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What is your hope for your child?

  • Just able to support him/herself.

    Votes: 8 11.1%
  • A nice person, regardless of ability to support him/herself.

    Votes: 33 45.8%
  • Artist.

    Votes: 2 2.8%
  • Intellectual.

    Votes: 21 29.2%
  • High-paid professional.

    Votes: 8 11.1%
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If you have an "other," write it, but I am curious, if you *had* to pick one of those, which would be your highest hope?

I am torn between intellectual and nice person.
 

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A person who is generally happy with her life and confident in her ability to meet the challenges her self-chosen life brings.

If I had to choose one of the choices? I suppose a "nice" person... but I really dislike the word nice. A caring person, perhaps.

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I hope my dd is able to be happy in her life, kind to those she meets and keeps her imaginative spirit alive.
I don't really care how much money she makes or if she gets a bunch of degrees.
 

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I chose intellectual because I consider critical thinking and questioning assumptions to be important habits that too few people have. I will be thrilled if my kids grow up to question everything and decide things on their own terms. Thus, intellectual.
 

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If I *had* to pick one of those, I pick the first one. One of the many things I want for my children is that they are able to support themselves. But I really want for them to be able to have the confidence and creativity to support themselves doing things they enjoy. I also want them to be nice people, socially and environmentally conscious, resourceful, loving...many things.
 

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Originally Posted by Dar View Post
A person who is generally happy with her life and confident in her ability to meet the challenges her self-chosen life brings.

If I had to choose one of the choices? I suppose a "nice" person... but I really dislike the word nice. A caring person, perhaps.

dar

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I want them to love and be loved. I want them to think and be surrounded by people who love to think. I want them to follow their dreams with the support of their families.
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My kids don't necessarily have to support themselves in adulthood- one or more of them may end up being a SAHP with a working spouse.
 

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I just hope that they are happy.

They could be intellectual artists who are self-supporting, "nice" and highly paid, but if they're unhappy, what's the point?

And if they're happy without all the stuff on that list then... cool.
 

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I think I would pick the nice person option if I were picking just one. The reason some might not care for the word nice is that people define nice so so differently. Of course I suppose that is true for just about any word but....

I hope they are happy, and succesful in what they choose to do with their lives as well as strong enough to face the challenges that will no doubt come.
 

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Ooo tough poll!
If I had to choose one from the list, then I would hope they would be a nice person, then if for some reason they couldn't support themselves, being nice would attract nice people into their lives (a spouse) who would be willing to support them.

But more than all that I hope for them to be HAPPY.

Yes I would like them to be confident; feeling in control of their own destiny. It would be great for them to be highly paid and preferably in a professional job able to support themselves doing something they love. I want them to have a kind heart, feeling loved and loving others.

But above all I want them to be happy.

An unhappy life is not a life x
 

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What's wrong with the word nice???? It means kind.
Not really, IMO. I even looked them both up, because I knew there was a distinction in my head but it was hard to put into words. "Nice" means "pleasing; agreeable; delightful" in dictionary.com's first definition, although kind is used to define it in a secondary definition. Kind means "of a good or benevolent nature or disposition" (same source). Kind is about wanting to help others, nice is about wanting to please others. I think that's a notable difference.

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I picked intellectual, but that's not really true.

I vote for happy, caring, self-confident, person who has the ability to do something he loves and also support himself.

I would like to give him the options of being comfortable in an intellectual setting, as well as becoming a highly paid professional, if that is what he wants for his life. I don't think those are my goals, but I want to give him the background to have as many options as possible.
 

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I can't really vote because two of the options are equally important to me and not all my wishes are included in the poll list. But I will describe what my hopes are.

I don't care if my kids go to university or not, but I do hope they find work or hobbies that are fulfilling to them and I do want them to be self-supporting. I hope to raise two kind and thoughtful young men (so the "nice" option is close).

As for the other options, I don't hope they become artists because that's so very specific. It would be like saying I hope they become athletes or accountants. I don't have any specific occupational hopes for them (just the happy and self-supporting options).

I very strongly hope that they will be open-minded people who love to read and who love learning. That is close to "intellectual" but I took issue with that word because I think it's vague. Does "intellectual" mean using lots of big words for show or being a passionate reader? Does it mean being a passionate reader but only if the topics of interest are in highly regarded academic areas? Does it mean being a numbers whiz or does it mean having a respected degree and does it exclude self-educated? I think that the definition of "intellectual" is heavily biased by our culture.

So, in summary, my hopes, in no particular order, are: 1. thoughtful, 2. happy, 3. self-supporting, 4. open-minded, 5. passionate about learning and reading.
 

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Having been a struggling single parent, I've seen what being "poor" can mean (and I don't mean no frills, I mean no electric a day or two a month, ramen noodles and lots of rice with a few scattered veggies for meals). SO I guess that may color my response. My parents didnt stress exceling at school, or going on to college, just making it through to the end of high school. I wish so much that they had been more insistent in explaining to me the benefits of a higher education, and instilling a drive in me to continue.

I chose "to be a highly paid professional" because I feel that its easier to enjoy the little things in life, when you don't have to worry so much about living pay check to paycheck. Thats not to say I wouldnt think it was a wonderful thing for my daughter, if she chose to be a SAHM and homeschool her child. But I would like for her to have an education so if, heaven forbid, she had to take care of her family alone (be it divorce, sick husband, death, etc) she would be able to do it, and not depend on others to make it through.

Of course, I hope that my kids can be highly paid professionals and be nice at the same time.
 

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I chose high paid professional.
I know my children are nice, they know they are well loved.I know the will be able to support themselves. My children are already artists each in their own form. (Well, except my two year old, but with the paint streaks throughout the house, I have no doubt he will be artistic also
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So, the only thing I have left to hope for is a high paid professional. Whether they choose this is up to them. They may very well decide to be missionaries and go to other countries to help.
 
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