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I was curious if anyone's children seem to be acting different. As if they know this major event and huge change is coming up. Particularly toddlers with limited vocab. Mine seems to be getting more emotional and sensitve each day. He suddenly won't take naps unless I'm sleeping right next to him. He's waking up a lot at night. And he just seems to have this need to be with me and my dh and is sad if we are not around (ie: with babysitter). Both me and my dh think he senses the change. Is anyone elses child(ren) acting different?
 

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YES!! Just this morning, my DS woke up (wide awake) at 5 a.m. and came closer to me in bed and just started talking to me. When I told him it was time to go back to sleep, he climbed on top of me, then cuddled up into me (spoon like) and flopped his leg and arm over my belly, then instantly fell back asleep that way.<br><br>
He is a cuddler sometimes, but not usually like this, and not usually at night. I was thinking maybe he knows it's almost time or something. He definitely has wanted to be close to me.
 

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My 2 year old got pretty sensitive before the baby came, which could have been him sensing the huge change coming upon us, or it could've been his 2-year molars coming in. He has been great since the baby came, not eating all that much though(so I'm sure it was at least partially the teething).
 

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She is definitely sensing the change. She doesn't want to be away from me for even a minute and is obsessed, read OBSESSED, w/my boobs & belly. I'm trying to be extra patient w/her, but it is SO HARD! My boobs hurt, I don't need little hands grabbing, squeezing, poking & pushing them! And I want some more time to myself right now, esp. w/all of this nesting biz.<br><br>
Luckily, sleeping has gotten a lot better since we put the extra full sized bed up to our king size (2 twins, actually)over the weekend. Before that, tho... she had to be right up against me. Now we start her out closer to dh & she stays that way until morning.
 

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Everyone here is freaking out in their own way. My teen daughter is seriously up and down (more than usual) every day. She is openly freaked out about another baby in the house. My 9yo ds has been so bitchy and irritable but also more helpful than usual. My 2 1/2 yo has been alternately clingy, climbing all over me or very independent. In the last couple weeks he has transitioned to his own bed (next to ours), allowed dh to put him to sleep several nights in a row and has been asking to use the potty. He has also been tantruming more than usual. My dh has been acting pregnant the whole time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He has even gained weight this pregnancy. I am just an irritable bitch most of the time. I don't want to be alone but can't stand to be around anyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: What a big shift it will be for all of us to have a new baby in the house. I am so looking forward to it!<br>
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I can't tell if it's sensing the baby coming or just going through the typical two year old behavior, but yes, he seems to be acting a little different. Wanting me to hold him more and being more defiant. I have a hard time believing that it's because of the baby because he doesn't really seem to understand the concept yet but maybe subconsciously he does.
 

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things here are "different story, different day" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
my oldest just turned 6 and a couple of weeks were really rough, but this past week she has been a lot better. she is actually helping me this week, which is a huge change, and a very nice one.<br><br>
my middle is 4.5 and she is starting to help out too! she peed the bed last week and i was worried that something might have been going on, but i think she was just too lazy to get up and go LOL. she fights a lot with the youngest, but some days are better than others in this area.<br><br>
my youngest is 2.5 almost and she seems to be spending her entire day upset and sad these days <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> some days she screams and whines from the moment she gets up to the moment she goes to bed. she has a very large vocabulary so she could very well TELL me what is wrong. but instead she usually screams over something. she is very smart and very good at following directions, usually. but this week she seems to be testing her boundaries more and more. she keeps doing stuff that is dangerous ( like standing on the arm of the sofa type stuff) so, we've had to put her in her room once for basically endangering herself and not wanting to stop <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> she's never been a big eater, but she is not eatting much at all these days. today she had a banana and chips and that is it LOL. she is still sleeping really well though. she sleeps about 10 hrs at night and takes a 2-3 hr nap every day. she has been waking up dry and has had no accidents during the day even in panties. i just hope she doesn't regress after the birth.<br><br>
DH is stressed beyond belief with work. he's been working 80 hrs per week this entire month and it's driving us both batty. BUT, at least he's been nice. sometimes when he gets that stressed he is nasty and not fun to be around and basically i don't care for his personality during that time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but he's ok this time. he is coming home tonight to go to preschool orientation with us, then he'll go back to work ( an hour away) and stay at work over night and then come home tomorrow for noon kindergarten orientation. he's a really great guy!! he is just too good at what he does. he is too smart and too talented and is worked too hard.
 

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It's amazing that you posted this as I have been at a loss as to what to do about this problem. DD is 22 months and has had me really worried lately. She and I have always been very attached but it's lately gotten to where I can barely handle it. She has to be held or in my lap all of the time. The three hour naps she was asking to take a few weeks ago have now become a complete scream fest at the mention of going upstairs to her bedroom. She can't stand for me to be out of sight. I feel like an awful mom seeing her this stressed out. And from my perspective how will it do anything but get worse when the babe arrives in a few weeks? All of my friends have said going from one to two babes is the hardest because we have to learn to share ourselves equally. It makes me so sad to think of my and dd's relationship changing because we are so close. Anyone know of any good books about this? There has to be something! I'm planning on going to the dollar store tonight after my prenatal to pick up lots of small toys and books to pull out one by one when she needs it after the babe is born. I can't say for sure that it's the upcoming arrival that is throwing her for a loop but she saw me try a new sling on the other day and threw a fit until I took it off. Ugh... Any ideas?
 

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My 2.5 yr old has definitely been acting like he knows something is up. Today has been good so far, but the past few days have been a nightmare. He is suddenly doing things that he doesn't normally do, pushing limits, and being more clingy. Plus he acts like I can't leave his side for a minute! He wants to be right on top of me wherever I'm at. It's like he knows he should get in the last of his solo lap time.
 

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Wow... My little guy seems to have be taking it all really well, in comparison. He is just turned three. He has been all about(and trying to mess with) my boobs and belly. We watched a couple of home-birthing videos a while back, and he occasionally comments on how the baby will be coming out of my tummy. This morning is was... "I have a weenie." "Yes, you do." "Chad(DP) has a weenie." "Yes, he does." "Is the baby coming out of your weenie?" "Um... Yeah, but girls don't have weenies, mine is a hoo-ha. The baby will come out soon." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We have a similar discussion every time he sees anybody's private parts. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Getting out his old baby clothes and extra blankies has been an experience for him. He is really happy to share though. Last night he looked at the crib in his room, got a stern look on his face, and said "I have to share my toys with the baby, right?"... He is taking it all in stride, and I'm really proud of him. I think he is excited.<br><br>
5 y/o soon to be step-daughter is a slightly different story... Up until just recently the idea of a new baby has been kind of a novelty. We only have her on the weekends, so I guess it's less real for her. But lately she's been into wanting to tickle the baby trough my tummy(yeouch! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ), but I still don't think she gets the idea... That she'll have a "real" sibling. *sigh* She's always been the center of attention, and has a hard time dealing with DS... I am waiting with baited breath to see how she deals with the new baby once s/he gets here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Everyone here is freaking out in their own way. My teen daughter is seriously up and down (more than usual) every day. She is openly freaked out about another baby in the house. My 9yo ds has been so bitchy and irritable but also more helpful than usual. My 2 1/2 yo has been alternately clingy, climbing all over me or very independent. In the last couple weeks he has transitioned to his own bed (next to ours), allowed dh to put him to sleep several nights in a row and has been asking to use the potty. He has also been tantruming more than usual. My dh has been acting pregnant the whole time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He has even gained weight this pregnancy. I am just an irritable bitch most of the time. I don't want to be alone but can't stand to be around anyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: What a big shift it will be for all of us to have a new baby in the house. I am so looking forward to it!<br>
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With a few changes this could be my house!!<br><br>
I don't have any official teens but dd thinks she is and has the mood swings to prove it. Ds is older but not nearly as hormonal. Nobody is napping (but me, what a mess that leaves!) and the 4 yo cannot hold it together as well as the two year old. Said 2 yo likes to yell, "New baby come out now!!" and pretend to pout.<br><br>
I hope the kids all get it together soon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Oh I am SO glad I am not the only one! DD is 2.5 but has VERY limited verbal communication and she is driving me NUTS! She dissolves into tears over the smallest of things, she is taking shorter naps, and is just not herself in general. I am not sure if it's a new baby thing or a two and a half thing, but I am SO over it, whatever it is!<br><br>
Can you tell I have had a long day with her? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">:
 

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My little guy is driving me crazy! I love him so much, but he's insisting on sleeping IN our bed, even when we put his bed right next to ours and nursing CONSTANTLY. I love him so much, but all this contact in the heat is making me crazy. Plus my body just hurts from the baby being so low.
 

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My 2.5 yo son had been sleeping all night since he weaned 5 months ago, and now he's been waking up again. Every few nights he'll wake up (once) and just cry and cry. It went on for 40 minutes one night. I think his 2-year molars are coming in, but, then again, I've thought that on and off for 6 months now. He also had a bite on his arm that turned into cellulitis, and I think that was hurting him, poor guy.<br><br>
He has always needed to be held a lot. He's starting to understand that I can't hold him all the time. He also has been going to his dad more, but when he's upset it has to be Mama.<br><br>
When we talk about baby brother (whose name, according to ds, is "Jonas") he seems excited, but I don't know how he'll take it when the baby actually gets here.
 

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Geessh, I never thought about this is why my kids are acting different! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My teens seem unaffected, but my 5 yr old for 3 nights in a row runs around the house in and out of his bed a dozen times and begs to sleep with us and last night he said "I always want to sleep with you, I don't want to sleep in my bed!" He has been very active, wide open like a kid on crack during the day! He has also been more clingy than usual. Usually when he goes over to my parents to spend the day he doesn't want to come home as they spoil him, but now he begs to go home. He doesn't want me out of his sight. Now my 2 1/2 trach child seems alright other than the last few nights as well has faught going to sleep and he has never done that. He usually goes right to sleep as soon as he is laid down but not lately.
 

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All the above for sure. Especially the belly/boob obsession. He hasn't been this into boobs since before he weaned in May-ish. The other day at the midwifes he freaked-out when I went to get on the table! He's been there for every single appointment and it has NEVER bothered him! I'm not sure if he has his own anxiety or if he's picking up on mine or both.
 

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Another empathetic mama here. My 22 month old and 4.5 year old are both honing in on their sixth sense. They are both ultra-sensitive, want mommy all the time, and are all over me. I can't stand being groped right now so I have to end every cuddle session abruptly when I start to feel myself hyperventilating which leads to two upset little boys. My little one, who has been a great sleeper since he was born all of a sudden doesn't want to sleep any more. My 4.5 y/o is borderline annoying all day these days. He is loud and repetitive and obnoxious (I know...all normal but annoying all the same <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). He is also yelling at his little brother for everything. I think the fact that I am exhausted and uncomfortable combined with the fact that we reached our record-breaking 29th day over 110 degrees here yesterday and have been couped up inside for months now has not been good for any of us.
 

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Yep, my nearly 3 yo DD has been really clingy. She was doing really well, sleeping in her bed all night but lately she is back to wanting to go to sleep in our bed and waking up about 3 AM each day to come in our bed. She is also very touchy with my boobs. She only weaned completely in June but really hasn't been interested until just recently. She knows the baby will come out soon and will drink "mommy milk" so I think she is anticipating it herself (oh boy, I don't think I'm up for tandem nursing). Most nights I'm really exhausted and when she comes in our bed she wants to put her hand down my shirt and grab my nipples. She'll also come up to me during the day and try to do this. I almost wonder if she doesn't "smell" something different. I know they say babies can smell where a mom's milk is... who knows.
 

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I think they DO smell the milk. She has told me several times that they smell so good and even offered her friend a sniff. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My son keeps coming up and pretending to nurse through my shirt. He makes these loud slurping sounds. It's very annoying. I had to wean him right after he turned two because I just couldn't take the icky feeling of nursing while pregnant anymore. I still can't stand it when he gets near my boobs. I hope I don't feel that way with the new one. I don't think nature would let that happen.
 
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