[lil_miss_understood]

Yay! I got to put it up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br>
Everyone's been so busy, I don't think I saw a weekly chat last week. Here we all go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[lotus.blossom]

I'm pregnant.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> But really, I did have a few minor aches and pains leading up to this realization, but yesterday as I tried 100 times to pick up the house I just couldn't bend properly, or sweep without a constant B-H contraction. And then I went to Home Depot with my DH and DS and huffed and puffed my way through the store. I contemplated standing on the end of the cart, it was that uncomfortable to walk!<br><br>
Gah! I'm only (a few days shy of) seven months!<br><br>
I do see the chiro tomorrow and then I am going to try to schedule weekly appts. I can't live like this. I think its a combo of sore pelvis, transverse baby, and some constipation.<br><br>
How is everyone else?

 

[the_lissa]

My morning sickness is worse lately.<br><br>
Going for a massage after I drop my daughter off at school.

 

[CookAMH]

How was your massage? I have a friend who will do a massage for me (I'll still pay her though) and I think that will couple well with my chiro adjustments. Speaking of that, I saw a new one last night and had a great appointment. I think it will really help my growing pelvic pain. It was a much better finish to one of the worst days I've had in a long time with work.<br><br><b>Anyone have to talk to their boss this pregnancy or in the past about not being able to keep taking on more?</b> I had so much shoveled at me yesterday, with a deadline of yesterday, after I took the morning off since I thought it would be slower. I'm an accounting supervisor, so it's audit time and year end closing time. I feel like I'm at my limit, and that I need to not work past 5 most days, in order to have the evenings to recoup, exercise, have our Bradley class and other life things. The big boss would like me to work later (just because not for any good reason just thinks accountants should work later) but I am extremely efficient in my work. I don't usually work LATE, but even staying till 5:30 or 6 throws the entire evening off as that much more is enough to wear me out more than I'd like.<br><br>
I also don't get up enough at work, don't drink enough, because I am so focused on getting all my work done so I don't have to stay late. I took on more responsibility in the fall and started supervising, but I'm at my peak and can't do anything additional. I know my new boss (new as of July) is very pleased with my work and has saved her a ton of headaches). I also need to train another guy in our department starting NOW so he can do the financial closing and other things when I'm gone after the end of April. Three more months, I know I can do it, I just want it to be done with good health and sanity, you know? Any advice would be appreciated.<br><br>
All that said, my BP at the chiro was 119/64 after a horrible day <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. I was pleased, after the needless alarm my last m/w raised.

 

[~Katie~]

Thanks for putting up the new chat thread!<br><br>
lissa - I hope your massage was wonderful.<br><br>
DH gets home on Thursday after being gone since Jan. 6th so I'm very happy to have him back. DS has been a nightmare and has been super destructive and hitting me, the older he gets the harder these separations are.<br><br>
In pregnancy news I'm heading for my ultrasound on Feb. 3rd and I have a mw appointment right afterward. I still feel pretty good but I definitely feel like this belly is taking on a life of its own, the other night it looked like a cartoon grenade was going off in there. I've been comparing my two pregnancies lately and trying to figure out what accounts for the huge difference between the two. With DS I was 25 pounds heavier but I worked out quite a bit and did yoga, I was in intense pain for most of his pregnancy and so tired and sluggish all the time. This time around I feel a lot better but I haven't worked out at all. I'm wondering if the yoga actually aggravated my joints and pelvis? I've gained about 20 pounds so far but I definitely don't feel it, I'm just hoping I can hold off on retaining so much fluid in my legs and arms this time around.

 

[CookAMH]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm wondering if the yoga actually aggravated my joints and pelvis? I've gained about 20 pounds so far but I definitely don't feel it, I'm just hoping I can hold off on retaining so much fluid in my legs and arms this time around.</div>
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That is an interesting question. I was told by my chiro last night that my lower body weight training should stop, that it's greatly contributing to my pelvic pain, same with certain stretches I do. Granted, weight training isn't yoga, but it's interesting nonetheless.

 

[Miasmamma]

I am having a massage on Thursday and I can't wait!!!! I'm not huge, just uncomfortable. I keep forgetting that I have to sit straight up or it hurts, so it hurts!! Other than that I'm just trying to finish off my NB diapers. I did find a lot a 5 brand new Thirsties covers for $50 on diaperswappers that I am thrilled about!! They should be here by Friday. Now I just have to decide if we are doing pins or snappies. I was thinking pins during the NB stage and snappies for the wiggly stages that follow!

 

[Smithie]

CookAMH, much as it sucks, I think any discussions of keeping normal hours, having a reasonable workload etc need to be completely divorced from the needs of your pregnant body. You're a supervisor, tell her it's about morale or work/life balance or some such jargon. Get other nonpregnant employees to make similar comments!<br><br>
The bias against pregnant employees who ask for some slack is totally out of proportion to the actual slack given, IME. If you visibly slow down now, it will still be talked about when your baby is two years old and you've been totally back to normal for ages.<br><br>
Sorry to be such a downer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Three more months, three more months...

 

[Smithie]

WRT pins vs Snappis, I found that dh ALWAYS got a tighter fit with a Snappi, even on a newborn.<br><br>
I went shopping for 1) a flattering maternity swimsuit and 2) a couple of comfortable bras last night. In case you aren't ROTFL yet - I also brought along my 2 y.o. and 4 y.o.<br><br>
Traget had NO maternity suits. The4y had regular suits. They had Plus Size suits. I wound up buying a regular tankini that billows strangely over my belly.<br><br>
Bras was a little better. The Gillian O'Malley nursing bras were actually not bad, and not too pricey. 38DD, wow!

 

[~Katie~]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">WRT pins vs Snappis, I found that dh ALWAYS got a tighter fit with a Snappi, even on a newborn.<br><br>
I went shopping for 1) a flattering maternity swimsuit and 2) a couple of comfortable bras last night. In case you aren't ROTFL yet - I also brought along my 2 y.o. and 4 y.o.<br><br>
Traget had NO maternity suits. The4y had regular suits. They had Plus Size suits. I wound up buying a regular tankini that billows strangely over my belly.<br><br>
Bras was a little better. The Gillian O'Malley nursing bras were actually not bad, and not too pricey. 38DD, wow!</div>
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I love snappis too, the pins don't get much love at our house.<br><br>
You are a brave woman for doing all that shopping with kids in tow! I need to go shopping for new bras too. I love the O'Malley bras, for the price they are excellent. I ended up finding my maternity suit when I was pregnant with DS on sale at Motherhood but I never really liked how the bottoms fit. I want to invest in some prettier bras this times around because I think it would help my self esteem a bit

 

[lil_miss_understood]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My morning sickness is worse lately.<br><br>
Going for a massage after I drop my daughter off at school.</div>
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Mine got better then worse, then better after hydration and seems to be slowly sliding downhill again. I take Ipecac most days and it helps but lately I've been finding I need to take it twice rather than once a day, and since I'm not sure if I *should* be taking it that often, I'm not taking it (except once in the morning). I have an appointment with my ND tomorrow and intend to discuss alternative treatments with him. The mws gave me Phenegran but it knocks me out and I wouldn't be able to deal with my 19 mo, and there's no one who can help me (MIL is at ICU with my SFIL, SIL has 4 of her own to deal with- that's the only friends/family I have here). For now, the Ipecac is keeping me able to eat and drink, though I know I'm falling behind on my liquids so I've been freezing ice and blenderizing it to add to all of my drinks. Strange how ice doesn't upset my stomach whereas water does.<br>
I've finally "popped" (started showing). DH looked at me yesterday and said "Oh good, you finally look pregnant." I was like "Gee, thanks honey." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We picked up some tummy sleeves/bella bands while in the city to see SFIL so I'm wearing those with my regular pants now, though I know I'm going to have to pull out my mat pants soon. No, I haven't been participating in the belly pics. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I'm so bad with taking belly pics- I always forget.<br>
DS1 started having some behavioral problems which we've finally agreed has to do with his soy intake (he's casein (dairy) free, wheat/gluten free and egg free already) so we're working on removing that from his diet now.<br>
And whoever wrote about their dc being violent lately, DS2 is the same way here as well. Can't seem to stop pulling hair, biting, hitting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">

 

[kdtmom2be]

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Yes! But I had a very understanding supervisor run interference for me from the boss, who was the source of the problem. I eventually ended up quitting the job after we had a falling out of sorts over my return to work arrangements after my maternity leave was up. Between my supervisor and I, initially, we were able to come to some agreement on my work hours and location (I worked from home for a few hours a week, increasing my working from home hours as I got more and more pregnant and proved that I could keep up with the workload). However, that was after the stress of the situation caused me to break out in hives and I ended up snapping one afternoon and leaving work and not going back for 4 days. They eventually paid it out as "sick" time.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">CookAMH, much as it sucks, I think any discussions of keeping normal hours, having a reasonable workload etc need to be completely divorced from the needs of your pregnant body. You're a supervisor, tell her it's about morale or work/life balance or some such jargon. Get other nonpregnant employees to make similar comments!</div>
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I think this is the best idea too. When does your year-end actually occur? If it's in the next couple of weeks, then I would be tempted to let them know that you are working harder than you would normally be expected to and longer hours and are willing to continue to do so until year-end, but that you would appreciate that they either pay you over-time or let you "bank" your hours and take an hour a day off when it is possible after year-end occurs until that "bank" of hours is empty. That may help you cope with it in the short-term, make you look good for giving a bit extra when needed, and give you a break when you may be needing it more than you are now, without bringing into play the fact that you are pregnant.<br><br>
As for the hitting toddlers, yeah, mine's started with that too. grrr. And the defiance! arg!

 

[~Katie~]

I think this weekend I'm going to finally start buying baby goodies. Our tax refund should be deposited on the 30th and I'm definitely looking forward to getting some new stuff. Kate Quinn is having their big once a year sale so I'm going to get lots of clothes, some new diaper stuff, and the carseats.<br><br>
My DH should be getting in after midnight tonight and I am soooo looking forward to it, maybe even getting to sleep in for once <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">

 

[CookAMH]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think this weekend I'm going to finally start buying baby goodies. Our tax refund should be deposited on the 30th and I'm definitely looking forward to getting some new stuff. Kate Quinn is having their big once a year sale so I'm going to get lots of clothes, some new diaper stuff, and the carseats.<br><br>
My DH should be getting in after midnight tonight and I am soooo looking forward to it, maybe even getting to sleep in for once <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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oh they are??? Is it listed on the site? Woohooo I will check it out.<br><br>
How long has DH been gone?<br><br>
Also plan to get a bunch from this place: <a href="http://www.basicbrilliance.com/ssonrom.html" target="_blank">http://www.basicbrilliance.com/ssonrom.html</a><br><br>
ETA: I saw the sale...let me know if you see any really great deals (like 60% off or close to it)

 

[~Katie~]

DH has been gone since the 6th, it will be really funny because my belly has definitely grown in size since he saw me last.<br><br>
The infant saques are $9 off and several of the short sleeve jumpsuits have a good discount as well. I think for now I'm going to get a few of the saques, some short-sleeve jumpsuits, some shorts, and some kimono tops. I need to get DS some shorts and shirts for summer as well and some new pants since he's outgrowing all of his. If you're looking for good deals on newborn essentials try American Apparel, there are co-ops on here every now and again for there as well.

 

[~Katie~]

If anybody is interested one of my co-op groups is running a 30% off presale for Bravado until the 2nd, PM me if you want the info.<br><br>
DH got home last night and DS woke up to him this morning and was confused. He would stare at him and look away, it took him about 20 minutes but finally he hugged and kissed him. The baby was rocking and rolling this morning so it was fun for DH to finally be able to see all the movement that has been going on.