We are planning to get a new king sized bed. We are currently trying out one, but it is so soft I think I would smother a newborn in it. How do you know how soft is too soft? I want something comfortable for us but safe for cosleeping. This bed is similar to a feather bed. I can hardly tell my husband is lying in it because he sinks down in it so much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I am looking for any advise regarding what is safe for cosleeping. We need to pick something out that we can sleep in the next 10 years and also safely nurse several babies over those years as well. I didn't really know about cosleeping with Simon. It just happened because I was exhausted. That is the only way we could get any sleep in the hospital the second awful night. Thanks for your ideas.