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so how much weight have you gained so far? i'm 15w, and have gained 11lbs accoriding to mw's chart.<br><br>
i'm asking because i just got home from my appointment, and mw really p***ed me with the weight issue. i guess i've been sensitive about it anyway. i've been losing/steady weight for so long, it's difficult to see the numbers increase *even though i know it's normal and necessary*<br>
she said something like "we like you to gain about 10lbs by 20 weeks, and you're still okay" well, i laughed, because i gained 50 lbs with dd, even though i exercised, and ate well...i was just hungry *constantly* with that pregnancy...insatiable even. so i assume i'll gain about that again. i calmly told her that and she responded with "well, you were doing something wrong, we'll change that." !! what was i doing wrong? eating? so then i got defensive and kind of angry, to which she responded that she was just worried because of the increased risk for "birth trauma" i told her that my previous mw (who i loved, but has moved) never was concerned, and i had a wonderful birth. she did apologize for making me mad, and dh said i did a great job of "recovering myself" for the remainder of the appointment.<br><br>
again, i have been feeling sensitive by how much weight i've gained so far, but really i'm exercising, eating fairly healthfully (this last week we did eat out a lot, but that doesn't account for most of the weight) and my appetite has been pretty normal...nothing like with dd so far. but still, everything stays put on me. i'm not concerned for my health or the baby's health...just my clothing size.<br><br>
so, ladies, i'm looking for some reassurance. i really don't want to go on a diet just to stay within the 25-35 lb "normal" range.<br><br>
i'm having other issues with this mw's office and considering switching...it seemed so much easier with dd...is it just that i know more now?
 

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I've gained about 10lbs so far. I gained about 40 with ds.<br><br>
I've read somewhere that women tend to gain approximately the same amount with each pg, no matter what they eat or how much they exercise, etc. I think it's sort of genetically predisposed. Unless you're having health concerns, I wouldn't stress about a 50lb weight gain. That seems completely normal to me.<br><br>
Also, these 25-35lb recommendations are based on having a 7lb kid. If you look at siggies and birth stories around here, it seems that many of us are having kids weighing much more than 7lbs. Your body is designed for this. I think that your body is doing what it's supposed to. If you're making mostly healthy food choices (don't be a teetotaler), then I think you'll gain what's right for you.
 

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I personally believe if the weight gained is on a healthy diet it doesn't matter if there is a 10lb gain or a 70lb gain your body knows what is right for you. In our society any gained weight is considered bad even in pregnancy.<br><br>
I had a friend who's doc warned her if she didn't lose ALL her pregnancy weight after she had her baby (she had a similiar gain of 50lbs) she would NEVER lose it after another pregnancy. What and idiot!?!<br><br>
I tend to be a typical gainer of 25-30lbs and lose it directly after. I haven't gained any so far however I tend to put on about 20lb the first year of nursing and lose it in the second year of nursing. That is what I need and everyone is different. I have been warned about that gain from docs but seem to have little problem losing it when the time is right.<br><br>
So take heart I think you are doing great!
 

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I've gained at least 10 pounds so far (I'm 16 weeks)...I think by my MW's scale it's closer to 15 (I weigh with my clothes on there though).<br><br>
I gained 55-60 pounds with DD and I imagine I'll do about the same this time around.<br><br><b>"well, you were doing something wrong, we'll change that."</b><br><br>
Yuck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Hrm, -15 lbs. Yep, I've lost 15. Stopped steadily losing about two weeks ago, but have yet to gain any back. Lost about another half ound slowly over the past two weeks.<br><br>
I'm kinda envious of all you ladies gaining.<br><br>
I'm definitely not starting out underweight--after losing 15 pounds I'm still at 186, but I'm still worried.<br><br>
Still not finding food appealing, and even when hungry finding it hard to eat enough.<br><br>
It might be neat to come out of this weighing less than when I started, but I feel guilty thinking that, especially since my diet is not that great. I'm not one of those women who stopped eating junk and began eating a spectacularly wonderful whole foods diet when I found out I was pregnant! I ate kinda' so-so before and slightly better now.
 

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I lost 16lbs up front because of severe m/s, but I've gained 2 back since...so, I guess total, down 14.<br><br>
I'm still in the stage where food is just..ick.<br><br>
I get hungry, root around for something tasty, usually can't find anything I'm really in the mood food, settle for something...eat a few bites, get disgusted, squish the food around and push it around my plate...feed leftovers to the dog...wait a few more hours...get hungry..root around..<br><br>
Lather, Rinse, Repeat lol
 

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I'm -7lbs myself. I do this every pregnancy, lose several lbs at the beginning and sometime after 20 weeks I gain a few. Last time (#2) I gained about 15... I think my first pg I gained more like 20-25lb but I didn't exercise at my OB's recommendation and I sat a computer all day at work.<br><br>
Thankfully my midwife doesn't weigh me (I weigh at Curves before my workout)... IIRC last pg after 20 weeks she'd ask me just to be sure I wasn't having a sudden huge surge of weight gain but otherwise she doesn't give a fig how much you gain. I like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
PS- one of the books I've been reading lately mentioned that weight gain in the second trimester is more important that gaining weight in the 1st trimester if that makes you feel better tie-dyed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I have gained 2-3 lbs total. I lost a few pounds at the beginning and now that I'm not puking anymore, I'm starting to gain it back. Right now I'm 4 or 5 lbs up from last months doctor's appt.<br><br>
I gained 65 lbs with my first pregnancy. But I had a terrible terrible diet and hardly any exercise at all. I'm trying to do better this time, since I didn't start out skinny in the first place. It's funny. I remember before pregnancy, I thought I was fat when I weighed 145 lbs. So I lost 20 lbs and looked pretty great. Of course, right then I got pregnant!!! After baby I would have felt svelt at 145! Oh well.<br><br>
I've kind of enjoyed being able to eat, since I was so sick before, that I've gone a bit overboard. Now that I'm seeing the weight starting to come on, I'm trying to eat healthier and get some exercise, although I'm not doing so good on the exercise front so far. After this semester should be better though, because I won't be so busy with school stuff.
 

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I lost about 10lbs or more at first and I am still in the neg by about 5-6lbs....this is totally different for me bc with dd by this time I had gained a few pounds and with ds I had gained like 5 lbs so I am happy but it's wierd.
 

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hmm...last time I checked (last week) I had gained about nine lbs. I'll be 15 weeks tomorrow.<br><br>
I gained 90 with my first (from 110 to 200!) (lost it all within six months, yeah breastfeeding!)<br><br>
And about 25 with my second and third.<br><br>
I exercise about 4 times a week, but I am defn'ly eating way too big portion sizes and sneaking in sugars.
 

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Olivia, the amount that you've gained so far doesn't seem excessive to me, nor does gaining 50 lbs in the pregnancy. Often those who gain more weight are carrying a lot of water too. I believe that midwives should be reassuring you that your body is doing exactly what it's meant to do unless there are blatant red flags going up about your health. If you are concerned about it, concentrate on food choices - eat lots of fruits and vegetables and mostly whole, unprocessed foods. Easy to say, I know. But it's true that one's body tends to self-regulate more easily on whole foods than on Oreos <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> .
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Ultimately, your health is <b>your</b> job. Follow your instincts. I would not go on a diet while PG, though I try to eat healthy foods once I get over the horrible nausea stage (when I eat anything I can manage).
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At 15 weeks I've lost 5 lbs so far due to nausea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> . But my appetite has improved a bit - still pretty picky about food though. I'd rather be in your shoes knowing that my baby has been receiving decent nutrition. I'm slightly overweight so maybe it's my body's way of cutting some of the excess.
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I tend to be a typical gainer of 25-30lbs and lose it directly after. I haven't gained any so far however I tend to put on about 20lb the first year of nursing and lose it in the second year of nursing.</div>
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I gained 25 lbs the first time and lost it all right away. But I then gained weight while nursing and was still carrying an extra 10 lbs after 2 years postpartum <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: . I would much rather gain a lot while PG then lose it all while nursing!
 

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I'm another loser. I had lost about 10 lbs, but I'm now within 3 lbs of my first prenatal visit.<br><br>
My last 3 pregnancies I gained upwards of 50 lbs. This time I'm hoping to gain less because I'm 50 lbs heavier to begin with! I discussed the weight loss with my OB, and he says he would only be worried if I was the 100 lbs I was in my first pregnancy. He said he wasn't trying to sound rude, but I have more fat stores this time for the baby to work off of if I have trouble with nausea. He thinks I'll be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by 20 weeks.
 

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As of last week at my mw appt - I had not gained anything yet. But, I was really ill and nauseous until recently. SO....the past week I've been eating like crazy - sooooo hungry. Especially like cream cheese <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I have a feeling that the next appointment will not be a no gain appointment!<br>
(I'm 15 weeks now).<br><br>
Also, I too am overweight - so not worried about loss or no gain. Just want to be healthy -<br><br>
I remember with DS I had a particular month where I gained a lot (and I was doing aerobics 4 times a week and yoga 2 times a week back then) - and the Medwife I was seeing said...."ohhhh are you eating a lot of junk?" - I was so offended. Overall - my entire weight gain was 25 - 30 lbs and I was not overweight with that pregnancy. and that pregnancy I was sooooo careful of everything I ate - lots of fresh fruit and veggies, watched sugar and sodium and no caffeine etc. I was the model pregnant patient. Ohhhhhh still makes me a little angry I guess! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I just changed from one Dr. to a midwife. the scales showed an eight pound difference in one month, making it a total of 12 lbs gained.<br><br>
At home? I have gained 7 lbs between 6 and 16 weeks. It feels steady, but I am worried cause I have EXTRA STORES of FAT! hahahah I think I will do my own monitoring, just to know what number I started with.<br><br>
For those of you who have had a few children: at what phase of preganncy did you gain most of your weight? Just wondering!
 

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I have been gaining precisely a pound a week. I am 14 weeks now, so 14 lbs is my gain so far.<br>
I gained 36 lbs with my daughter, and delivered her at 41 weeks, so im thinking this time around ill probably gain 35-40.
 

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thanks for all the replies! isn't it interesting the wide range of weight gain so far. i guess that really is what "normal" is though, a wide variety that is the right thing for each individual.<br><br>
like i said, i gained 50lbs with dd, but it was completely gone by the time she was 8-9 months old. i lost a little more, so i was actually nearly 10lbs less when i got pregnant this time than when i got pregnant the first.<br><br>
dh and i were discussing this more at dinner tonight. he mentioned that he has not gained anything in the last few months, and we've been eating nearly the same things...so that leads me to believe that although my diet and exercise hasn't changed much, somehow the weight is just "sticking" to me now. i know i'm gaining a healthy amount, that i need...it just really, really irritated me to hear that i'm doing something wrong, when i *know* there isn't really much different i can do, except maybe starve myself, which i am unwilling to do. incidently, my mother gained more with each successive pregnancy...25 with the first (she was actually forced to diet by her dr.) and 100 with the fourth. so genetically, (as someone mentioned) i am predisposed to a lot of weight gain in pregnancy. i'm going to try my hardest to forget my mw's remarks.<br><br>
yeah, right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Same here. I just don't ever want to eat. Any my cravings are for things like soup and salads. I'm -13 from my PP weight. I've gone from normal weight to skinny. I look awful and I had +4 ketones in my urine at my last midwife visit. Plus, my uterus is a little behind in growth.<br><br>
At this point I'd be thrilled to have an appetite and be up in weight. I'm seriously worried.<br><br>
Don't worry about how much weight you gain. If you're eating healthfully and listening to your hunger cues, your body is gaining the amout that is right for YOU.
 

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I lost about 11 Ibs and now have gained about 2.5 back.<br><br>
With my dd I lost enpugh weight that when I had her I weighed less than when I got pregnant. Made it easy going back to my pre-pregnancy clothes, but I don't forsee that happening this time. Must be a boy???
 

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Wow, this is such an interesting thread! And doctors tend to act like all pregnancies are the same... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
At my 12 wk appt I had gained 3 kilos, so almost 7 pounds. I didn't have m/s the 1st trimester and was HUNGRY all the time. Not to mention the fact that I was spotting and not allowed to exercise at all.<br><br>
My gyno told me that the rule of thumb in France is a 9 kilo gain, which comes to slightly less than 20 pounds! And she warned me not to gain too much the first few months, since most women tend to gain the most in the 3rd trimester.<br><br>
So I'm afraid to weigh myself now, although I should, just to brace myself for the stern talking-to I'm sure to get at the doctor's office next week.<br><br>
I personally think that asking me to gain less than 20 pounds to create a 7-9 lb baby is ridiculous, especially since I am NOT a waif-like French woman, but from hearty (ie wide) welsh peasant stock! Plus, we eat really well, I prepare from scratch 90% of the food we consume, we don't eat cakes and chips and fast-food, we do eat lots and lots of fruits and veggies and very little fatty cheese. So I think if I'm gaining weight, it's weight my body needs. (That said, I've recently been treating myself to a mini-Twix after lunch. What can I say, I'd literally been dreaming about Twix...!!)<br><br>
Related <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: : Being pg here stresses me out maternity-clothes-wise since of course things are designed for the waifs. Thank god for my mom, who's shipping me some Liz Lange stuff from Target! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I personally believe if the weight gained is on a healthy diet it doesn't matter if there is a 10lb gain or a 70lb gain your body knows what is right for you. In our society any gained weight is considered bad even in pregnancy. ..</div>
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I agree with you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I gained 60 last time, I did not eat junk or anything, that's just what my body decided to do. When I'm not pregnant, I weigh right around 125 no matter what, and when pregnant for some reason my body decided to weigh 186. No matter, it all fell off through breastfeeding and it wouldn't bother me if it hadn't, either. My mom did the same thing with me (her first pregnancy).<br><br>
So far I have gained about 10 lbs, at 15 weeks. I'm not worrying either way, just trying to eat reasonably healthy things.
 
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