i just wanted to chime in with some hugs and to let you know you are not alone! i am planning for a homebirth. both my parents are MDs and i keep getting the "you are killing your child" comments. literally. at my baby shower this past sunday, my mother went around to all the women and told them how i wasn't getting an ultrasound either and was putting baby at risk (she thinks i am ahving twins. i think i am just short-waisted and where else is this baby going to go?!). i just keep telling myself "bubble of peace, bubble of peace." and it's a shame really because i do not tell them about any of my midwife appointments or baby movements. they are really losing out on this. you have to do what you feel most comfortable with. i salute you!!!