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  • My dc weaned, but returned to nursing after birth.

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I am starting to TTC #2 and I am still nursing my ds. I have heard from friends and in forums that many mamas quit nursing and/or their dc weaned themselves during pregnancy. I am curious if this is the rule or the exception? I would love to tandem nurse...what are the chances?
 

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HeatherRN,<br>
I voted No, we didn't wean; we continued nursing but I did want to note that this was despite a steep drop in supply early on. DD1 was very needy and wasn't giving it up for anything. Since I didn't have any significant discomfort I never even considered weaning her.<br>
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I'm not sure what to vote. My dd weaned when I was 19 weeks pregnant. I lost my milk at 12 weeks. By 19 weeks, nursing was very painful and I just couldn't bear long nursing sessions. At the same time, she was already on her own just getting less interested. It felt like a very natural, very easy end for her.
 

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Our relationship changed, but continued. I had to limit the length of nursings. Many ended with "OK, that's enough." or "OW, stop please!"<br><br>
I took the nursings one day at a time, told myself if that if he weaned, then that was that. As it turned out, the complete lack of milk for most of the pregnancy was not a deterrant, nor was the return of milk when it came back after my daughter's birth.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm not sure what to vote. My dd weaned when I was 19 weeks pregnant. I lost my milk at 12 weeks. By 19 weeks, nursing was very painful and I just couldn't bear long nursing sessions. At the same time, she was already on her own just getting less interested. It felt like a very natural, very easy end for her.</div>
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Thanks for sharing! It is hard for me to balance the desire to conceive #2 and the desire to offer prolonged nursing/BM to my ds! I appreciate the sharing of how it worked in your home. I am not going to wean to get pg, so if I don't get pg no problem, but if I do get pg I really hope I won't totally lose my milk and my BF relationship! What to do...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">HeatherRN,<br>
I voted No, we didn't wean; we continued nursing but I did want to note that this was despite a steep drop in supply early on. DD1 was very needy and wasn't giving it up for anything. Since I didn't have any significant discomfort I never even considered weaning her.<br>
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Same for me.<br><br>
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I lost my milk, but we did make it through and now I'm tandem nursing. He cut his frequency of nursing way back, and nightweaned while I was pg... but he still nurses at bedtime and for his nap.
 

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I had a little drop in supply but never lost my milk completely, around 23 weeks it changed over to colostrum. The 3rd trimester was challenging for me and I had to set some limits in order to preserve our nursing relationship. i.e., give a "1-2-3" countdown to end the nursing session. After DD was born everything was fine, though, we've now been tandem nursing for 9 months. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i didn't vote because while my milk supply has diminished to nothing at 17 weeks, ds still nurses. i couldn't say "No, we were able to keep our BF relationship through pregnancy" because the relationship has completely changed, and not necessarily for the better, but we haven't weaned, not yet anyway, and i have no idea what the future holds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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definite decrease in supply but we made it and now I am tandem nursing.<br><br>
DS was 16 months when I got pregnant and still nursing often (then and now)
 

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Is there any way to keep your milk up while pregnant??? fenugreek? etc?<br>
My ds will be a year and I know that he has gotten a good amount of BM (more than most babies in the US), but I don't want to short change him...maybe I should just wait on #2 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Usually galactogogues do not work during pregnancy. The pregnancy hormones override your prolactin, and there really isn't much you can do about it. Sorry...
 

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Thanks mama!
 

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Dd1 was 20 months old when dd2 was born. We nursed through my pregnancy, although she cut down to nursing to sleep for naps and bedtime and early morning nursing due to low supply. Now, at 3 years old, she nurses all day!
 

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i weaned dd1 down to 2-3x/day (started with nightweaning) in order to ttc, because i was having 21-25day cycles (short lp). it took about 10 mos until my lp got long enough, and my milk seemed to be pretty much gone (no swallowing heard, no letdown felt) after nightweaning, but dd1 was not gonna let a little thing like that stop her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
i felt some irritation/agitation, but not enough to get me to wean. dd1 has a lot of allergies, so i wanted her to have milk as long as possible, and to tandem. we tandemmed after dd2 was born (con't twice/day, then cut back to bedtime only) for 15mos, until dd1 was 4 3/4.<br><br>
but be aware of how your feelings can suddenly change once you get pregnant. your sweet little "center of your universe" toddler (who is currently a joy to nurse) may suddenly seem like a great big leech, that you want off you NOW, and try as you might, that feeling persists. in the long run i was glad it took the extra time to conceive, because nursing was never so sweet again. i would have been sorry to have missed those extra months of closeness. but at the time i was facing 40, and worried about the ticking clock, not knowing if there were other reasons for not getting pregnant as easily (2 halfhearted tries) as the first time around.<br><br>
and get hilary flower's adventures in tandem nursing. it helps to give BTDT stories, and lots of nutrition/safety info.
 

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My dd1 weaned herself because of low milk supply by the time I was 15 weeks pregnant. However, she was only 9 months old when I got pregnant, and was not yet really nursing for comfort. For her, it was a food source. When she couldn't get it, we had to supplement of course, and weaning naturally followed. I was sad that she weaned so early (my mainstream friends thought I was nuts since that's the normal time for weaning for them.)
 

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I weaned because of discomfort, but my milk all but disappeared as well, which I think adds to the discomfort. DS would have kept nursing even though there was no milk but I just couldn't deal.<br>
BUT he was 28 months old, so he really didn't NEED the milk anymore. I didn't notice how old your child is .. but that's something to think about.
 

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All my kids have weaned when I was pg. I fear I shall never tandem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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