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For me, mine are Bedtime and Independant Play.<br><br>
Re Bedtime- DS goes to bed every night between 11:30pm-12:30 am. So as a full time WOH Mama, I don't have any down time to prepare for the next day and time for ME to unwind. And since I have to be up at 6:30am, it's wreaking havoc on my body. But that's another post Re: DH that I won't get into.<br><br>
Re Independant Play- This is very hard for me. I know that as his Personality/Temperament, DS needs interaction from (Mostly Me) at all times everyday. And that's WITH other kids around. As an Introvert, who needs 5 minutes of alone time here and there, its tough for me.<br><br>
He can only play alone for about 10 minutes TOPS. After that, he comes up to me and say "Mommy, you ready to play?"<br><br>
If I say "Mommy needs to cook dinner and will play with you after I finish cooking" he will have a complete meltdown until I cave.<br><br>
So, I've been caving alot lately <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: so that he won't have a meltdown. I'm hostage to Meltdowns...<br><br>
But if I can deal effectively with those 2 Main Issues (in a way that mutually benefits Me and DS) I'm doing alright in Parenting.<br><br>
What about you, what are your Parenting Challenges (if you have any) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">'<br><br>
In other words, how are you doing?
 

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Dd is almost 12, so learning how to effectively parent an almost-teen is my big challenge for the moment. She has always been a strong-willed, spirited girl, and I want to nurture that while at the same time teaching her that she is not, in fact, the center of the universe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
She's in a stage right now where everything is someone else's fault -- usually mine or dh's. Missing homework? Mom must have taken it. Too tired after drama class? Dad should have made her go to bed earlier. She and dh had a big fight before school this morning, and I hate sending her off to her day when she's upset.<br><br>
I guess my challenge is to keep my cool and find some way to survive the teen years!
 

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Velcro baby. "I want mommy!" Daddy just won't do. I came downstairs last night after we were all in bed so I could throw some laundry in the dryer and he FREAKED, he came after me down the stairs screaming "I want mommy! I want you!" It makes me so sad, but at the same time I just want 5 flipping minutes to myself! He goes to daycare fine but freaks if I try to leave him with dad (though he does calm down and has fun after I leave). Ugh, WHEN does the velcro baby stage end?!
 

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DS (6) has some anger management issues and is generally loud and obnoxious. He also won't sleep in his bedroom, but complains when the baby wakes him up at night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
DD1 is 2. Enough said.<br><br>
DD2 (3mos) has developed this pattern of crying a lot in the evenings. It's very frustrating and I think it's in direct relation to DS being loud and obnoxious. She's fine during the day when he's at school.<br><br>
So my challenge is to not have a nervous breakdown <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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1) Sibling relations. Dd (5.5) is always doing little things to irritate ds (3), just because she can and because she wants attention from him. Of course this irritates me, because usually he's doing just fine on his own until she comes along and disturbs the peace...grrr...<br><br>
2) Dealing with ds (3). He has to be fully on board and in agreement with *everything* that transpires in his life. This isn't a bad thing and I can't really blame him for wanting it that way, but the patience this requires is TRYING. I have to plan way in advance for things, as sometimes even getting shoes and socks on and getting into the car can take a half hour.
 

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Mine are sleep and independent play as well.<br>
Sleep: DD goes to bed anywhere from 8:30-9:30, which I think is a bit late for her, but she wont sleep unless I'm there, so by the time I'm ready for bed, it's about that time. She's also increaded her niht wakings, despite being partially night weaned, and it doesn't help that I keep flip flopping in my response to her.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> On one hand, I feel like she's waking for a reason, maybe teeth, maybe sickness, whatever. SO I have a hard time not nursing her. But she very quickly falls into a waking up all night pattern, so if I cave once, that starts a new pattern of nursing 4-8 times a night. SO then, I try to not nurse her until 5 or so in the morning, which of course is hard, because although she rarely cries for a long time, if at all, she is really hard to settle back to sleep, leaving me with even less sleep than before. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then there are naps. Or lack there of. I consider myself lucky if she sleeps one hour. Today we went to the petting farm for 3.5 hours, walking in the heat and running after the animals. You'd think she would be TIRED. But she slept 20 minutes on the way home, and that's it. So now I'm really tired and a bit resentful, like she SHOULD be sleeping more, giving me a break. It doesn't help that my dh has been away for work for 4 months, making me a single mom. So no breaks.<br><br>
Playing alone: Yeah right. I've started doing mommy break time. I tell her I'm on a break and I'm available for help, but not for play. I need one of those timer thingys so I can set it for a few minutes at a time, so we have a definate end to mommy time. But inevitably she "NEEDS" me right. now. Anyway....I digress.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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For bedtime you could start rolling it back 15 minutes a night until the time is where you want it to be. It doesn't sound like either you or ds are getting enough sleep. When are his naps? Could that be affecting bedtime?
 

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Mine's getting DS1 to start managing his time better re: school work, chores, playtime, etc.<br><br>
Of course, this means that *I* also need to become more organized and manage my schedule better - something that doesn't come naturally to me AT ALL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Yet another Independent Play here -- my daughter is five, and she's very extroverted and wants us to play with her and do things for her nonstop. I don't want to raise a bratty kid who thinks she's the center of the universe, and I also don't want to reject her or fail to meet her legitimate needs for my attention and interaction. I'm afraid she'll grow up without the inner resources to reflect or to explore her own mind and world, and I don't know how to encourage her to do that in a positive, loving way, that doesn't look like me pushing her away from me.
 

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DD - sleep, she's had sleep issues for about 8-10 months now - doesn't fall asleep easily, doesn't stay asleep for long<br><br>
DS - trying to get him to interact with us - all he wants to do is be alone in his bedroom or playroom - he'll read books, play with puzzles, play with toys, etc but wants to be alone and wants it quiet - my DD wants to interact with him though which makes him upset
 

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Life...just life.<br><br>
I need to sleep, and I want to not be sick anymore. My kids are sick of having a grumpy mommy and their mommy is sick of being grumpy...but I just want some rest...
 

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Hugs StormBride.<br><br>
I have a 3.5 yo who thinks that jumping on his little brother like he's Tigger is fun for all! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> That and he's just constantly full of noisy energy in the evenings, currently exploring the limits he's never pushed before. My 21mo old is actually in a good place right now, I'm enjoying the rest before the 2s!<br><br>
I'd like to move their 9:00 bedtime forward a little too.
 

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Pottying. He'll go pee in it three or four times a day sometimes, but never poop. I'd love to get him out of diapers and into underpants, especially since he's been using the potty regularly since about 18 months (10 months ago). How long does it usually take?<br><br>
Eating. Some days he'll eat wonderfully. Some days he won't eat. I know this is normal for a 2-year-old, but it's totally nerve-wracking for me since he's so tiny, plus we both went through a month-long series of illnesses recently and he hardly got any nutrition at all during that month except nutrition shakes.<br><br>
I just never know when he's going to have a meltdown or why. One day he'll latch on to a toy and refuse to put it down all day. The next day, he'll have a 20-minute screaming session if I offer him that same toy.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Eating issues, esp with my 3 yr old. My 20 mo old eats ok, but the way he eats drives me nuts (looks like a food bomb went off and I have to change his entire outfit every time), but I don't worry as much, b/c he is still BFing.<br><br>
My youngest is a velcro kid and it just makes it VERY difficult to get anything done. He's just extremely needy, he's the complete opposite from my oldest DS who has always been very independent. Youngest DS is also very, very sensitive, you look at him weird, and he gets upset. I just feel that it's very difficult to make him happy.
 

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Lets parenting challenges:<br><br>
1. Our son is 3 and we are just now starting the potty training and it doesn't seem to be going well. Hes very stubborn about not being interested in it at all....<br><br>
2. We in a velcro stage only it my DH that he wants all the time not me<br><br>
3. My son is extremely verbal and chatty and sometimes it just gets to be too much and I know that sounds awful but sometimes i just need 5 minutes to myself...
 

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Sleep--mine. I have the fun combination of insomnia and chronic fatigue, so sleep is an important issue in my life, but I have a 4 month old and a 21 month old who don't feel the same way I do about it.<br><br>
Pottying--I want dfs to start using the potty. He has his own ideas.<br><br>
Yelling--abstaining from doing so.<br><br>
Sanity--keeping mine.
 

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Pottying--I want dfs to start using the potty. He has his own ideas.<br><br>
Yelling--abstaining from doing so.<br><br>
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I have to add these, too. The yelling and sanity go hand-in-hand & are getting better.<br><br>
DS2 still will not potty, but I'm trying to not stress about it until he turns 3. I do get so tired of the poopy diapers in the morning, though. He has stopped trying to wear the potty as a hat, though, so I guess I should count my blessings.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Currently, I am working on learning to respect all of DD's (2.5) desires to experiment with everything you(and I) can or cannot imagine, including my threshold/reactions/buttons. I am also working on focusing on how kind/innocent/sweet my DD really is, instead of the mess she makes and how she makes it a point to blatantly ignore me and what I am saying just when I am about to lose my cool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br>
I am also working on living in the moment, especially when I am with her cause I just cant believe how fast time has flown by and how big she is gettting. So I really wanna cherish this stage as much as I can, even though it can be so trying at times. I dont ever wanna regret wasting time by wishing it all away.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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DS is 6.5 and our struggle right now it finding a way to honour his autonomy. We try to parent as democratically as we can and he has such a strong need for being who he is and being in control of himself that I sometimes think BF and I just can't do him justice within the parenting framework we were handed down from our parents. He's such a cool kid and we want to help not hinder his needs and that sometimes clashes with the "but I'm the parent" mindset that our histories and our society at large supports. It's a journey, which is cool.
 
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