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I'm planning my wedding for June 3, 2006. I'm doing everything myself. We live really frugal, and this is going to be a big splurge. We're spending a total of $3000 on it, that's help from parents and everything. Here's my budget:<br><br><br>
Reception:<br>
Reception Venue & Rentals....$650.00...........$125.00 paid<br>
Food & Service....................$625.00<br>
Beverages & Bartenders........$350.00<br>
Campaigne Toast.................$140.00<br>
Cake(s) & Cutting Fee..........$150.00...........$118.00 paid<br>
.............................Total....$2015.00.... ..... $243.00 paid<br><br>
My Stuff:<br>
The Gown & Alterations.........$200.00<br>
Bride's Accessories...............$100.00............$20.0 0 paid<br>
Prewedding Pampering...........$50.00<br>
.............................Total....$250.00..... .......$20.00 paid<br><br>
Ceremony<br>
Ceremony Location Fee.........$500.00<br>
Ceremony Accessories..........$0.00<br>
.............................Total ...$580.00<br><br>
Flowers & Decor<br>
Flowers................................$200.00<br>
Ceremony Decorations............$50.00...........$50.00 paid<br>
.............................Total .....$450.00...........$50.00 paid<br><br>
Photos<br>
Photographer.........................$0.00<br>
Prints...................................$0.00<br>
.............................Total.......$0.00<br><br>
Stationary<br>
Invitations & Reply Cards..........$50.00.........$50.00 paid<br>
Other Stationery.....................$15.00<br>
.............................Total........$65.00.. .......$50.00 paid<br><br>
Jewelry<br>
My Ring..................................$50.00<br>
His Ring..................................$100.00<br>
.............................Total .......$150.00<br><br>
.............................Grand Total..........$3,200.00<br>
............................Already Paid..........$363.00<br><br>
What do you mamas think? We're serving Wings, Wraps, Cookies, Brie, Salad, Chips & Salsa, Artichoke Dip, and Cake (of course).<br><br>
Gimme your best ideas!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I think it sounds wonderful. My daughter was married in October that is about what we paid. Our location costs were much less, we were blessed to have found a small 1800's restored village witha chapel and and area for reception and a band. ( $250 total!!) We spent a little more on food and only served wine.<br><br>
We made our own invitations printed on handmade paper, cooked all the food(we had a full fall meal..vegetarian and non) served hot apple cidar,fruit tea, coffee, juice boxes for kids and wine.<br><br>
Made own bouquets and such..Hand tied roses and one large arrangement for the altar that was moved to the food table.<br><br>
Be carefull because little thing can really add up.<br><br>
There is now a black and white film which an be developed at anyone hour place, much less than professional black and white film. We had agood friend who shot all candid photos with the film ( 100 shots) The film ran about $20 and the developing was $90.00 or so. Some one also shot all group picture with a digital camera.<br><br>
It seems like you have everything figured out and are doing great. Blessings and congrats!!!
 

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We saved a ton by getting our locations for the wedding and reception for free. Our college allows alumni to use their spaces for free, and their catering was also very cheap, so we only paid something like $10/ head for a four-course meal.
 

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When dh and I got married we got to use the chapel on campus for like $50 because we were alum and we had the reciption at his stepbrothers house.<br><br>
I also did all of the flowers myself - we had a bar-b-que at our house the night before the wedding instead of a formal "rehersal dinner" and our close friends and relatives help put the flowers and food together.<br><br>
The only thing I regreted about our wedding was trusting father in law with the pictures <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I have heard of people hiring photography students to take pictures, very cheap and usually pretty good.<br><br>
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!
 

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Congrats!! I had a dessert reception and got married in and a church built in 1910 at 7 pm (church and hall=$300)...entire wedding less than $3,000!! I loved the frugal wedding because it puts the focus where it should be---on love and fun! People thought it was very intimate and refreshing. The church was a great deal because it was so beautiful it needed no decor. The evening dessert wedding was great because it saved on food costs and made things really simple.<br><br>
I had my brother--a very artistic person--take the ceremony pictures. Those were important to me and we got some great shots. For the reception he took some more and everyone else just sent me the one's they got.<br><br>
We also did no favors. We love music so we made a 1 hour CD of great songs for the reception and played Frank Sinatras greatest hits the first hour. We also saved money by having apple cider. I got the plates at dollar tree (don't tell!).The flowers I got on clearance at Michale's and made all the stuff myself (it was fun and very pretty!)
 

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Congrats!!<br><br>
We had a relatively frugal wedding, too. I noticed a couple of things that you didn't include in your budget. Stamps need to be budgeted. We figured out how many we needed for invitations and then multiplied it with the amount needed for replies and thank you notes.<br><br>
Do you have someone taking pictures? Don't underestimate how important that will be in the future. We had a friend of my mom's do ours and they turned out okay but the color was off and we're still kind of kicking ourselves about it.<br><br>
Who's officiating the ceremony? We had to "tip" ($200 I think) our minister and I know judges require a fee. We had to pay for the license too.<br><br>
I also saw that you budgeted for bridal accessories. Depending on your family size/ number of friends who've been married, you might be able to borrow most of that. My cousins have a "traveling" petticoat that six of us have worn for our weddings. I also borrowed my hair piece from a dear friend. Oh, also, check e-bay for that stuff. I got my wedding dress there for 1/3 of the regular cost and a veil for CHEAP compared to the stores.
 

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if you want any favors or bubbles or anything, check out oriental trading... dh and i are renewing our vows next year, and i got a bunch of stuff from there
 

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We spent hardly anything on our wedding and it was really nice. We're also very simple people and don't enjoy all the fluff of most weddings.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
- Had my computer savvy MIL make invites - basically free since she bought the cardstock on clearance<br>
- Florist was the woman I did childcare for her DD, we traded services.<br>
- Cake was made by a friend who worked in an upscale bakery - Free (her wedding present to us).<br>
- Used a beautful city park next to a lake where they had planted a circle of dogwood trees (had wedding inside the circle, overlooking the lake) - Free<br>
- Hired a magistrate - $50<br>
- Had reception at our house (right near park) - cost was the rental of the tables, etc. - a hundred or so I think.<br>
- Had our fave (cheap) Chinese restaurant cater - I forget the cost of that, I think a couple hundred.<br>
- um... I think that was it. I bought a frilly Spring-colored dress at the Limited for about $40.<br>
- Made handmade Thank-you cards.<br><br>
I think that was it! We encouraged ALL our friends and family to bring cameras and take photos, about half of them did, and compiling them, we got awesome shots <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> So we only spent around $500, much of which was gifted to us anyhow. I know it's not the kind of wedding you're planning, but maybe some of the ideas you like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We had everything a typical wedding had, but we chose to have our wedding in a small rural town. Everything's so cheap there I couldn't believe it. The hall we rented was only $100 a day. We also had everything done by WAHMs and sweet old ladies when possible. Flowers, cake, decoration, photography...etc. They did wonderful jobs while giving such personal touches and attention, made me feel very special. I fell in love with the hairdresser who did my wedding hair that I decided to name a daughter after her (haven't got any unfortunately). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> We had a budget of $3000 (not including my dress, which was handmade by a little old lady in the city) and didn't even use that much. If we had our wedding in the big city we lived in at the time, it would have costed more than twice that, and probably not feel as good.
 

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Thanks for the ideas and replies.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I posted this in a bit of a hurry (you know those 3 month olds.. Never know when they want to play! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).<br><br>
Here's an expanded version, I just need help cutting corners:<br><br>
Reception - Venue comes with setup, teardown, and cleanup. Holding the reception at a country club, and we're getting 6 hours, plus the ceremony is being held on the patio of the reception room for FREE.<br><br>
Food & Service - We're getting some catered, some doing ourselves. I'm getting pinwheel sandwiches from Whole Foods (I'd get them somewhere else, but I'm vegetarian and I really want something with flavor to it). Getting some Brie from there also. 100 hot wings for $40 from Wing Stop.. SO's cousin works at an italian place, so the bread and artichoke dip are FREE. We're making a salad, fruit bowl, chips, dip, and hummus. Oh, and a cookie platter from Subway for HALF PRICE. $6 for 3 dozen cookies.<br><br>
Beverages - We're going to CostCo and getting canned and bottled drinks, and taking them to be recycled the next day.<br><br>
Campaigne Toast - The only Alcohol we're serving. We're just not drinkers! Plus, it's much cheaper.<br><br>
Cake - I got a great deal by not getting it with filling.<br><br>
The Gown - I got my dress from Dillards.com for $170, Shoes from Amazon.com for $20 (originally $70), made my own jewelry. My mom is a hairdresser, my Best Friend is a makeup artist, so the whole wedding party is covered.<br><br>
Flowers - Wholesale flower shop, spending a max of $200. Already made my own centerpiece vases and purchased all of the candles.<br><br>
Photos - Best friend is a photography student, so FREE<br><br>
Stationary - I designed my own invitations, and am putting them together myself. My dad is going to have them printed, and he's buying the stamps.<br><br>
Jewelry - found plain bands on JCPeney.com for very reasonable prices, but we're still shopping around.<br><br>
The guys are all wearing plain black suits, the ties are part of the attendant gifts. The girls are all receiving their jewelry (which I made), flip flops for the reception, and a lip gloss as a gift. The flower girl will receive her jewelry and a NFL toy. For the parents, we're going to give them a nice picture frame with a picture of the bebe in it.<br><br>
My Step-Mom's Dad is a bee keeper, so we're giving away little jars of honey as favors, and I've found some folding paper fans for very little to put in each chair. We are getting married in TEXAS, outside, in the afternoon, in June, after all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
SO's Dad is going to marry us. So no 'tip'.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Newcastlemama, I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> LOVE<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> the idea of a dessert reception. I'll have to keep that in mind!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
It would be cheaper, plus, it's at 3 in the afternoon.. who wants a bunch of hot food anyway!
 

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Can I pop in and suggest something, DONT do a Champagne toast and just let ppl toast you with whatever they are already drinking. Most ppl dont drink and most ppl dont like champagne, so it would be more frugal for you to just skip it.
 

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I totally agree with the above poster - skip the champagne. Most of the people at our wedding passed on the champagne for the toast anyhow. We had like a case leftover. Fortunatly we (I, mostly) like champage so it eventually got used - in about 5 years. It is a very easy place to save money.<br><br>
Are you having any music or entertainment at your reception? Even a stereo sytem and a friend to put in CDs?<br><br>
The photos that our friends took were just lousy. The disposable cameras on every table and the developing was a complete waste of money. We had lots of photos of the backs of people's heads, out of focus, too far away, people's feet, half of people's heads, corners of the room, etc. So skip disposable camers for "candid" shots if you were considering it. If your friend is experienced you should get good photos.<br><br>
Why a ceremony location fee if you are having the ceremony at the same place as the reception?<br><br>
Who is officiating, and have you budgeted for that?<br><br>
Congratulations! Have a great wedding!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I totally agree with the above poster - skip the champagne. Most of the people at our wedding passed on the champagne for the toast anyhow. We had like a case leftover. Fortunatly we (I, mostly) like champage so it eventually got used - in about 5 years. It is a very easy place to save money.<br><br>
Are you having any music or entertainment at your reception? Even a stereo sytem and a friend to put in CDs?<br><br>
The photos that our friends took were just lousy. The disposable cameras on every table and the developing was a complete waste of money. We had lots of photos of the backs of people's heads, out of focus, too far away, people's feet, half of people's heads, corners of the room, etc. So skip disposable camers for "candid" shots if you were considering it. If your friend is experienced you should get good photos.<br><br>
Why a ceremony location fee if you are having the ceremony at the same place as the reception?<br><br>
Who is officiating, and have you budgeted for that?<br><br>
Congratulations! Have a great wedding!</div>
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Yes, we are having a stereo with CD's burned with the songs in the order that we want them in. My little brother is in charge of that.. But one of the Groomsmen is a Sound Engineer, so he might do the honors. My little bro, bless his soul, has ADD pretty bad. He would probably sneak off to go smoke a joint and totally forget! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
My SO's Dad is officiating for free.. And we're not doing the disposables. Between our families, plus the photographer, we have about 4 digital cameras between us. We'll have pictures covered!<br><br>
We aren't serving alcohol, and champaigne is the hardest drink that we were going to offer... I'll talk to more people about it and get a feel for it. What kind of wine goes best with dessert? I might just serve that instead. I know that the white wine is $4 less per bottle.. I don't ever drink so I have no idea about these things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br>
The ceremony fee is a mistake. We were going to have to pay that, but then we got a bigger room for a little more, and it came with the patio that we could use. The small room only fit 50 people, and it didn't have a dance floor. The one we're in now does. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hehe, I just thought, maybe we can do sparkling grape juice and apple cider. I love those!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
ETA: Here's my revised budget:<br><br>
Reception: $1672.00 Due<br>
Reception Venue & Rentals....$650.00...........$125.00 paid<br>
Food & Service....................$625.00<br>
Beverages & Bartenders........$350.00<br>
Campaigne Toast.................$140.00<br>
Cake(s) & Cutting Fee..........$150.00...........$118.00 paid<br>
.............................Total....$1915.00.... ..... $243.00 paid<br><br>
My Stuff: $50.00 Due<br>
The Gown & Alterations.........$200.00............$200.00 paid<br>
Bride's Accessories...............$100.00............$100. 00 paid<br>
Prewedding Pampering...........$50.00<br>
.............................Total....$250.00..... ........$300.00 paid<br><br>
Ceremony: $80.00 Due<br>
Ceremony Location Fee.........$0.00<br>
Ceremony Accessories..........$80.00<br>
.............................Total ...$80.00<br><br>
Flowers & Decor:$200.00 Due<br>
Flowers................................$200.00<br>
Ceremony Decorations............$50.00...........$50.00 paid<br>
.............................Total .....$250.00...........$50.00 paid<br><br>
Photos: $0 Due<br>
Photographer.........................$0.00<br>
Prints...................................$30.00 (when we are ready)<br>
.............................Total.......$30.00<br><br>
Stationary: $15.00 Due<br>
Invitations & Reply Cards..........$50.00.........$50.00 paid<br>
Thank You Cards.....................$15.00 Thanks Jen!!!!!!<br>
.............................Total........$65.00.. .......$50.00 paid<br><br>
Jewelry: $150 Due<br>
My Ring..................................$50.00<br>
His Ring..................................$100.00<br>
.............................Total .......$150.00<br><br>
Other: $40.00 Due<br>
Paper Lanterns........................$20.00<br>
Paper Fans.............................$20.00<br>
..............................Total.......$40.00<br><br>
.............................Grand Total..........$2,830<br>
............................Already Paid..........$623<br>
............................Due................... ...$2,207<br><br>
But, the food will be much less if I go with the dessert only reception.<br><br>
Thank you so much Ladies! You're such a huge help!!
 

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We did the desert only reception and it was so romantic and sophisticated... the food would have looked kind of cheap but for a couple hundred dollars you can do a huge desert reception from the best bakery in town.
 

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I loved my wedding. Our total budget was $3000, too, and we spend $1200 on pictures. I really, really love my pictures. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We didn't serve any alcohol at all at our reception and people were fine. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> . I think it's an easy place to cut if it's okay with you.<br><br>
We also had 5 layer cakes instead of a huge wedding cake. The bakery I use (the best in town--been using them for years) makes beautiful wedding cakes, but they don't taste as good as the layer cakes. I went with flavor. It was a good choice.
 

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Have you ever thought about having your wedding "sponsored"? Basically, you ask vendors to "donate" their goods/services in exchange for free advertising in the wedding program.<br><br>
My sister did this, and her (in my opinion over the top <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> ) wedding cost her $80.00 (And only because the local fabric store didn't want to dontate the tulle for her veil. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> )
 

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Oue wedding reception was a potluck. Everyone brought something and there was loads of food, plus enough leftovers for us to not have to cook lunch or dinner the next week.
 

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Our wedding cost less than $500. We went very simple. We only had 20 people invited and we just called them up and asked them to come <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We did have a professional photographer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
BIL video taped<br><br>
We had a sit down dinner after the wedding that my in-laws paid for.<br>
Dh rented a tux <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/drool.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="drool">, I bought a beautiful lace dress.<br>
I had flowers dh and our father had boutonnières (Sp?), moms had corsages.<br>
Sil decorated the reception dinner for us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
All I had to do for the wedding was pick my dress and flowers. Dh took care of everything else for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:<br><br>
Wedding are too stressful IMO and I think elopement is <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:
 
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