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I keep having dreams that I have cheated on my dh. I have never done so. I would never do so! In most of the dreams I don't even get to experience the adultery, only the guilt. Even when I actually get the fun of dreaming about sex, it's never with anyone I know or like in real life, just some random dream person--and sometimes it's even a random dream person who looks just like my dh! But mainly I don't get to dream about adultery, just about having the guilty feeling that I have already done it. In fact I am so certain in my dream that I have already done this that I often wake up confused!<br><br>
I have been with my dh for, I think, nine years? Almost nine years, married for four.<br><br>
What do you think this means? Sometimes I wake up really upset and anxious.
 

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Captain, i have the opposite dream, where it is my husband who cheats, usually with some cheap looking dirt between the toes dirt bag. and i am so angry and outraged, i use terrible language....and it feels so real I am certain my subconscious is trying to tell me something.<br><br>
I find the dreams unsettling and maybe a reflection of our fears, not desires.
 

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Yes, that's right! I have had a lot of dreams in my life in which I yell at people and wake up with my heart pounding. I used to have dreams about my dh leaving me. I often have dreams that I am looking for the baby. (Oh man, it's so good to co-sleep when you have anxiety dreams.)<br><br>
I am going to try to set myself a condition that if I am going to dream that I am unfaithful, the dream had darn well better contain some explicit sexual content for me to enjoy, and at the same time be less realistic about the guilt part!
 

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A couple of vaguely-related comments/questions.<br><br>
When my first was born, I used to have horrible dreams about people killing her and my wife and I was unable to prevent them. One assumes these were about my general fear of not being to protect/provide for them. I guess I'm some sort of cave man. Eventually I dreamt that I became a jedi, and then during those dreams, I would whip-out the light sabre and save the day. I cam to enjoy those dreams, really.<br><br>
Speaking of the dreams and the sex, I recently had a very erotic (in fact, wet) dream about a good friend of mine's girlfriend. Now, she's cute and pretty cool and all, but I have never day-dreamed about her or anything like that. I thought it was weird. I have told neither my wife nor my friend--I assume that is the standard protocol.
 

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Ever since dh and I first started dating, I've had dreams where I knew I had a boyfriend or a husband, but I didn't know who he was. In the dreams I am always trying to remember, but can't. A variation I had recently was dreaming that I was having sex with a man who had my high school boyfriend's face and body, but my dh's personality. (They have the same first name, but aren't anything alike otherwise.)<br><br>
I think the dreams mean that dh gives me such a sense of peace and stability, I don't *need* him in order to feel good. I don't know if that makes any sense though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 
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