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<p>At my appointment today, my weight seemed to have taken a big spike (compared to my last appt 5 weeks ago). I started off at 5'6" 147 lbs and am already up to 175 lbs. I felt that I was a fairly healthy weight when I first got pregnant. I wasn't petite and tended to be more muscular/sturdy. I wore a size 8/10 clothing. I am 38, soon to be 39 years old</p>
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<p>Sooo...my total weight gain so far is 28 lbs. <span><img alt="greensad.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/greensad.gif"> I am 28 weeks and 3 days. The nurse who measured me today said that I am measuring several weeks larger than my due date. I do not seem to be retaining water, my ankles and hands are not puffy at all. I passed my glucose tolerancy test. The only thing getting bigger on me is my belly and boobs...everything else is the same size.</span> I have noticed that women in my family tend to get huge bellies when pregnant, so I think some of this might be genetic. Also, my husband is an extremely tall man, nearly 6'7." The men in his family tend to make large babies. Husband weighed close to 11 lbs at birth.</p>
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<p><span>I feel discouraged and bad about myself. The nurse was lecturing me about "avoiding fast food" and "canned vegetables." I was trying to explain to her that I never eat fast food or canned vegetables. I don't eat red meat, white bread, junk food or whole fat dairy products. I haven't even really changed up my eating habits since I got pregnant, except for drinking tons of fat free milk and snacking on stuff like almonds and fruit or cheese.</span></p>
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<p>A normal day of eating for me is:</p>
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<p>Breakfast: A bowl of raisin bran with skim milk/ or a couple of hardboiled eggs and some vanilla yogurt with berries.</p>
<p>Snack: Almonds & a clementine</p>
<p>Lunch: Almost always something vegetarian or with chicken in it that I've made myself. Usually something like chicken vegetable soup, or chicken curry with rice or veggie enchiladas.</p>
<p>Snack: A few cubes of cheese</p>
<p>Dinner: A giant green salad with grilled chicken on it.</p>
<p>Snack: A few spoonfuls of low-fat ice cream or a banana or some yogurt.</p>
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<p>I drink skim milk, lots of water and herbal tea all day long. Once in awhile I will eat a brownie or some corn chips.</p>
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<p><span>I admit that since winter has arrived, I get very little exercise. Before I got pregnant, I used to commute to work on my bike. I also used to walk quite a bit every day, and now that the</span> sidewalks and streets are caked with ice and snow, I haven't been getting much activity. I try to take the stairs at work. I am having quite a lot of lower back pain.</p>
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<p>Should I be freaking out? Is there anything different that I can be doing? What do other preggo ladies do for exercise in the dead of winter?</p>
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<p>Sigh</p>
 

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<p>Oh, mama!!  Come over to the most recent weekly chat and you will find mamas who have gained "lots" and mamas who have gained "little" who are all eating tuns of CAKE!  </p>
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<p>I think this weight gain thing is really troubling at least in the way that they seem to be suck on this average amount they want all women to gain.  That's GOT to be BS!  How can we be all different shapes and sizes and still expect us all to gain weight in pregnancy in the same way?!?  Grrr!   </p>
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<p>I also hate that nurses, doctors and midwives seem to make assumptions about what pregnant women are eating based on their weight gain.  Why can't they just ask what we're eating before jumping into some lecture?  </p>
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<p>Your diet sounds AMAZING to me.  I wish my diet was 1/2 as good as yours!!   Of course, I'm no expert on prenatal nutrition and/or pregnancy weight gain but I wouldn't change a thing if I were you.  </p>
 

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<p>I agree with the PP, first off, months 5 and 6 usually afford the most gain, my ob AND my mw will tell you that, most women gain a nice chunk during these months.</p>
<p>Secondly, esp for a 1st time mama, weight gain tends to be about a pound a week for the pg, ending at 40lbs, and sometimes there isn't anything you can do about it.,  Of course this means that the first 4 weeks will be made up during some other weeks.</p>
<p>It doesn't sound like you need to worry at all, some of us just gain, no matter what ((hugs)).</p>
 

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<p>Don't be so hard on yourself.  It sucks to watch the scale go up like that I know.  I did it the 1st 2 times and swore I wouldn't this time but I am gaining a ton of weight yet again.  Although- I don't feel like my eating was out of control the other 2 and this time I'm definitely earning every pound!!  My biggest thing is that I am VERY active when not pregnant and not so much when I am pregnant.  I gained over 70 lbs the first time.  50+ the 2nd (I never lost it all from the first) This time I am up about 30-ish. I'm just over 28wks as well.  Before I got pregnant this time I was almost back at my pre-pregnancy weight. (My girls are 5 and 6) My midwife with the first pregnancy used to tell me I was eating my way to a c/s.  It sucked.  But I didn't have a c/s. In fact, I had pretty easy deliveries.  Everyone does pregnancy differently.  I gain a lot, I have big babies, DH and I are both pretty big people.  (pre-preg I am 5'8" 165; a size 11/12) He's about 6'1 200lbs. SO I gain a lot of weight when I'm pregnant.   I'm not letting any of that get me down this time.  I'll deal with it all after but I"m enjoying growing my baby and eating the cake right now!! </p>
 

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<p>I'm not an expert but I don't think you "should" be freaking out, although I know it's hard not to. Some people just gain more, and it was presumptuous of the nurse to assume you are eating badly. Your typical diet blows mine out of the water, health-wise!</p>
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<p>I was almost the exact same dimensions as you pre-preg. 5'6 and 147 with a fairly muscular build, size 8-10. Except, over the year before i got pregnant I put on about 10-15 pounds out of nowhere (less physical activity than I had had). So while I haven't gained a ton yet since my BFP (I think I'm between 165-170 right now), I count that 10-15 pounds I'd put on beforehand, since it was above my usual weight at which I feel healthy--the total gain isn't too far off from you. I think some of these weight measurements seem really subjective, and how healthy you eat and how healthy you were beforehand seem like they should be way more important than a pound measurement.</p>
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<p>Sorry you're feeling bad. It's a little much for me at times, but I have found Jennifer Louden's <em>The Pregnant Woman's Comfort Book</em> helpful--she has a section on weight gain and self esteem that made me feel better when I was feeling fat and ugly.</p>
 

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<p>Your diet is way better than mine, and whether I've gained more or less than you is immaterial.  My midwife doesn't even weigh me.  She just measures my fundal height.  I try not to weigh myself more than once a month, so that I don't obsess about it.  I understand where you're coming from, but keep telling yourself:</p>
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<p>Women are different shapes and sizes and every pregnancy could be different (even for the same woman).  There's no magic number of pounds to gain, and no proof that if you gain more than "average" it won't come off after the birth [or that you'll lose it easily or have a "better" birth (whatever that means!) if you only gain a little].</p>
 

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<p>Oh mama, try not to freak out too much. As the PPs have said, everyone is different. I think some moms just gain more during pregnancy than others. It really sucks that traditional medical folks make such a big deal out of pg weight gain.</p>
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<p>I gained 70+ with both my previous pregnancies, and as much as I swore I was going to be different this time, i'm on track to gain nearly as much this time. I started out 5'6" and 155ish, pretty sturdy and muscular build, and am now at 190, so 35# and I'm about 27w. If I manage to stick to the "recommended" gain of a pound per week in the next 13ish weeks, I'll end up at about 60#. Both times before I lost most of the gain within the first year. My kids are big (9#4 and 9#10) but birth has been easy, 15min or less of pushing each time. I don't know if they are large because of my weight gain or some other reason, but I definitely don't believe that big baby = c-section or even a more difficult birth.</p>
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<p>I think your diet sounds amazing. If that's a true representation for the type and amount of food you eat, I don't think you have anything to worry about! What about your elimination habits? I tend to struggle with regularity while pregnant, and I honestly think that accounts for part of my weight gain. All that stuff has weight, and it adds up. I tried to tell my OB that during my first pregnancy and she poo-poo'd it (pun intended LOL) but I think it makes a difference.</p>
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<p>I wouldn't worry either. Do your best and don't stress about it. I've never gained less than 40 with any of my babies. This time I've gained 30. I've worked really hard on eating right and keeping active and it doesn't seem to matter. A friend of mine told me I was "all belly" today and told me it didn't look like I'd gained anything at all. My dr told me not to worry too. I usally lose all but 15 or so of the lbs when I have the baby. Just do your best!</p>
 

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<p>I've been feeling the same as you only, sometimes my diet sucks and I haven't been exercising like I feel I should. So, just saying, I understand. I agree with PPs though; each woman is different. I gained close to 60 lbs with my first pregnancy and I started out overweight. Though, I'd have to say I WAS unhealthy that time. With my second I gained only 25 lbs, but I was quite a bit overweight that time. This time I started at a much lower weight than my previous pregnancy - actually in a good BMI range for me finally and I'm already up 17 lbs. Most of it I started packing on just recently, so it's piling on fast. I'm hoping I don't end up as big as I was with my last pregnancy (better than my first but still.) But, I can't stop eating. So, I say, oh well. </p>
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<p>You sound like you are eating well. I also wish I could eat as well as you. Keep up the good work and try not to worry. </p>
 

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<p>Since you started out at such a healthy weight I really wouldn't worry.  Most women lose the weight easily while BFing.  Keep eating healthy and don't stress.</p>
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<p>I am 5'7" and started my 1st pregnancy at 184 (about 25lbs overweight) and then gained 56lbs.  I got down to 187 before getting pregnant with #2 and gained 45lbs.  This time I started at 196 :( so I'm really trying to be careful (surprise pregnancy right after I started trying to lose the last of the baby weight... perfect timing.  lol).  I'm 26 weeks and have only gained about 15lbs but I tend to gain the most near the end.  I have PCOS and it is very hard for me to lose weight.  I have to do low carb which I don't like to do with a nursing baby under 18 months or so. </p>
 

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<p>Hormones change metabolism.  You might need to eat more fat, your body might think its starving because you are using so much extra energy.  When your body thinks its starving it stores weight.  But honestly, you gain weight when you are pg.  A lb a week is not bad.  It drives me nuts that care prodivers automatically think that women are eating junk food just cause we either weigh more to begin with gain a lot while we are pg.  I was just accused of this recently myself and I eat a lot like you except I don't drink milk.  I was very offended.  As if a woman couldn't gain weight for any other reason than it must be because she is shoving fast food in her face all day.  I really wouldn't worry too much about what you are gaining right now.  I know thats SO hard, esp when you have someone in "authority" making you feel bad.  Keep a food diary and show it to your nurse.  At least you will feel good about your choices and you can shut up that nurse.   </p>
 

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This is a great idea!!</p>
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<p>And even if it doesn't help with the nurse/doctor, it may help your mind rest at ease, by assuring you that you're eating an appropriate amount. And of course, if you are inadvertently eating too much, even if of good foods, you'll be able to see that too. Sparkpeople or babyfit are both good places to keep track of things online. Now that I think of it, I should do this myself. I feel like I'm not eating very much but maybe I am without realizing it.</p>
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I've gained nearly 40lbs (I'm 27 wks). I'm not concerned as I gained 50 lbs with each of my previous pregnancies. I'm not even weighing myself when I go to the midwife because I trust my body to gain the weight it needs to.<br><br>
I don't think your husband's size has anything to do with the size of the baby. I'm 6 ft and my ex is 6'4 and weighed 13lbs at birth. My babies were 6'14 and 7'1. They were skinny at birth but packed on a lb a week for about the first 6 weeks (I think I had breast cream!). I even weighed more than my kids at birth (7'11). I think your body designs a baby the right size for you to birth (in most cases anyway).<br><br>
Don't worry about the weight gain. Just breastfeed and get active after baby is born.
 

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<p>I just found out I might have hypothyroidism. That can make it difficult to lose weight and a little too easy to gain weight. You may ask about it at your next appointment to see if it might be an issue for you as well.</p>
 

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<p>I'm 26 weeks pregnant and I have gained 26 lbs so far.  The nurse practitioner that I just saw made some comments about it.  I gained 50 lbs during my last pregnancy and then lost 60 lbs.</p>
<p>For this reason I am not concerned this time.  I suspect that I will gain anywhere from 40-50 lbs this pregnancy and will enjoy breastfeeding my LO and watch the weight fall off again.</p>
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<p>This is a good read.  <a href="http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/id68.html" target="_blank">http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/id68.html</a></p>
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<p>Brewer diet is very important during pregnancy and all the midwives I have ever dealt with want to make sure that a pregnant woman gets 65-70 grams of protein a day for your blood and kidney support.</p>
 

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<p>I am so glad that I read this!  Your diet sounds good to me, and your weight gain is certainly not excessive.  I tend to gain a lot with each pregnancy and I do think that it's largely genetic.  I had lost all of my weight from my last baby (born 2007) in 2009/2010.  I was feeling really good!  We moved and I got a bit sloppy with the eating and had gained back about 10 lbs or so, but I still felt at a healthy weight.  For the first 3 months I was STARVING (not usual for me) and I did eat a lot--although it was all very good, healthful, whole foods--meats, vegetables, eggs, cheese, yogurt, etc.  By this point (28.5 weeks) I have gained about 40 lbs.  I was starting to get very depressed about it, but my midwife looked at my chart from last time and I had actually weighed quite a bit more at this point.  I do usually lose most of the weight within 1-2 years, and I am very healthy and had fairly easy births.  Reading this had made me feel not so alone.  I keep thinking that people must think I am just pigging out on unhealthy foods, when truly I am not!</p>
 

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<p>I'm very thankful for this thread too! I really wanted to gain 20-35 lbs tops but I as think I said earlier I've gained about 32. I am eating well and exercising but I'm hungry all the time. I'm just trying to do my best! Usually on these threads people are complaining about a 10-15 lb gain. This makes me feel better! </p>
 
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