Well, I guess I'm having a miscarraige

I'm so sorry It sounds like you're still in shock.

Please do call the midwife just to check on things. However, everything you've described sounds very normal. I'm sure you know that if you're running a feaver, the bleeding becomes severe (wetting a pad every hour), or the cramps are more than you can talk through to call the midwife imediately.

In the mean time, please make sure to take good care of yourself. I noticed in your signature line that you're still BF. That's great! It may be a bit uncomfortable to BF right now, but it will help your body move thorugh this better. Also know that your body desperately needs to keep hydrated right now. Make sure you're drinking pleanty of water. You may also want to try red rasberry leaf tea. Try to eat well and take in lot's of leafy greans.

How are you feeling otherwise? I know emotionally it may be hard to sift thorugh what you're feeling now. Please know we're here to listen.

I did call the nurse yesterday and she said that the beeeding should pick up in a few hours and then taper off like a normal period. But the bleeding really hasn't picked up. It is moderate but full of clots, except that I don't bleed into a pad at all, just when I sit on the toilet. And I have no cramps and pain now and haven't since about 2am and it was never bad enough for pain killers. Is this OK? I feel horribly sad and worn down. I just keep bleeding and bleeding bright red blood but it never seems to change in heaviness. Today is day 2. Hoe many days do I have tod o this for??

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Remember that miscarriage is different for every woman just as birth. For some it goes quickly and easily, for some it takes longer. I know that's not the answer you were looking for. I wish I could offer you something more concrete.

My miscarriages were very similar to what you're going through. A few times I found out I was pregnant because I was having a miscarriage. The cramping and heavy bleeding usually lasted 3 days, then I would bleed for 1 to 2 weeks after.

The cramps getting to the point of needing pain meds, isn't unusual at all. If it get's to the point that pain meds don't help, then you need to make a phone call.

You're bleeding is a bit odd in that it's only happening when you go to the bathroom. Pay close attention to your body right now as you're at a slightly highter risk of urinary tract infection.

Try rest with your feet up and make sure you're drinking a TON of water. Something I've found soothing for cramping is to fill an old sock with rice and warm it in the microwave (about 1-3 miniutes) The rice get's warm and mushy and retains the heat for a long time. It feels wonderful on the lower back on abdominal cramps.

Most women can go through a miscarriage naturally without medical intervention. However, pay close attention to your body and don't hesitate to call the midwife again if you're concerned.

Take care, I'll be thinking about you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Don't take red rasberry leaf tea until the m/c is over. It is used to prevent uterine contractions. After the m/c I definately recommend it as it is good for uterine health and healing.



Jessica