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So Im reading another adoption board and this poor mama is having trouble getting her newly adopted son to sleep. This is what someone actually suggested:<br><br>
"He needs to learn how to put himself back to sleep. Try reading Healthy sleep, happy child" this is an excellent book about training your child to sleep. Worked pretty well for [my son] until he turned 2 and could get out of bed himself. Be prepared you have to let them cry it out at some points. "<br><br>
Hello people! That is not going to fix the problem! Okay fine, not everybody is AP but lets have some common sense people! In some countries (including where this child above was adopted from) CIO is not practiced there. Duh! Try holding your son. Try putting him in a babycarrier like his foster mother probably did. Our social worker even discussed this with us (as if we didn't already know).<br><br>
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I not sure how anyone thinks that CIO is a good idea.. Especially for an adopted child who isn't with the voice they recognize from the womb as a newborn, or a caregiver they recognize for before they were placed??? Common sense here people!!!<br><br>
Warm Squishy Feelings..<br><br>
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That adoptive mama is getting some bad advice. Rule #1 in promoting adoptive attachment and bonding is to bend over backwards to make sure the child never ever thinks he or she has been abandoned or that the parents aren't available. CIO in a strange bed, in a strange home, in a strange country, with a strange new family? No thanks!
 
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