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<p>Hi!  I'm sure I'm not the only one but I am about to hit my 35 lb 'limit' (of the 25-35 lbs I 'should' gain in pregnancy) and I have 24 days left until my due date.  I'm guessing by the time I go into labor I'll be up 40 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight.  What's the deal with that anyway?  I know I probably could have been eating better but there's nothing magical about 35 lbs, right?  I was pretty tiny before I got pregnant (size 3 in juniors) but still in the range of 'normal', why would I have to gain just as much as someone who started 20 lbs heavier (who is also in the range of 'normal')?  It just doesn't make sense to me.</p>
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<p>So... what are your thoughts about the 'appropriate weight gain range'?</p>
 

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<p>i think its all relative and that everyone is different.</p>
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<p>this pregnancy, i actually lost weight during the first 8 weeks because of horrible morning sickness. i'm 5'9 and my normal weight is 135. now at week 21, i'm 155. i've gained 20lbs, and believe me, seeing those numbers hasn't been easy.. especially since im only half way done! the thing is, i'm a vegetarian, i don't eat junk (usually), no sodas or anything like that, i walk everywhere (we live in the city) and i'm a runner/yoga buff so i know the extra weight isn't because i've just said "to hell with it, im pregnant".. i'm still wearing a size 2-3 (maternity) but the numbers on the scale keep going up. i'm convinced that i'll surpass the 25-35lb mark at the end of this pregnancy but im trying not to worry about it too much. the only sucky part with gaining alot is having to work harder to take it all off in the end.</p>
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<p>DP has decided that when I have to weigh myself, he'll look at the number and tell the midwife what it is.. i won't look lol. i don't want to know!!</p>
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<p>i've also read that some women gain a bunch in the beginning and then it tapers off toward the end, others are spaced out, others gain a teeny bit in the beginning and the rest at the end of pregnancy.</p>
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<p>i gained alot with my first. i was 125 prepreggo and at the end of pregnancy i was 170. but i dont remember if i gained as much so soon.. </p>
 

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<p>With DS... I gained 50 pounds and lost 30 within the first couple weeks he was around.</p>
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<p>With DD1... I gained 45-50 and lost 30 again.</p>
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<p>With DD2... I gained 20 and lost 15 so far at 6 weeks.</p>
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<p>Honestly, I do not see the amount gained in pregnancy to be important at all, rather the weight gain trend. A sudden large gain or loss can be cause for concern... but a steady increase of the same amount over a long period of time? Oh well. </p>
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<p>I think what we need to be more concerned about is being sure that the weight we gain is healthy weight and not a byproduct of excessive overeating, eating nothing but junkfood (in the absence of food aversions), or lack of being active. And I am sure yours is healthy weight.</p>
 

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<p>I'm at 35lbs with 5.5 weeks to EDD, so I'm technically "maxed out", lol.</p>
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<p>Personally, I'm more invested in listening to my body than following any rule.  At least to a certain extent.  Last week, I had no appetite at all, and had to push myself to eat decently.  This week, I'm ravenous, and have had to push myself to make my large portions as healthy as possible.</p>
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<p>In the past, I've gained 70+, 60+, 50-ish, and 40-ish.  All of my babies have been healthy.  The smallest baby was with my largest weight gain.  I usually lose most or all of the weight within 6-8 months (minus the back-to-back pregnancies).  My blood pressure has always been excellent (100/60-range).</p>
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<p>I'd never recommend gaining 70lbs, but I do think it's ridiculous to obsess over charts.  We're individual women, not robots!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">I think what we need to be more concerned about is being sure that the weight we gain is healthy weight and not a byproduct of excessive overeating, eating nothing but junkfood (in the absence of food aversions), or lack of being active.</div>
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<br><br><p>ITA!</p>
 

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<p>I've gained anywhere from 19lbs to 45ish just depending on what my body needed for that pg. I don't watch the numbers on the scale, I don't weigh myself regularly during pg, maybe once towards to end to see what it is. Focusing on the numbers does no one any good. Now the larger weight gain of mine was rough on my body (I tend to be quite small as well), and I am still struggling with the last little bit of weight 18 months later. He was a larger baby for me, almost 9 lbs but then again the pg where I only gained 19 lbs gave me a larger baby then the one where I gained 35 lbs. </p>
 

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<p>I'm pretty convinced that a lot of times the body knows what it needs for a healthy pregnancy. With my 1st, I ate great, drank tons of water, ran until 24 weeks, then walked until just over 37 weeks when my SI joint luxated and it felt like a knife was being shoved into my back with every step. I gained 35 lbs.</p>
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<p>With my 2nd, I had a toddler who never slept, a DH who was working insane hours, and minimal outside help-the only drink I could tolerate was Coke, I ate normally but not extra-healthy, didn't work out, only took walks intermittantly. And I gained....35lbs.</p>
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<p>I also remember being told-women who are younger and/or on the heavier side will/should gain closer to the 25lbs, while those who are older and/or on the lighter side will/should gain closer to the 35lbs. I was 35 with my 1st and slender, so this fit for me at least.</p>
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<p>I was back to prepregnancy weight pretty quickly with both-about 15 weeks for the 1st and by 11-12 weeks with the 2nd. I am hoping for any future kids that i gain a bit less as now that I am approaching 40 I anticipate it being harder to get the weight off again.</p>
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<p>But I think you're doing great! Don't stress and enjoy these last weeks. And who knows? You may end up losing a few pounds as baby grows and takes up more room in your stomach.</p>
 

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<p>I'm 34 weeks and have gained 28 lbs (128 to 154). What's a bit troubling about that is I'm only 5'1" and I seemed to have gained about 3 lbs in the last week alone?? Hopefully, this week is a fluke. I'm already noticing that climbing up stairs and walking more than 10 feet is taking more effort than usual.</p>
 

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<p>With my first I gained 50 and ate like crazy.  I seriously ate everything in sight.  I lost 20 lbs of it quickly and then it took me another 18 months to lose the rest.  After that, I decided I was not going to do that again.  With my second, I had turned vegetarian and just generally ate healthier and exercised.  I gained 25 lbs...and lost 15 of it immediately.  I lost another 5 within the next year and still held on to the last 5 or so, but I think that is mostly because I am still nursing.  This time around, I'm just eating healthy, but when my body tells me.  I'm too tired to worry about numbers right now.  <img alt="smile.gif" class="bbcode_smiley" src="http://files.mothering.com//images/smilies/smile.gif"></p>
 

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<p style="margin-top:0px;margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;">I gained 40 lbs with DD, and lost it all in the first 3-4 months, most of it in the first couple of weeks. that was my healthy weight gain. my mom gained 40lbs with each pregnancy except the one she started heavier, and that one she gained to the same weight she gained to with all her other pregnancies. if you're normally a size 3, then i would think your normal weight is just a few lbs heavier than mine (I started as a size 1-3). the 25-35 lbs is what most women gain as a healthy gain, but some of us just need to gain more or less as our healthy pregnancy gain. </p>
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<p>I gained 40, 45, 45, 45 & 50 pounds. I have gained 28 pounds at 26 weeks this time. I always lose all the weight and end up back to my size 2 by about 7 months. I don't stress about it. I eat all the good things I am supposed to, and then some of the things I am not supposed to. I also have large babies ( two have been 9.7) I am comfortable with my weight gain although some people are bothered by it.</p>
 

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<p>Normally I'm about 140 Pregnant I get up to 200  I always lose the weight quickly without effort.  I suppose its the breastfeeding, baby wearing and chasing after the other children that does it.  </p>
 

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<p>With ds I started at 165 at 5'8", gained 47 lbs, delivered 8 days overdue and then lost 20 lbs immediately and then slowly lost the rest and was 5-10lbs within my normal range by the time ds was 1 year. I started this pregnancy at 154, I am 17 1/2 weeks and have gained 9 lbs. With ds I too gained slowly until about the mid-point and really didn't see larger gains until after finding out the sex, so, so far this pregnancy is following a similar trend, but I started about 10-11lighter, so hoping to stay under 200lbs overall this time around. I do know with ds i was gaining a lot the 7-8th month, i got lectured, weight double checked on the scale etc, but i think that while i could have done without an extra 10 of the pounds, i don't think it was anything excessive overall for my overdue 9 lb baby and my large frame, it was harder to get the weight off, but the point is, i did get the weight off, so i think don't think you have much to worry about.</p>
 

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<p>And of course when I resign myself to nearly putting the scale away and forgetting about it... I stop gaining (and just a fraction away from the 35 lb 'limit').  Whatever.  <span><img alt="orngtongue.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif"></span></p>
 
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