Weekly Chat Thread 12/3-12/12

earth-mama · Dec 3, 2010

I thought I would start a weekly chat thread. 
 
I am super excited because we have our first appointment with our midwife on Monday!

Adore4 · Dec 3, 2010

Great idea, earth mama! Our first OB appointment isn't till 11 weeks, which is fine with me cos doctors make me nervous! Apparently, he's really lovely, but still... I'm hoping to have every second appointment with our local GP down the road, save a bit on driving the 40 mins to the OB/hosp.

Danielle283 · Dec 3, 2010

I need to get my butt to the Dr. so I can get a blood test. I can't make my first appointment till I get a referral, and can't get that till I get the test. I'm putting it off though because I hate needles!! Maybe Monday.

earth-mama · Dec 3, 2010

Adore4--doctors make me nervous too. I feel like I always have to be really on top of things--asking specific questions and such. I am seeing the same midwife we worked with for DD's prenatal and delivery. We did a homebirth and really liked it. I told DP that, barring any complications, all my future babies will be born at home! 
 
My midwife likes to start seeing her mom's right away, but I know that OBs and hospital based midwife groups often don't see their mom's until 10-12 weeks. I was just excited and really like my midwife, also since DD is still nursing I want to make sure I am eating adequate amounts of food <img alt="eat.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/eat.gif">

MovingMomma · Dec 3, 2010

Danielle, I still haven't gone in to my PCM to get the pg test & referral. (But I've never had to have a blood test--they've always just done urine.)
 
I'm having a homebirth w/a MW and I already have my appointment with them (called first thing to make sure I'd get a spot!), but I'm also going to do dual care. I did the same thing w/DD2 and all the appointments were a PITA, but I'm not comfortable showing up somewhere w/no prior care if I have to transfer at any point. Sure wish this state was more homebirth friendly! Hey, maybe we'll get the legislation passed before August!

BeantownBaby9 · Dec 4, 2010

I love chat threads, another way to blow my day and not work <img alt="joy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/joy.gif">
 
I made an appt with my OB for 12 weeks, so I will see the NP then, then b/c the appts are monthly, see them at 16 and 20 weeks and then be done with co-care, and move over to my MW. I am just staying with the OB until the U/S to make sure there's nothing holding us back from a homebirth.
 
I have one trust issue/reservation about the MW I want to go with, so I have an appt with her next Thursday to chat. I hope I like what she has to say and I can feel comfortable in her care. 
 
I feel sometimes like I am loosing symptoms, and its making me nervous. Beta or no beta, what do you girls think?

xmasbaby7 · Dec 4, 2010

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I'm having a homebirth w/a MW and I already have my appointment with them (called first thing to make sure I'd get a spot!), but I'm also going to do dual care. I did the same thing w/DD2 and all the appointments were a PITA, but I'm not comfortable showing up somewhere w/no prior care if I have to transfer at any point. Sure wish this state was more homebirth friendly! Hey, maybe we'll get the legislation passed before August!
 
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Wow, I could have written this myself! I met my MW last night and we discussed the midwife team. I will end up with 4 midwives if they all make it. One big estrogen fest. Can't wait! This time, though, I am doing my parallel CNM pre-natals sporadically the first 7 months and then stopping. I'll still be in the system should I need a transfer.

lovingmommyhood · Dec 4, 2010

Yay! A chat thread.

I'm so excited for this DDC. It's been three years for me since I've been in one! My DH doesn't know I'm pregnant so I need somewhere to talk about all things pregnancy.
 
My first appointment is at 12 weeks, I wanted to wait longer but oh well. We're using an OB this time as we moved and it's really our only option. Hope you're all enjoying the start of the weekend.

Stephaniqua · Dec 4, 2010

I wish I had something set up! I am moving to Wyoming in March and am hoping to do a homebirth, but have no idea how to find a midwife out there where I know no one. I think i may ask around on the tribe boards. I just found out today, and I think I will do some check ups at the health department vs getting a OB and then stoping after 4 months. I dont know, a lot to decide. I guess I should probably tell my husband first

earth-mama · Dec 4, 2010

Stephaniqua- Where is Wyoming? I am fairly certain that midwives for homebirths are not legal in Wyoming. I do not know the details on this, but live in Northern Colorado and have heard of other mom's having a homebirth with midwives from Colorado--they end up renting a place for the birth in Colorado or use a friend's house. Legislation may have changed recently in Wy, but just wanted to give you a heads up. There may also be midwives that you could work with, but then claim to have had an unassisted birth <img alt="shrug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shrug.gif"> Good luck!

ursusarctos · Dec 4, 2010

Hooray, another way to spend time not working! <img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif"> 

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I know what you mean... Will a beta help you relax? Is the stress of going in for it less than the stress of wanting to know? If so, then I would go for it.
 
Because DH and I are planning to leave for my parents' place in the US in 12 days I am not making any appointments until we come back in January, assuming I am still pregnant then. It will be just faith and symptom-watching till then for me. Bring on the morning sickness! Seriously, I would be glad to be throwing up every day for the whole first trimester. In a way I'm glad we're getting away because this way I don't have to go in at all if I miscarry, but on the other hand I'm also paranoid that I'll go in at 12 weeks and the baby would have stopped growing at 8 or something. On the other hand, I don't want early ultrasounds so it's probably good that I won't be around to just get them anyway because I am obsessing <img alt="wink1.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/wink1.gif"> I guess I am a little nervous about actually going in to the prenatal appointments too. Homebirth midwives don't do prenatal care here so you have to go in to the public maternity clinic like everyone else, and it makes me anxious. I don't like the institutional environment and I'm not looking forward to being pressured to get the nuchal fold test, which I already know I'm going to decline. Not to mention not being able to tell them that I'm planning a homebirth if I want to avoid a condescending lecture. Fortunately DH agreed to go in with me and I know he will support me. But anyway, that's still weeks and weeks in the future so no need to stress about it now!

Danielle283 · Dec 4, 2010

I'm not feeling pregnant today. Nothing hurts, not even my boobs. I have energy and feel great, and my jeans are buttoning just fine.

BeantownBaby9 · Dec 4, 2010

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I know what you mean... Will a beta help you relax? Is the stress of going in for it less than the stress of wanting to know? If so, then I would go for it.
 
Because DH and I are planning to leave for my parents' place in the US in 12 days I am not making any appointments until we come back in January, assuming I am still pregnant then. It will be just faith and symptom-watching till then for me. Bring on the morning sickness! Seriously, I would be glad to be throwing up every day for the whole first trimester. In a way I'm glad we're getting away because this way I don't have to go in at all if I miscarry, but on the other hand I'm also paranoid that I'll go in at 12 weeks and the baby would have stopped growing at 8 or something. On the other hand, I don't want early ultrasounds so it's probably good that I won't be around to just get them anyway because I am obsessing <img alt="wink1.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/wink1.gif"> I guess I am a little nervous about actually going in to the prenatal appointments too. Homebirth midwives don't do prenatal care here so you have to go in to the public maternity clinic like everyone else, and it makes me anxious. I don't like the institutional environment and I'm not looking forward to being pressured to get the nuchal fold test, which I already know I'm going to decline. Not to mention not being able to tell them that I'm planning a homebirth if I want to avoid a condescending lecture. Fortunately DH agreed to go in with me and I know he will support me. But anyway, that's still weeks and weeks in the future so no need to stress about it now! 
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you know probably not, b/c even a heartbeat isn't a guarantee, just better odds. I can't do anything to help or hurt it one way or another, I should just have faith its going to be ok. 
 
Man, I though europe was a lot more homebirth friendly. It is totally annoying to be the black sheep and stick out when you decline things. But like you said, weeks away from needing to stress about it
 
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that was me yesterday and thursday and it had me freaking out - but then today my uterus feels huge, I am tired, lightheaded, and was a little vom on the way home from the grocery. maybe in the next few days it will kick up a notch for you

Stephaniqua · Dec 4, 2010

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They just passed a new legislation, but they are not taking applications for liscensure until July 2011. Just read up on it last night. A hospital birth wouldn't be terrible, if I dont have to have an IV. I tore mine out last time while pushing, and I would not like to experience that again.

bookwormommy · Dec 5, 2010

I'm feeling so bloated and kind of crampy in my abdomen. I don't remember it starting this early last time. Not comfortable, but I guess it is reassuring. 
 
Have you all started telling people yet? I've only told a couple of my closest friends. I'd kind of like to keep it quiet a little longer, if my DD doesn't spill the beans.

Maurine · Dec 6, 2010

Weird. I quoted a bunch of things, but my replies disappeared...trying again... 

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I feel sometimes like I am loosing symptoms, and its making me nervous. Beta or no beta, what do you girls think?
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 I say Beta! (Although I've already had two since I'm in a fertility program.) Let us know what you decide, Mama.
 

 

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 How are you feeling today? Sometimes my symptoms come and go, too.
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by bookwormommy <a href="/community/forum/thread/1283344/weekly-chat-thread-12-3-12-12#post_16095134"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a> I'm feeling so bloated and kind of crampy in my abdomen. I don't remember it starting this early last time. Not comfortable, but I guess it is reassuring. 
 
Have you all started telling people yet? I've only told a couple of my closest friends. I'd kind of like to keep it quiet a little longer, if my DD doesn't spill the beans. 
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We've told parents and siblings, and I've told two close friends. We're trying to keep it secret for everyone else until mid-January (as long as my bloating doesn't get so bad that I look pregnant. I sort of do already!).

Danielle283 · Dec 6, 2010

Today I'm feeling good, but just not wanting to eat. Nothing sounds good, so I'm drinking smoothies and eating toast.
 
I've told all my friends. I don't live near family, so I have to call them all to tell and I'd rather wait till I'm a little farther along so I don't have to make 100 calls if something bad happened. I'll probably tell them on Christmas!

ursusarctos · Dec 6, 2010

So the day before yesterday in the evening I had a very sharp twinge in my womb area and then saw a little pink blood when I wiped. I was pretty sure that that was it, because spotting has always equalled either period or miscarriage for me. But yesterday only a tiny bit of brown spotting and today nothing so far. I am really wondering what is going on. I still feel wet-mouthed and queasy and my boobs are still sore... But that spotting really made me wonder and I am not terribly optimistic. Argh, now I am thinking I might just see if I can finagle an u/s before we leave. If it's a missed miscarriage then I won't have to tell anybody (the reactions of others are the worst). Sigh. Anyway, sorry for the bring-down - I hope you all are feeling very pregnant today! <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif">

BeantownBaby9 · Dec 6, 2010

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I have. our parents know, and all my girlfriends know, Phil told his 2 BFFs, waiting for callbacks from my closest cousins and then the early birds will know. I am actually really ok if we have a mc, so telling people it didn't work out wouldn't be as heart breaking as it was the first time. Everyone else will find out with my new years resolution FB post. "...to gain 50lbs, and loose it all except for about 8lb 14oz"
 
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I say Beta! (Although I've already had two since I'm in a fertility program.) Let us know what you decide, Mama.</div>
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I have to call my doc anyway today about my boob, so I may as well ask for the beta. 
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i have friends that have spotted throughout the first tri and all has been ok. I hope everything is fine. maybe get that us if you can before you hop on the plane. 
 
the only part of my boobs that is sore is the stupid spot I had an ultrasound on last month. Its REALLY sore from yesterday to today. I am going to call my doc and just make sure she thinks its normal bc of the pregnancy hormones.

BeantownBaby9 · Dec 6, 2010

oh and PS, GO PATRIOTS!!!!!

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