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with this pregnancy?<br>
I know at various points there have been things I have needlessly worried about. Now it is that I didn't get a good profile shot at the u/s and I am afraid the babies face isn't perfect. I'm afraid it's missing a nose. Every time I look at the pics I am wondering and being paranoid.<br>
Do you think that the u/s tech would have mentioned that on the report if the baby had some kind of issue?<br>
And I guess I have high expectations b/c at the 23 week u/s for DD, the pic we got of her looks just like her!
 

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i'm worried that the baby isn't happy in my womb, if, say, i'm not eating right or devoting enough time thinking about him/her. or that s/he isn't healthy.<br>
i'm worried that this little person is going to turn our peaceful little family upside down. our threesome is so so nice, how is another family member going to fit in? and what if we end up with a kid who is a real handful and resent it forever?<br><br>
i know everyone keeps telling me these are the silly little things all second-time moms worry about, but knowing that doesn't make me feel better <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
in some ways i feel like having this baby will change things even more dramatically than when i first got pregnant. i'm not sure how that's possible, but i guess that's just my fear.<br><br>
wow. thanks for starting this thread, it feels nice to get that off my chest! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I think if the baby were indeed missing a nose, there would have been other visible issues. I would imagine it would be very rare to just be randomly missing a nose. But I do understand your worries.<br><br>
Basically, my thought about anxiety/worrying is this: worry will attach itself to whatever presents itself. The higher your anxiety, either the more worries you will have and/or the more radical your worry about one item will be. My anxiety level has been higher than usual lately and I have been worrying about lots of things. One night I couldn't sleep because I was stressed about baby names and "had to" research them right then. A couple of months ago I "had to" buy a car with side impact airbags. Early in pregnancy I was worried that I was probably having twins. Nowadays I'm worried about having the baby prematurely, or that my placenta will start to abrupt. I also stress out over and replay conflicts in my mind. I'm feeling more anal than usual about my OCD-ish tendencies, like the covers having to be perfectly straight and the doors/drawers completely closed. And I've been getting songs stuck in my head for long periods of time more than usual. So you're definitely not alone! (In fact, you're probably thinking "whew, at least I'm more normal than SHE is" after reading all that, LOL!!!)<br><br>
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I worry about everything and I hate it. I am trying not too lately though.<br>
But right now I have been eating like crap and I need to change that.
 

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I was just reading some great information about worry in Childbirth withour Fear. For me, I try to remember 'I will not worry aobut things I can not change'. I was a terrible worrier a few years ago, I'm getting better!!<br><br>
That said, I worry (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) about hospital transfer. I want a homebirth so badly, I'm worried that I'm not going to handle labor well (had no chance to labor with DS). So, I'm trying to chance that, educating myself about how to handle long labors.
 

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I haven't been nearly as anxious and worried this pg as I was the last time (that whole pg I just had a worried feeling I couldn't quite shake - perhaps I was intuitively getting prepared for Noah's traumatic birth). I've been much more at peace this time - not to say I don't worry at all (because that just wouldn't be ME <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ).<br><br>
Earlier in pg I was afraid every time I had a BM that I was going to inadvertently push the baby out (totally irrational, I know, but I always HAD to hold some TP over myself "just in case"!).<br><br>
I've had brief periods of panic when I feared the baby has died - that has calmed WAY down now that he is kicking and moving so much throughout the day.<br><br>
I think probably my uppermost concern is that something will go wrong with the birth, especially if we end up home birthing (which I plan to if my midwife sister is here in time, otherwise we'll go to the birth center). But I think DH is more anxious than I am... although DH is ok with birth center/home birth, he really does expect that <i>something</i> will go wrong. With my first birth I hemmorrhaged some - it was not a big deal, the midwives got it under control quickly with pitocin and uterine massage, and I was home a few hours later (a little anemic, but fine). However, I later learned that it had deeply affected DH, who thought he was watching me die at the time! Then we had Noah's traumatic surprise breech birth, his needing resucitation and 4 days in NICU - that time DH later said he thought he was watching our baby die before his eyes. The other day he asked me "I'm not going to have to do that again, am I??" , referring specifically to having to follow our baby to NICU at the hospital down the street, leaving me at the birth center. When I asked if he thought something would happen this time, he only answered "We'll we're two for two, aren't we." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My worries have always been about the birth. I finally have the support of my husband to have this 3rd child at home. I figure surely something will happen to take that dream away. When I read stories here about moms loosing thier babies at birth or a few days later, I start thinking about this little bean and praying for it's health. I do feel more at ease now that the baby is moving so much. DH got to feel for the first time yesterday. And my oldest daughter Bre who is 3.5 has watched the baby kick the remote on my tummy. She always laughs and claps and says the baby is jumping rope in there.
 

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I worry that my belly is too small. How silly is that? My fundus is measuring 31 cm! But it *seems* like my actual belly is smaller than in previous pregnancies. I am still able to reach around and wipe after I go poop and it seems like that was a struggle by now the last two times. But I'm thinking that I'm just remembering later in the pregnancies. I guess it makes me irrationally think that maybe my baby is small.<br><br>
My dh says he wonders why I can't just be happy about it! He's right, of course.
 

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LOL Tracy! I feel pretty small myself. I am 24 weeks, and not uncomfy in bed and dont feel too pregnant right now.<br>
I know the other times by 30 weeks I was moaning and groaning about how huge I was and just totally uncomfy, so I guess its just still early! I bet you I'll be back here in 6 weeks complaining!
 

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I worry that there is still something wrong that the echo didn't catch<br><br>
I worry that I will have another posterior baby & back labor and end up with hospital transfer.<br><br>
I worry a lot about breastfeeding, since I've never actually nursed exclusively nor BFed a newborn, and I'm worried that my extreme supply issues were not just related to our separation, but to some biological/organic problem with me.<br><br>
But most of all, I worry that this baby will be as high needs as DS was (hard to imagine, what with the surgeries and all...) and that I won't be able to cope with two high needs kids. The only way I can foresee handling both of them is if this baby is "easier"...
 

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My latest worry is that I am having too much movement. It seems like every time I pay attention the baby is moving. I keep wondering if the baby is moving so much because it is distressed and not getting enough nutrients or something. And when I am not worrying about that, I worry that I am feeling so much movement because there are two babies. And then I worry that the two babies are definitely not getting enough nutrients. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"><br><br>
I think that my tendency is to worry whether I have something to worry about or not. Since I don't have anything major to worry about, I create these "problems", ie too much movement=distressed baby/babies. sigh.
 

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Wow- great thread idea- it actually eases some of my worries to see y'all's- if that makes sense! the main thing I am worried about is that the baby isn't growing well/getting good nutrients. I have been trying really hard- and doing pretty well- to eat well, but still worry about it a lot. I am not super-worried about the birth, I really trust our new midwife and feel really prepared for our first homebirth. I am really worried about what will happen after the babe is here- I am hoping to be a stay at home mom with my 4 year old and new addition, but our financial ducks are not in a row yet, and it is really tiresome to worry about something like that all the time! - warm thoughts to all you worried mamas!
 

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It's interesting how we're all worrying about different things.<br><br>
Lately I have been worried that I am not drinking enough water. I even had a nightmare that all my amniotic fluid dried up and my uterus deflated...instead of a pregnant belly I just had skin stretched over a baby-shaped thing. Trying to up my fluid to alleviate the worries, but it seems like no matter how much I drink, I'm still thirsty and wake up with dry eyes and mouth.
 

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My latest worries are mostly about having two babies instead of just one. I start thinking about all the things that would be impacted by having two from we would need a bigger bed for cosleeping and more diapers to what kinds of complications could arise for the birth of two. Then I remind myself that I don't know yet, it is silly to worry and try and think about just one for awhile. It does not usually work though.<br><br>
I am also constantly worrying about my water intake. Some days I am so bad about this.<br><br>
Nutrition is a big one as well for me. Specifially if I am getting enough protien because that is all I want to eat, so it makes me think my body wants more more more.<br><br>
Oh, it feels great to get that out there! Thanks!
 

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I am worried that my husband won't be able to be home for the birth. He is scheduled to go back out to sea Jan 25 and not come home til 2 months later. I'm hoping they will let him rotate out for a little bit but we wont know until mid Jan or so which makes the planning of our unassisted birth a little tricky! I have a doula lined up if he can't be here but I just really want him to be.
 

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I worry about.... well not a whole lot really.... I mostly worry about everyone adapting to life with baby three. Charlotte was so little when Silas came that we really never dealt with sibling rivalry. She was awesome with him. I'm hopeful that my son will deal as well with his new silbing as she did but I'm less optimistic about it.<br><br>
I worry about the two big kids sharing a room... (ultimately, like next summer or later when the baby needs his/her own space)<br><br>
otherwise I'm growing ok, baby is moving nicely, really thumpy, more like my son's movements than my dd's.... I'm excited to meet this baby.
 

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I have this one, too! Seems like every time I sit down to eat a meal, the baby goes crazy moving rapidly all over. So I keep analyzing what I'm eating, wondering if there's a dire food allergy thing going on. Probably the baby's just responding to the fact that I'm sitting, but hey, a championship worrier like me can do wonders with anything!<br><br>
I guess my other worry about movement is that I read or heard at some point that lots of movement in utero can be a sign of a spirited/high needs child. It's been 5 years since I was pregnant with DD, but I don't recall quite this much movement this early. Obviously I will love whatever baby the universe gives me, but a mellow baby who's a good sleeper sounds really appealing and I keep thinking, "yeah, well that's obviously not gonna happen, look at all the movement already." I can't believe I actually worry about these things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
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LOL Carol!! I think my worry could rival yours!! I'm worried now that my baby doesn't move enough. But, if your theory is correct, I may just have a very laid back baby who will sleep through the night early and not cause me a moment's worry - right?! LOL<br><br>
My biggest concern right now is that the baby will die in utero. Isn't that a terrible thought? But, I also worry about the birth a bit. It's my first homebirth and I'm just nervous - what if the baby is breech, has shoulder dystocia (my last one did), etc, etc?<br><br>
It helps to write them down and one of the things I love, love, love about my midwife is that she'll go over each and every concern with me and ease my mind (a bit!).
 

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I always worry about a preterm birth...it's crazy; I had four full-term births, but every time I feel a darn BH contraction I start to worry...DH just rolls his eyes at me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I don't say anything this pregnancy to him, I just worry internally.<br><br>
Personally, I don't think my uterus needs the practice of BH contractions...it's been through this 4 times already!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have this one, too! Seems like every time I sit down to eat a meal, the baby goes crazy moving rapidly all over. So I keep analyzing what I'm eating, wondering if there's a dire food allergy thing going on. Probably the baby's just responding to the fact that I'm sitting, but hey, a championship worrier like me can do wonders with anything!<br><br>
I guess my other worry about movement is that I read or heard at some point that lots of movement in utero can be a sign of a spirited/high needs child. It's been 5 years since I was pregnant with DD, but I don't recall quite this much movement this early. Obviously I will love whatever baby the universe gives me, but a mellow baby who's a good sleeper sounds really appealing and I keep thinking, "yeah, well that's obviously not gonna happen, look at all the movement already." I can't believe I actually worry about these things! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
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I was curious about this too since I have a very high needs/spirited DS who moved like a freight train the whole time, so I polled my friends on another board. The response was mixed--some of them said their HN baby had the most movement of all their kids, and some said their "easy" baby was the most active. This baby seems to be more "regular" in her movements than DS--more of a pattern, even though she kicks just as hard. I hope that means she will have a nice regular schedule!<br><br>
The other thing about your eating is that the sugars in your food get to the baby really fast--he/she is just getting a "food high"! :LOL
 
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