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Happy Monday, everyone!<br><br>
I got some rather sad news last night. My stepsister is pregnant with her second child (she's due 5 weeks before me, so she's around 10-11 weeks) and she's been so sick that she's on a feeding tube and bedrest. She is now staying at my dad and stepmom's house because she has a 2.5 year-old and she couldn't take care of him (her husband is a medical resident and works all the time). She was in the hospital for 4 days and was so sick and dehydrated that the doctors apparently considered terminating the pregnancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> She was also very sick with her first child, but nothing like this, and sadly she was sick up until the very end so it may be that she is not going to get any relief after the first trimester with this one either. I feel so sad for her and can't imagine how hard that would be. A friend here on MDC had a similar experience with her recent pregnancy, but now has a wonderful healthy baby, so I am just hoping my SS and her babe will get through all of this OK.<br><br>
Morning sickness just seems so counter-evolutionary! How are we supposed to grow healthy babies and provide all of those essential nutrients, vitamins, minerals, etc. when we can't keep anything down??<br><br>
In other news, I just realized yesterday that I may have finally found my calling in life: a doula! I've been doing research to hire my own doula, and was thinking about what an amazing and fulfilling job it would be. I'm currently getting my PhD because I've always wanted to be a teacher, but I've been feeling for the past year or so that I'm just not on the right path anymore. I haven't quit because I wasn't sure what else I "should be" doing, but being a doula seems like the perfect opportunity to be a natural-living advocate and an educator. I'd also get to spend my time educating myself about pregnancy, childbirth, parenting, etc. which I *love*! I talked to DH about it last night and he is totally supportive and said he thinks I would be great at it, so I'm actually getting excited about the prospect. Of course I would wait until I have this baby before completely committing to the idea, but honestly right now it feels like a huge devine epiphany I had yesterday. It just feels <b>right</b> and it makes me feel so alive and excited to think about the possibilities! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/coolshine.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="sunshine"> I'm definitely open to any words of wisdom from the doulas and midwives in our group.
 

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Hi everyone!<br><br>
Haven't gotten the chance to really participate in the weekly chats yet so here we go.<br><br>
Amy, so sorry to hear about how sick you sister is! That is awful <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> You're right, it does seem pretty counter-evolutionary! I'm glad she has some family support, and I sure do hope that it doesn't last throughout the pregnancy!<br><br>
That's great about possibly finding your calling! I would love to be a doula but I don't have any last-minute daycare for ds if I were called away in the night or at odd times- I don't have any family around. So that's pretty much out! Too bad because it is totally up my alley- like you said, fun to study something you're already really interested in!<br><br>
I have also been trying to figure out what to do with my life- I am a dietitian but it is not very fulfilling for me (I work in the medical setting so totally not about the areas of nutrition that I myself am interested in!) I'd love to study to be a lactation consultant (IBCLC) b/c you can do the study on your own, as you can fit it in and I could do that with kids and not need a lot of extra daycare. But I don't know what it's actually like working as one- I would definitely spend time with LC"s in the feild before going for it.
 

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Hi, everyone.<br><br>
It's gorgeous outside today and I've been working in the yard and took Maisie for a walk in the stroller and I really think it's helping my stomach feel better. I actually feel like doing stuff!<br><br>
Since we're talking about what we want to be when we grow up, I think when the kids are older I'm going to learn massage and alternative therapies for pain relief. I'd love to use these skills in hospice and nursing home settings. The end of this phase of life fascinates me and I'd love to be able to help people who are about to make that transition.
 

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Well, I've been starting my care provider search. I have been worried that I wouldn't be able to find anyone in my area willing to do a HBAC again (I had one with my second). But it looks like there are exactly two (maybe three) midwives that will attend a home birth after cesaerean. I have consultations with them on Friday and Saturday.<br><br>
The weather is beautiful here, and we would totally be out in it, but both of my girls have ear infections right now! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I feel so bad for them.<br><br><br>
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Well...I found out from my dad tonight that my stepsister and her husband have decided it is necessary for my SS's health to terminate the pregnancy. Even with a feeding tube, she cannot keep anything down, and at this point she has not had any solids or liquids for about 2 weeks. She can't even physically pick up her son. It is so sad, I just can't imagine having to make that choice.
 

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Amy - I'm sorry for your sister's loss. That must be such a hard decision to come to. Just heartbreaking. I hope her recovery is easy and that her health returns.<br><br>
I just got back from a consultation with a midwife. She was so awesome! We spent an hour and a half talking about everything. My dh was unable to make it because he had to work, but my mom was able to go with me. It was cool having so many generations of women in one room talking about babies and birth! It felt very powerful and spiritual, somehow. Anyway, I have another consultation tomorrow, and I am thinking she has a hard act to follow!<br><br><br>
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Oh wow! I'm so sorry. That is the first time I've ever heard of that happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
I think the key to me feeling this good this time is that I am not working outside the home and am not going to HAVE to either. My stress level is much lower, this child was wanted by both my DH and I and he is being much more supportive and helpful this time.<br><br>
I even got flowers sent to me today, for no reason other than to say thank you and hope I'm feeling better (I am sick with a cold and sore throat this week!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> It was so special!!<br><br>
I even commented today that I haven't gagged once yet and usually I am a gag-fest in the first trimester! Almost 9 weeks and nothing, so I'm hoping it will stay away!!!
 

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Hi all,<br><br>
Amy, that's just terrible about your SIL. What an awful situation for her to be in.<br><br>
Choosing a midwife is more dramatic than I thought My SIL had a bad experience at the birth center I picked out, and I am kind of worried that I will be betraying her if I go there after how they treated her. Meanwhile, I've been told that about three different homebirth midwives are the absolute best midwife ever, so go figure. I'm just so happy to have more choices this time around.
 

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Well, I just got back from the second consultation, and it looks like I really want to go with the first midwife I spoke to. So, it looks like I've found one! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I'm excited about it.<br><br>
Now, if I could just get over this darned cold, I'd be set! I'm congested, my throat is sore, and I'm getting a headache. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Yuck, I'm so glad warm weather is almost here!<br><br><br>
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