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(I know that this topic has gotten a bit touchy in the past, so I hope it's okay that I post about it. It's been on my mind.)<br><br>
I am not quite 19 weeks. I've gained 13 pounds already. 10 of it in the past month. I got a very mild, very kind lecture from my midwife yesterday about it. I am somewhat horrified that I've gained so much so quickly. I already weigh as much now as I did at delivery with my first DD. I'm not super worried about losing the weight pp, I am a pro at losing weight while breastfeeding, but now I feel anxious with every bite of food I take. I don't like feeling this way while pregnant. I want to be healthy and not gain more than another 15 pounds, but I'm worried that that's not a realistic goal for me. I do not want to be on a "diet" at this time in my life, you know? My midwife was very clear that I need to nip this in the bud. I'm just at a loss as to how. I'm finding that my brain is going to wild places like "cutting out dairy or gluten" as an easy way to control my calorie intake. I don't know if that's the right thing to do, though. I don't want to deprive the baby of any nutrients. And I don't want to be hungry all the time!<br><br>
So...I have two questions. One is, if you don't mind sharing, how much weight have you gained so far? and two, how are you managing your weight gain (if at all)?
 

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I think I have gained around 8 lbs? Maybe more. My appt is next week and I will know for sure, but I know last appt I was up 5, and that was 3 weeks ago.<br><br>
I was sick last week, and I think that put a kabash on everything. I wasn't eating as much and it was just those couple days that kind of shrunk my stomach. I don't feel nearly as hungry now as I did before. Could be a coincidence, but I think before I was just so excited to be able to eat again after the MS that I went a little overboard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Now I feel like my appetite has normalized again.<br><br>
Do you feel like you are already eating healthy? Just making good choices? - I always have a rule of no more than 1 dessert a day, and I think it helps keep me from snacking unhealthy. Anytime I feel like I am being unhealthy, I make it a point to make sure every meal I have has at least one serving of vegetables (including breakfast!).
 

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I think I have gained about 10 lbs, but I am not sure. Well, I lost about 7 lbs in the beginning, but have since gained about 10 lbs for a net gain of about 3 lbs. Mine has been pretty recent gain and I blame it on Thanksgiving and not going to the gym that week. I am back at the gym and back on track eating so hopefully I won't gain a lot that fast again.
 

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I've gained 3 lbs as of my last appointment, but I think when I go back next week I'll have gained about 7 more.<br><br>
My biggest recommendation for weight management would be to be really poor. Ha.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I've gained 30lbs at 25 weeks & with few, rare exceptions eat a whole real foods diet. My midwives are pleased, especially because they know I have an ED past & also know I gained 80lbs with my daughter, so this is normal for me! She was born at 42 weeks 7lbs 4oz - no preterm labor, big baby or difficult labor (it was AWESOME). I did have "prolonged" labor, but to be fair - she was turned posterior! I have a hard time believing that her position had anything to do with weight gain. At this point in my pregnancy with my daughter I had actually gained more, but I also started out underweight.<br><br>
For the record - I did NOT start out anorexic this pregnancy. I was a healthy 130, Muay Thai kickboxing & strength training 5x/week. My 30lb gain is still not alarming anyone (heh - also not kickboxing or strength training, so there you go!)<br><br>
It makes me REALLY sad that your midwife is hung up on it - weight gain recommendations came with the 20th century in America (along with other atrocities in childbirth). Women in the 1930's were told to gain 15lbs total!<br><br>
I'm not saying it's healthy for everyone to gain 100lbs while they're pregnant, but if you're eating well, gaining quickly (or not gaining quickly) and have no other medical indicators of something "wrong," then I think it sucks that any provider would trigger a woman to feel shameful or unhealthy by focusing on possibly arbitrary numbers.<br><br>
Here are some of my 'symptoms' of ED:<br><br>
Cutting out food groups / eating only "safe" foods<br>
Shame eating<br>
Panic after eating<br>
Avoiding food / not cooking dinner for my family / cooking only foods/food groups I wont eat<br>
Not wanting to buy certain foods/food groups or eat certain foods/food groups in front of others<br><i>Compulsive</i> exercise in relation to a restricted calorie intake<br>
Spending time I don't have counting calories<br>
Spending time I don't have in front of the mirror<br><br>
Everyone is different, but if your mind is thinking "crazy" things, take that seriously & if you feel courageous enough - TELL YOUR MIDWIFE.<br><br>
I'm focused on how HEALTHY I feel this pregnancy, even when compared to my first pregnancy (starting out a low weight). I'm moderately active, super limber, strong & eating well. I also know how quickly weight sheds after birth & breastfeeding and plan to resume my normal exercise routine at some point in 2010 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I feel better than I have in years - I feel strong & am doing everything I can to keep that strength into hormonal postpartum. I'm sending you lots of strength too! Keep eating well & beat those evil voices off with fists & elbows!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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20+ lbs. At almost 19 weeks I had gained 19lbs. I only weigh myself at my appts, since my scale isn't the same as their's. Neither my Peri, nor midwives have batted an eye.
 

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Thanks, Carley. I do also have a history of ED, so that is why I am extra freaked out and I know that's why my mind goes to the "crazy" place so easily and why I'm taking this so much to heart. I honestly didn't think that 13 pounds was that much. I mean, I'm supposed to gain 25-30 for the whole pregnancy, I'm half done, yep, that sounds about right to me. I dunno. I don't like to weigh myself. Maybe I should start doing that at home once a week.<br><br>
I also know that I've been eating mostly whole, real foods and, honestly, not a lot of them, so I don't get this sudden weight gain at all. (Well, I do have a butter habit...we probably go through a stick a day in my house! I could probably cut down on that!)
 

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I was up 13 pounds at, I think, 18 weeks. My next appt is next week, so we'll see what the scale says then. I thought the 13 pounds was a lot, but the midwife said it was just fine.
 

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I'm 22w6d, and I've gained seven pounds -- but four of them were in the last three weeks. I'm not sure how I've kept it to such a minimum, but I'm pretty sure I will start gaining more soon. I started gaining regularly with DD around this stage in my pregnancy, too.
 

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I'm still down about 10 lbs(at 120 right now). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sulkoff.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="tiptoe"> I know it's the opposite concern most people have, but I promise it gives me plenty of anxiety, so i hope it's not too much of a faux pas to talk about it here. I'm still sick 2+ times a day, with the occasional sting of bad days where I am back to not keeping anything down. I'm finally gaining back some weight, but ti's slow going, and it's just as easy to lose a lb as it was to gain it back, so i only weigh myself at a friend's house, when she has the scale out.<br><br><br><br>
I only gained 15 lbs with my girls, BUT I was on a very strict and limited diet due to diabetes/gallbladder issues, and i do NOT think that eating that kind of diet just to stay within an arcane weight gain recommendation is smart or healthy. It boggles my mind that anyone is still using that recommendation, actually. We were struggling to find ways for me to put on more than 15 lbs with my girls, without sending my sugars or gallbladder into a tizzy, so a healthy woman trying to stay below that is just... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"><br><br>
Edited to add: I'm not on that diet right now. Right now I on on the "eat what sounds good because then hopefully it will stay down" diet. This may change if I have a gallbladder attack, or I feel the familiar rush and crash of a glucose spike, but I just wanted to clarify that.
 

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I have no idea. The scale at the Y said I gained less than 10lb last week, and then that I lost 5lb this week (which I did NOT)...I think it's broken. I don't own a scale. With each pg I've gained a different amount of weight, but I've always ended at the same weight. I think I go into labor when I hit 180 lb.
 

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I'm up almost 30.<br>
I gained a lot before my thyroid problem was diagnosed, and I've also just been having a hard time knowing how much to eat. I lost a lot of weight (80 pounds) in about a year and a half before I got pregnant, so I got used to slight under-eating, and I really don't know how much my body really needs in a day.<br><br>
I'm eating when I'm hungry, eating good foods, and going for walks/jogs. I also go to gyms in 2-week spurts whenever I get a "2-weeks-free" pass. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Now if only I could buy frozen vegetables without my daughter pointing to the Ben+Jerry's and saying "You know you want some."
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks, Carley. I do also have a history of ED, so that is why I am extra freaked out and I know that's why my mind goes to the "crazy" place so easily and why I'm taking this so much to heart. I honestly didn't think that 13 pounds was that much. I mean, I'm supposed to gain 25-30 for the whole pregnancy, I'm half done, yep, that sounds about right to me. I dunno. I don't like to weigh myself. Maybe I should start doing that at home once a week.<br><br>
I also know that I've been eating mostly whole, real foods and, honestly, not a lot of them, so I don't get this sudden weight gain at all. (Well, I do have a butter habit...we probably go through a stick a day in my house! I could probably cut down on that!)</div>
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If you think weighing would help you be healthy & reduce your anxiety then by all means - for me it would go from once a week to once a day to after every meal, so that's a no go! I have to keep it pushed under our clawfoot tub! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> If you don't like to weigh yourself, then why do it now?<br><br>
I'll probably weigh myself around 3 months postpartum (you know - after the baby/blood/water/breastfeeding reserves go down) to get a gauge... so I don't end up below 130 again!<br><br>
Anyway - I was just on babycenter & came across these threads:<br><br><a href="http://community.babycenter.com/post/a19319545/weight_gain" target="_blank">http://community.babycenter.com/post...45/weight_gain</a><br><br><a href="http://community.babycenter.com/post/a19327965/weight_gain.._kindof_depressed.?cpg=1&csi=2087991585&pd=-1" target="_blank">http://community.babycenter.com/post...87991585&pd=-1</a><br><br>
Seems like weight gain issues are pretty universal issue with women - it just blows my mind that providers think it's beneficial to make it more of an issue when we're growing a person!
 

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I also have weight "issues". I have thrown my scale away. I let my midwife know I will not be weighing on her scale either, and she was okay with that. If I had to guess, I'm probably at the same point as Carley, but it is MUCH better for me not to know. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
~Suzanne
 

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11lbs so far at 21wks 5 days... my last pregnancy I gained 20lbs.... hopefully I slow down on the gaining (I'm over weight to start with, so I don't really need to gain much, if at all)<br><br>
that said I'm not going to stress over it... just chose better foods <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for the links! I think if I weigh myself it would give me a measure if control, or at least knowledge of how in doing, rather than being blindsided at my mw visit, as I was yesterday.<br><br>
Laughingfox, I have thyroid issues too, so I can relate. I gained like 25 pounds in the year leading up to this pregnancy because of them.
 

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I am up about thirty pounds at 19 weeks.<br><br>
My OB told me point blank he doesn't care how much I gain, as long as the babies are healthy.<br><br>
I am trying to limit sweets and such, but I figure if I am hungry, I am going to follow my doctor's advice and eat.<br><br>
Will I be happy about having to lose 50 lbs after this pg is over? No, but I keep reminding myself that I will be far more unhappy if either of the babies is not healthy and more calories could have helped that.
 

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Im 19 weeks and have gained 5lbs. I did lose 7 though, so thats 5lbs up from my 'normal' pre-pregnancy weight. Its starting to pile on pretty quickly now though.
 

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10 lbs at 20 weeks for me.
 
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