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we've decided to adopt from China. Hopefully 2 girls. I have 2 boys and can't wait to get started. We are planning on the entire family going over to China to pick up the girls. Of course we have no referral and havent applied yet. We just decided yesterday. LOL So hopefully this time next year I'll be the mama of 4!! Any words of wisdom from China moms?
 

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Welcome and best of luck!!!!<br><br>
I am a mom of 3 boys and a China beauty adopted last April. One family in our travel group was referred twins...they are doing great but definitely keeping their parents busy!<br><br>
The only think I can think of right off the bat would be to try to take someone along to help with your boys, like a grandparent or friend because the trip can be very intense and grueling, esp if you are referred twins. There is also no way of knowing how your new daughters will take to you. The family w/twins in our group actually had a rough 1st week, and they had no other children with them.<br><br>
That said, I actually did not travel myself, my dh and oldest ds went while I stayed home with the younger 2. We didn't have anyone to go with and I didn't feel comfortable leaving the younger ones for 2 weeks. So, my info. is kind of 2nd hand.<br><br>
Well, enjoy your journey! Looking forward to reading your updates!
 

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Tigeresse. I guess this is a pretty slow board. Hope we can get it moving some. I'm so excited and yet still have second thoughts. As in maybe we should adopt here instead. I've always felt China but for money's sake sometimes I think maybe we should look into here too. Man it's going to cost alot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Sometimes too I think well if we went with another country we'd get them younger as well. So I guess here I sit with second thoughts running through my head. Of course we've not signed paperwork or anything. i guess I'll feel more sorted out when we do. I guess I'm just venting. Thanks for listening.
 

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We are considering China if we adopt one, but it seems from what I have read that getting a female sibling group just doesnt happen.. that if we wanted two at once from china we'd have to adopt two non siblings. I have a few agencies I am narrowing down between if we go with China. Let me know if you hear differently, if we are trying to get two at the same time or get a sibling group.<br><br>
We are also considering Russia, but not sure what agency to go with if we do. I need to make a big excel chart to weight the pros and cons.
 

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Dinade,<br><br>
Don't forget you get a $10,000 tax credit (not sure if that's for each child, or for the total adoption). That was a big deciding factor for us. Also, domestic adoption isn't necessarily cheaper than international. I think it can actually vary by quite a bit. You can, however, adopt a newborn domestically, but not from China. The youngest in China is probably about 9 mos. Our dd was 10.5 mos when she came home. Maybe you could attend one of those adoption info seminars that agencies put on to help you compare the different programs. Our agency had a chart so we could easily compare different aspects (including cost) of their programs. I'm sure you'll find out what's the best fit for your family!<br><br>
Ging-ging,<br><br>
You most certainly can adopt twins from China, a family that travelled with our group did. Their girls were 1 year old at the time of travel. You cannot, however, adopt siblings of different ages or 2 unrelated children at the same time. That's not to say that you'll get twins if you request them, but it does happen. I know in Russia, sibling groups are a much better possibility, but I don't know that much about how it works there.<br><br>
Good luck everyone!
 

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gingging. Tigeresse is right. The only way to get a sibling group with China is to adopt twins. They don't have alot of older children there and the ones that they do have have some minor problem that needs to be corrected. China will only let you adopt one at a time unless they are twins. Good luck and thank you for all the well wishes everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hi Dina!!<br><br>
I don't know anything about adopting from China but saw your post and just wanted to say Good Luck!! I am so excited for you. I pray it works out beautifully for you.<br><br>
Amelia
 

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Russia. The two reputable agencies i called today were both saying not likely to get twins in any Asian country. Could be a long wait and no way to siblings. We really feel we are supposed to adopt 2. So I was speaking with the sw that I had back when we started the adoption process in 2001 and she said we could get 2 non related girls under 2 in Russia. So I'm thinking that's where we're going to go. Yay we are so excited. I'm just waiting on the paperwork. we can't wait. Hopefully this time next year we'll be bringing home our 2 girls. Boy I'll be busy with 3 under 3. What fun.! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Hi Amelia...nice to see you here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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Good luck to you!! Keep us posted on your progress. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Good luck with your adoptions from Russia.<br><br>
I have two adopted (individually) from China. I do know two sets of twins adopted from China, but it is very rare. One set is actually not really twins, but were presented that way. The children were adopted in 94, when adoption from China was relatively rare. Their mother thinks the orphanage director created this set of "twins" to get the children adopted quickly.<br><br>
My agency told us that about half of the adopters specify that they would like twins. I know we did, but I had no illusions that we'd actually get them.<br><br>
If you haven't already, you might want to check out the bulletin boards at FRUA, Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption, <a href="http://www.frua.org" target="_blank">www.frua.org</a>
 

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I've bookmarked that site to refer back to when I have more time. I love this online community. You get so much support and help here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Welcome Dina, I'd love to adopt from Ukraine or Russia...but it's not feasible for us - maybe years down the road. Good luck on your adoption journey! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Wow such an exciting time for your family! Enjoy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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