc. DH is a big guy, so he doesn't get that.<br><br>
L.
 

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My Dh never had a problem, and neither did I. I see men slinging every now and then, neverthought twice about it.<br><br>
Maybe you should just smile at them?
 

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me and xdh...walking down main st at daytona bike week...streets MOBBED with bikers and leather...daddy was wearing our boy and they parted like the red sea..it was the coolest thing ever and noone gave him a lick of sh!t for wearing his son proudly... thats a nice memory.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
personally for me to see a daddy wearing his child it melts my heart.. not that I am a babe but its definetly a "babe" magnet... oh one more story... I saw a guy slinging his puppy once too thought that was very cute...I think it may just be the unafraid to publicly show how much I love someone/something that just gets the heart a fluttery.. so Kudos papas..wear those babies with Pride and score points with chics too!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I saw a gay couple wearing their matching Shih Tzu dogs in matching slings. The men were matching too. They had the same haircut, the same beige Dockers, and were wearing almost the same color blue shirt. Which of course matched the slings.<br><br>
Sorry, but that freaked me out.
 

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I really think that jealousy plays a small part of people who get upset or really shocked at a dad wearing their baby. From dads/men, I think it is that they didn't get to feel that close to their baby and for moms/women, maybe that their DHs/SOs weren't that connected to their babe, didn't help out, etc.<br><br>
My DH rarely wore Abby, but when she was little he was always the one to carry her and always the one she sits with when we go out. Now, he is always the one chasing after her at the store, etc. I love it. He truly enjoys their time together and that makes me love him even more. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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guerrillamama....<br><br>
"I saw a gay couple wearing their matching Shih Tzu dogs in matching slings. The men were matching too. They had the same haircut, the same beige Dockers, and were wearing almost the same color blue shirt. Which of course matched the slings."<br><br>
GM that is too funny. We have friends who would totally get a ... reaction ...from this.<br><br>
I loved to wear my dd in a sling and walk around. I lived in Madison WI so it wasn't such a big deal. Slings were the norm. But, backpacks seemed to be more common for men. She was so small compared to the type of sling I used that sometimes people would not be able to see what I had in there. Then I would get a questioning stare. Matching Shih Tzu dogs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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i cannot believe total strangers would give a daddy crap for wearing hisbaby. especially in this day and age. dang. and from WOMEN!!<br><br>
i - a mama - get plenty of looks but only positive comments. dh tends to get MORE looks, but no comments.<br><br>
personally, when i see a dad wearing his young'uns, i usually strike up a conversation, but i've only seen one dad - outside of my circle of friends - earing his baby.
 

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My husband has only gotten positive comments, thankfully!<br><br>
My two good sling/carrier stories are:<br>
When my daughter was very small (2 months or so), my husband wore her to several outdoor concerts and summer events. You couldn't really see her in there, so he had several security guards say "sir, can I check your bag?" and when he showed them the baby, they would all smile really big and coo over her... and once the guy asked him where he could get one for his first baby who was due soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
My mom brought a bunch of my dolls and doll accessories to me for a photo project. One of the things in the box of stuff is a doll carrier!?! I don't remember it, but apparently I insisted on having a carrier for my dolls. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Some things never change I guess! (Although now I have a sling and a wrap, not a bjorn-type-thing!)
 

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DS and I were having way too much fun <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> to notice any looks.
 

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i notice people smiling when they see my partner (flaxseedgruel) with elwynn in the sling or backpack <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
i love seeing men wearing their babies!
 

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Before I read the other responses, I was prepared to tell you that most women LOVE men who are being good fathers. And slinging is definitely high on that list! My husband wore our son in the bjorn all the time, and women just got silly around him!<br><br>
As for strangers making comments? I would simply ask why they thought it was their place to comment.
 

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Then you get the whole indignant thing... "well, I never... humph, how dare you talk to me that way..." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
One can't win. But it never stopped me from wearing my kids. Incidentally when I was wearing my niece over the Thanksgiving holiday at the store, I noticed that the negative reactions had not changed since wearing my own kids (3 or 4 years ago), but there were more positive comments, and from younger women in particular... maybe folks are getting the hang of seeing guys wearing a cute booger in a sling. The funniest positive reaction was from a burly giant he-man biker kinda guy... he actually got me to show him how to tie the sarong (turns out he has an 8 month old). I had four other guys watching me as I showed him how. My niece even was willing to let the big dude wear her... it had to be the big "shelf" we both had in front or something... That experience alone made up for all the bad moments ever. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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