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By choice I would absolutely never spend a night away from either of my babes. but I am divorced and the way the visitation is set up-my ex could have my 12 month old over nights now. He isn't (I don't think he wants to deal with him overnight) yet but he knows that is an issue with me and is not willing to up child support thinking I won't take it to court. If I went to court I would most likely get twice what I am getting in cs, but he would also get full visitation, most likely. Anyway, what I am thinking is let him have ds overnight once a month, like his big sister, so ex sees that that isn't a threat. (He could anyway at anytime, if he wanted to.)<br>
Sorry that I am not making any sense, but any advice? I know he will survive, and when my dd started overnights at 22 months it was way hard on me, but fine for her. I just hate that he is using the kids in this way.<br>
any bright ideas would be welcome!<br><br>
ps if this belongs more in single parenting someone move it please!
 

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I think it depends on the child and the situation. My personal philosophy with DD is that she can spend the night elsewhere when she asks to.<br><br>
I think 12 mos is definitely too young to understand what's going on. Sorry for your troubles. I hope it gets better.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Well, after prayer and talking to other trusted family, I think I am going to let him go overnight one night a month (at most) Adam lives 5 minutes away and i will have him bring him back to me even in the middle of the night if he needs me.<br><br>
still open to suggestions, tho! thanx
 
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