[simonboy'smommy]

We are planning to get a new king sized bed. We are currently trying out one, but it is so soft I think I would smother a newborn in it. How do you know how soft is too soft? I want something comfortable for us but safe for cosleeping. This bed is similar to a feather bed. I can hardly tell my husband is lying in it because he sinks down in it so much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I am looking for any advise regarding what is safe for cosleeping. We need to pick something out that we can sleep in the next 10 years and also safely nurse several babies over those years as well. I didn't really know about cosleeping with Simon. It just happened because I was exhausted. That is the only way we could get any sleep in the hospital the second awful night. Thanks for your ideas.

 

[heatherRN]

We like a high quality wool mattress, firm, but comfortable and you can't beat wool...warm in the winter, cool in the summer. You can even find organic wool mattresses! The down side is that they are usually very expensive <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> so we are getting a wool futon mattress that will be a little cheaper. Right now we are sleeping on a imitation tempurpedic and the foam is nice, but it makes my dh sweat and started to develop dips soon after we got it. We had wool in the past and it was long lasting and so comfortable!

 

[simonboy'smommy]

Thanks! I wish I had thought of a wool mattress! Since we already bought the mattress we have to trade it with another one from the store, so wool's not an option <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
We are considering a memory foam mattress (Posturpedic) or just upgrading to a firmer version of the one we have now. We went back to the store tonight to look them over again and will decide next week. Whatever we get next, we are stuck with so I hope we will be happy!<br><br>
I guess we can always get one of the little co-sleeper beds that goes in the middle of the mattress for the next baby. I would think memory foam might be a bit soft for co-sleeping???<br><br>
Any more ideas out there?

 

[Vortexing]

We traded our spring mattress for an Ikea latex foam one (probably closer to memory foam than a spring mattress with a pillowtop <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">). Let me try to paraphrase how much happier DD and I are....<br><br>
Last summer, I nursed DD on our bed, and it was so soft that she always rolled into me... Not only did it make me totally paranoid, it got so hot with us pressed together all the time that we both got a heat rash... It spread over my entire body, and itched like MAD. We're still trying to recover from it and her first birthday is coming up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
So, I definitely recommend getting any type of foam mattress, assuming it's not super soft like a pillowtop mattress (I think memory foam would be fine, remember babe won't sink into it as much as you do). The other benefit I've noticed is that even on very firm spring mattresses, DD will still wake up if I get up or roll over at night, but on our foam mattress, she and DH have no clue that I'm moving. With a sensitive sleeper like DD, that is worth serious $$$$$ to me.<br><br>
Oh, and you could always get a wool bed topper, or felt a wool blanket and put it down under your sheets. That is what we've done b/c we EC and will occasionally wake to a moist bed, either from my milk or her pee <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:.

 

[alegna]

We ended up with a nice soft futon. LOVE it. we don't roll together like we would on springs.<br><br>
-Angela

 

[Lil Bit's Mummy]

I have mixed success with our sleep number, but mostly because DH likes his side MUCH softer than mine! So unless I keep Lil bit fully on my side, she would roll into him. And at barely 4 months old, that's not a good thing! So I just keep her tucked in the crook of my arm and use the snuggle nest if necessary. I still love the bed, though!

 

[BathrobeGoddess]

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Us too I found a great organic cotton King and we have been happy with four in the bed!

 

[wendizbaby]

We have a reaalllllllly soft, pillow top mattress. It is SO soft and I sleep with a big, fluffy down comforter. In addition, I was always freaked out about SIDS (not because of my bed, but in general). To remedy all of this, I slept with my ds's head on my arm for the first 7 months of his life. It probably would have ended up like that anyway as I was always breastfeeding during the night, so having a soft mattress really didn't matter.<br>
You can probably get a firm mattress with a soft top on it. Or get one of those mattresses with removable pillow tops and just put it on after you dc is older.<br><br>
Wendi

 

[simonboy'smommy]

Thanks for all your ideas! We have not had time to trade mattresses this week. I'm going to go back and try them out again soon. I'm thinking the foam mattress might be good. It actually costs less than the one we have so that's nice!<br><br>
If there are more ideas please share! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">

 

[debc]

check out obasan (aka. sleeptek). we got our natral rubber mattress from there and would never buy anything else. when nights are rough, the good feels in that make things not so bad. dust mites also can't live in rubber. their shredded rubber pillows are also awesome. not cheap, but so worth it.

 

[MyBoysBlue]

We have a memory foam, pillow top, king size mattress and DS slept with us from day one, just fine. We had a fleece covered waterproof pad for him to sleep on. It allowed him to not sink into the mattress as much but NB's are so light that he didn't sink much without the pad either. I was worried before I actually laid him in the bed and realized how little of an indent he made. Now at 6 months he sleeps great in our bed still.