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So after the Today Show thing I got to wondering, would it be completely inappropriate to put in a will as part of your child care instructions, "please find someone to nurse the baby when the freezer stash runs out?"<br><br>
I am mostly thinking that in my family there are a lot of us having children at the same time. If something awful happened to a SIL, I would certainly offer to nurse the baby for a while. At the same time I wouldn't necessarily expect someone to take on my 2 yr old.<br><br>
Am I the only one to this of this?
 

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I think that is a great idea! I told my dh that he was to find breastmilk if anything happened to me. He said he was glad I mentioned it because he never would have thought of it. I gave him some ideas of where to look, like here, and the birth center community where I gave birth.
 

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DH and I have to get our wills in order now that DD is here. I never thought of the wet nurse concept until now, but I don't want any formula given to her. I'll bring this up to our lawyer when we meet.<br><br>
Thanks!
 

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i was totally thinking that too! i was thinking that the mamas from my mamas group would be able to express for her and how i was going to ask them about this...
 

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Oh you are not alone. I have been thinking about this since before I gave birth. Ideally, --I know this sounds odd-- but I would want my husband to bf our ds. Yes, men can establish milk supplies just like women...that is why they have nipples. It is done more frequently than you would think. Otherwise, I have told my mother that I'd like her to do it if possible. If not, the family knows what to do from there. My brother volunteered quite readily.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh you are not alone. I have been thinking about this since before I gave birth. Ideally, --I know this sounds odd-- but I would want my husband to bf our ds. Yes, men can establish milk supplies just like women...that is why they have nipples. It is done more frequently than you would think.</div>
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Seriously? I did not know that!
 

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I'm so glad I found this thread. I've been telling my hubby men can bf too, but I have no idea where I first got that info.<br>
Does anyone have a link??<br><br>
'Manda
 

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I think thats a fabulous idea...... now I just need to find someone we know who breastfeeds! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> or hire one.....<br><br>
ETA: read the replies........ getting dh to nurse might not be a bad idea.... he could use an SNS.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh you are not alone. I have been thinking about this since before I gave birth. Ideally, --I know this sounds odd-- but I would want my husband to bf our ds. Yes, men can establish milk supplies just like women...that is why they have nipples. It is done more frequently than you would think. Otherwise, I have told my mother that I'd like her to do it if possible. If not, the family knows what to do from there. My brother volunteered quite readily.</div>
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great,i'll tell dh he can take over the night feeding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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While I completely understand your desire to have your child receive breastmilk I don't think that writing it in your will is the way to do so.<br><br>
Your death effectively terminates your parental rights. Whatever you write in your will re: the care of your child is not binding in any way. That includes custody decisions, feeding decisions etc . . .<br><br>
A better choice would be to make sure that your DH and everyone who might conceivably be involved in decision making for your child knows about your desire. Then hope that if anything happens they will act in accordance with your wishes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">While I completely understand your desire to have your child receive breastmilk I don't think that writing it in your will is the way to do so.<br><br>
Your death effectively terminates your parental rights. Whatever you write in your will re: the care of your child is not binding in any way. That includes custody decisions, feeding decisions etc . . .<br><br>
A better choice would be to make sure that your DH and everyone who might conceivably be involved in decision making for your child knows about your desire. Then hope that if anything happens they will act in accordance with your wishes.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br>
When drawing up a will it's best to stick to just the facts, ma'am, on how to dispose of your estate and avoid editorializing about things you will have no control over. In the worst case scenario, for example, both you and your husband are killed in a car crash, including something like wet nursing wishes may cause controversy among your surviving family members. You don't want to give anyone who opposes your parenting approach ammunition to contest your will or or start a custody battle over your child.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm so glad I found this thread. I've been telling my hubby men can bf too, but I have no idea where I first got that info.<br>
Does anyone have a link??<br><br>
'Manda</div>
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Here is that link. <a href="http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/miscarticles/milkmen.html" target="_blank">http://www.unassistedchildbirth.com/...s/milkmen.html</a>
 
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