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It is a strange Memorial Day weekend for us. DP and I are exhausted and have had to force ourselves to do housework/yardwork. MIL came for a quick overnight and left this afternoon. DP's father called early this morning from NC to tell us DP's grandmother passed away during her sleep.
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DP's grandmother was my favorite relative. She was a positive person and a genuine person. She was suffering from Lou Gehrig's disease, though, and everyone agrees that she didn't deserve to suffer. We're now planning a long road trip to attend her funeral. And cancelling any plans to travel later in the summer ...

On the up-side, DP and I met our homebirth midwives last Tuesday and loved them. CPM called Friday to let us know that my urin & blood labs came back perfectly healthy. That is nice to know, considering I won't be hearing a heartbeat until at least my next appointment 6/21, once I am 14 weeks along. I am still hungry constantly and have mild nausea throughout the day. Compared to my past three pregnancies, I am thankful that it is mild! I have also been bloated and unusually gassy. Ugh. But these symptoms are also signs that point to a healthy little bean, so I am blessed.
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So sorry for your loss, BennyPai, and for that of your DP. Wishing you peaceful hearts as you go through this time of transition and grief.

Glad you had a good experience meeting your midwives!!

I was a total crank today, and I'm blaming it on the grape (soon to be kumquat! LOL) who resides within. Moody, sensitive, worse than I ever get with my period. My MIL said something sorta mean and bossy to me, and the tears welled. She's usually a peach, but does have this mean, bossy, opinionated streak that comes out sometimes. I usually deal with it on a pretty even keel, and just know that's the way she is, but today was another story. I've gotten over it now - dinner did a world of good - but man, I hope I'm not in for tons more of this crabbiness. It's so unlike me!
 

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I know what you mean, Heather!! Sometimes I've been really cranky lately too (you should have seen me when our waiter brought what I did NOT order on Saturday night!) but more often I'm just able to cry at the drop of a hat. I often listen to NPR on my commute and practically every story - whether it was sad or happy, would make the tears well up.

Ah, hormones.
 

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I bought diapers today!! I picked out babykicks and got some bummis wraps to cover them. I only got a dozen because my mom works at a second hand store and occasionally they get like-new cloth diapers in. If she somehow doesn't manage to scrounge more up for us, at least I'll have a day/ day and a half supply to start with. We pick them up on Wednesday.

My stupid ex in-laws emailed about their next visit... asking if they could take the kids on June 19th. Usually they just ask a week in advance, so I was wondering what was up... looked at the calendar... Father's Day! I get that they're probably P.Oed that their son doesn't get to see the kids, but he opted out! That was his choice. He lives on an island several hours away and doesn't even respond when the kids email him. One would think the grand parents would be happy that at least someone else stepped up to the plate and is doing a seriously kick ass job at being their grand kids' dad. It's obvious that the kids are thriving, happy little people and it's obvious that he's had an extremely positive impact on their lives. I don't expect that they'd ever verbally acknowledge it or anything like that... but can't they BACK OFF of Father's Day? Anyway, I calmly emailed back that it's Fathers Day so the kids are spending the day with SO, hopefully this will be the last year they have the nerve to ask.
 

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We survived our road trip with my ILs. Their clothes were completely covered in cat hair, which I am allergic to, because they let their cats sleep in their laundry baskets of clean laundry. They kept the thermostat in the car at 78. Nothing like oppressive heat and allergens in the car for 20 hours. They got a little bent out of shape when my 2YO DD would not stay in her seat during dinner - after a 10 hour car ride. Yeah, that's NOT a reasonable expectation for a two year old, sorry!! Anyway, we all lived.

My MW appointment is in less than 3 hours and we will hopefully hear a heartbeat. *anxious*
 

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Sarahtar - hope your appointment went well and you got to hear the little bean!

So, my mom made me a BUNCH of quinoa (just plain) for me to eat so that I can get some protein in me. Right now I'm eating it with just some salt on it, which isn't exactly tasty. Anyone have a good/easy way to eat it?
 

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I was floating in a pond yesterday and apparently sunscreened before I put my suit on and under were my shorts were is burnt, ouch. And the heat and humidity is killing me. But other than that, it's all good.
 

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oh sorry about all the issues with In Laws! Boo!!

I'm doing okay, over the strep which is awesome. BUT dumb allergies are back, so I'll have to take something today because I'm feeling pretty miserable. The heat wave we are experiencing is pretty rough, it's over 90 here.. there was no adjustment period, just winter to summer. The heat just sucks all my energy away.. I almost fell asleep during Bible study this morning.. :(

I'm getting ready for one of my best friend's bridal shower this Saturday. I'm super, super excited about it!
 

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I usually eat quinoa in a cold salad or hot with salt and butter.

No heartbeat today. I'm feeling much more zen about this pregnancy, though, than about any of the previous four. I think this being my first pregnancy without any bleeding is helping. We decided to just wait and try again next week. Sigh. Though I don't think I'm going to be exactly super relaxed this week, I am feeling pretty proud of myself for turning down the offer for an ultrasound at the MFM's office. An ultrasound isn't going to change anything or affect anything. My stress level isn't high enough to warrant getting one just for emotional health. I'm ok.

(I don't necessarily expect anyone to understand that comment about being proud of myself. Fresh from two miscarriages, a new diagnosis of MTHFR, my mother's death, and the deaths of 3 or 4 other relatives within a 6 or 8 week period of getting pregnant with DD, I had expended my ability to roll with the punches, and had no more rolling left in me. I had at least two early US with her, for bleeding and dating, because I just emotionally could not handle it. Her pregnancy was terrible for me emotionally, and knowing that I'm in a much, much better place this time around is really nice.)
 

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(I don't necessarily expect anyone to understand that comment about being proud of myself. Fresh from two miscarriages, a new diagnosis of MTHFR, my mother's death, and the deaths of 3 or 4 other relatives within a 6 or 8 week period of getting pregnant with DD, I had expended my ability to roll with the punches, and had no more rolling left in me. I had at least two early US with her, for bleeding and dating, because I just emotionally could not handle it. Her pregnancy was terrible for me emotionally, and knowing that I'm in a much, much better place this time around is really nice.)
No I get that. Since long before getting pregnant, I've always been adamant that I only want one ultrasound, late enough in the pregnancy to determine placental position (for homebirth purposes) and gender if we can tell. And then I had spotting early in pregnancy and all of a sudden all of your plans go out the window and all you want is that reassurance. I ended up not getting an ultrasound for it, but on my way to the dr's office I was totally game, and was even planning on asking for one. I managed to calm myself down enough that by the time she did an exam and came back with an "all looks ok" affirmation, I had decided I didn't need/want one after all. Don't discount how hard it is to talk yourself down when you're stressed about your growing baby. Good job mama.
 

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First time around penicillin, which they seem positive worked but that I was reinfected. This time I'm on a high dose (2 pills 2x a day) of amox
 

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Thanks for all of the great quinoa ideas! I tried it with some raisins, agave and cinnamon yesterday and it was really good! I tend to not make it (when I feel good) because I like it toasted before it's cooked and I'm lazy about that. :)
 

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Sorry for your loss BennyPai..

I have never cooked with quinoa...I don't even know what it is but people always talk abotu it - I will have to try!

I am super exhausted becsause DH's brother and kids visited (over night) this weekend and they are WILD and my BIL does NOTHING to help...so basically I got no rest on my 1.5 days off from work...then when I got to work Monday (after driving an hour in 105 degree weather with no AC) there were rediculous lines and angry people (I manage at a waterpark) and all sorts of other excitment that I cannot mention...but, it was a really long hot day (spent most of it outside, standing). I finally got a day off today, but, of course I didn't rest...instead I took the kids to the lake and then visited with my brother and sister (and brother's girlfriend) afterwards for a couple hours, made a picnic dinner, took DS1 to T-ball...and I am FINALLY relaxing before I go work another 10hr day tomorrow and of course DH is working early tomorrow so that means he won't be helping me get the kids to daycare...I just want 1 day of rest! Ok, rant over lol...

On the pregnant front I am mostly feel good - other than being tired... and I am super excited because I get to buy a maternity dress for DH's and I's anniversary date this weekend...I rarely buy stuff just for me, so I am pretty excited about this!

Oh and I am 12 weeks today :)
 

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Anyone else feeling like there is nothing in the world that fits them? I recently bought some maternity clothes online, and they arrived today. I've been in hippie skirts, leggings, and whatever loose fitting shirt I can find, for weeks now. So, I just tried them on, and STILL, nothing fits!!! They are so super cute clothes, and they will look fabulous on me when my belly is much, much bigger, but I need something to wear NOW!!! I guess I have to get my lazy butt off the computer and actually try clothes on, otherwise I will be spending the next 3 months in my PJs. I did get one skirt that fits, and it is really really cute, and I am going to wear it when I pick up DF from the airport in a week and a half.
 

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My belly fits everything, in my normal shirts you can't tell in some of them, and in others it's like 'hey that's cute', but my normal bottoms are pretty much unwearable. Most of them have been packed away already.

It sucks because my belly needs the room up top, but the thighs and legs of the maternity pants are huge on me. It looks so sloppy. And I'm cold allllll the time, so it's not really warm enough for dresses yet here.
 
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