[sunshine's mama]

and he wants to start her in her own bed the first night we are there. She has her own room in the new place for her things and a new bed we got her at a great discount..whoo hoo....

But he thinks that after sleeping next to us since she was minutes old that she is just going to up and go sleep in a new room with a new bed, down the hall from us immediatly, the first night we are in the new place....Currently her toddler bed (the crib i had to have when pregnant that sat in it's box until she was 2ish) sidecarred to our bed so she has her own space should she want it but 99% of the time she starts snuggled up to me, rolls into her area and ends up snuggled next to me or with a leg touching mine..always touching....She has always slept next to me..not in the middle btwn us or next to daddy....She is 3 years old now.....

I just think it's too much for her...He thinks she will be ok bc she's been to the new place a bunch of times and loves it and thinks it's great and I tell him I'm sure she thinks it's great but each time we stop over there to drop off stuff we come back HOME, to her home....and it's going to be alot different once we go there and STAY and not come back HOME.....Within the next 2ish months we will be moving her, she will be getting a new sibling...it's just alot all at once I think...

I tried to talk to him about maybe we could start with naps and see how she does but it's not going to be an overnight thing where she's just all " I wanna sleep alone in my room with bearbear and silky...." and I don't know how to get him to understand that a bit...

She doesn't go to bed real well as it is here at home...it takes awhile for her to wind down and sleep and it's usually with me there, either on the sofa, in the big chair or laying down with her and then leaving when she's asleep...

Any advice?????? I just think it's the wrong time to ask her to sleep all alone....

Thanks....

 

[deditus]

Well, in your situation, I would sleep in her bed with her, if there is room, and go from there.

 

[chinaKat]

Actually, I know people that have used a move as the opportunity to move to a bed with great success.

I think it will totally depend on your child's age and personality. But if you want to try it (and remember, you can always fall back on co-sleeping), I would talk it up a great deal beforehand.

WHen you discuss the new house, talk about DD getting her own room, her own bed... help her pick out bedding, and the bed itself even. She can "help" set up the bed and the room. If she gets excited about it and buys into it, that's half the battle right there IMO.

I would definitely plan on sleeping next to her in the new room for a while, at least while she's going to sleep. Then maybe you move to lying on the floor while she falls asleep. And so on.

You can make it clear that DD is always welcome to come in with you if she wakes up in the night, as well.

Good luck!

 

[JamieCatheryn]

We moved and started putting DS down in his room on day 2. At first he slept til 3am there, then since a couple days later lasts til 5 or 6 before he either joins us in bed or I nurse him in his room, get him back to sleep, and leave again after. He takes forever to wind down at night too, we just kinda stay up with him however long it takes, try to keep the lights down and atmosphere calm so he'll get the hint.

 

[sunshine's mama]

thanks mamas...we are moving tomorrow...lol...

there is room in her new bed as it's a twin for a bit more until this belly gets bigger....

she loves the idea of her new bed which I think is great but bedtime comes and it's mommy and mommy's bed.....

i'll let ya know how it goes...

 

[chinaKat]

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Originally Posted by sunshine's mama there is room in her new bed as it's a twin for a bit more until this belly gets bigger....

Heh, I'm 40 weeks PLUS a few days and I'm still squeezing into DD's twin bed with her. You should *see* me trying to climb out over the bed rail after she falls asleep...

 

[transformed]

I understand, my dh wasnt supportive of cosleeping at all. I think now he misses our ds being so little and he is almost a "convert." LOL

If you are going to move her, I dont think I'd do it when her whole world is upside down. Moving is such a big emotional event for littles.

It might be better to wait for a more stable time.

Its so hard trying to take care of our littles and also make our spouses happy too. What a struggle

Jenny

 

[sunshine's mama]

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Originally Posted by chinaKat Heh, I'm 40 weeks PLUS a few days and I'm still squeezing into DD's twin bed with her. You should *see* me trying to climb out over the bed rail after she falls asleep...

I think that will be me too....I am an outside sleeper and her bed is going to be up against the wall.....

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Originally Posted by transformed I understand, my dh wasnt supportive of cosleeping at all. I think now he misses our ds being so little and he is almost a "convert." LOL If you are going to move her, I dont think I'd do it when her whole world is upside down. Moving is such a big emotional event for littles. It might be better to wait for a more stable time. Its so hard trying to take care of our littles and also make our spouses happy too. What a struggle Jenny

My Dh is totally supportive of the cosleeping...never said anything negative about it but now that we will have an empty room for her, he thinks it's time for her to be in her own room.....I don't want to do it know bc I know how emotional this is for her and then in 2 months having to share me with a baby sister.....I am going to talk to him some more tomorrow about it after we are done moving things......

 

[Momma2SoSweet]

It'll be hard to move your dd out. I'm already sad about it and dd is only 9 months, so she won't be out of our bed for quite a while. I agree with the pp who suggested sleeping in her bed if your dh is too against her staying in your bed. But definitely talk to him some more about it, especially since you'll be having another lo soon and your dd will have to make yet another big adjustment.

My dp is also very supportive of cosleeping but he wants dd in her own bed around age one. (We will also be moving around that time) I told him no way. For one, that's too many things at once and also I feel one year old is just too young to be sleeping by herself, especially knowing how my dd is- but maybe we'll try getting her to actually sleep in the sidecar.

I told him in no uncertain terms that dd will be in our room until she is 2-3. Even if it's in her own bed, it'll be in our room. I just am too paranoid and, well, attached to have my baby girl sleep in a different room for quite some time.

 

[mightymoo]

At 3, I think there is a good chance your DD will be fine going right to bed in her new room the first night - there is something exciting about having your own room for the first time. Every child is different, but its definitely possible. My daughter happily started sleeping in her own room at 18 months. At 3 we moved to a new house and she was happy to go sleep in her own room there too. However, she still joins us in the middle of the night in our room most of the time, but that's fine with me. My DS at 2 goes to sleep in his room to start as well - we just read him stories and lay with him until he falls asleep.

I would set up your DH's expectation though that while you may get her to go to sleep in her room, she'll be joining you at some point in the night. But for DH and me having the beginning of the night to ourselves is enough, we could care less if they join us in the middle of the night.