[riaketty]

DH has been so incredibly good with the girls lately, especially the baby. I've been out of the house, away from the kids so much that I feel completely rejuvinated and didn't cry at the thought of having the girls this week! Even last night, after he got home from work, he took them and let me go to a Pure Romance party.

He never complains about the baby or juggling both of them at bedtime.

It's starting to make me feel bad because now HE never gets any time away! I told him this week I'd take the girls somewhere for the day and he could have a home-with-no-kids day, so that's one way to return the favor. But he never goes out, doesn't really have any close friends within two hours, doesn't particularly like bars, isn't into sports... It's a lot easier for me to stay home with the girls while he goes out but he never goes out!

I hit a really bad PPD period after having the baby and having such a supportive, helpful partner has helped me beyond words. How can I show him how much this means to me?

 

[Roxswood]

What does he like to do at home? What makes him happy?

Neither me or DH get out much at all but we have date nights at home all the time, and I treat him to a massage, or I sit and play his video games with him or we watch a movie of his choice. He feels happy when I make time to do the things with him that he likes to do, or if he knows I'm happy and dealing with the children and he can just put his headphones on and watch something on his own without risk of being disturbed.

 

[rachel7628]

I think a day at home alone would be heaven for him. Esecially if you make sure the house is completely clean and put dinner in the crockpot so he doesn't have to do any housework while you're gone. Maybe get him a book or movie that he's been wanting.

And, really, the reason I'm commenting is because my daughter's name is Tamsin, too. I'm just so excited to see another baby with that name!

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[shayinme]

He sounds just like my dh, I offer him time and he never takes it. In our case he prefers special treats

, so I try to reciprocate for all the time he spends with dd (my morning coffee time alone for at least an hour daily is a huge thing) by giving him the treats that makes him happy, though I do wish he would go out.

 

[HisBeautifulWife]

Why don't you ask him what he would like instead of trying to guess? Everyone is different.

For example, I would probably plan all of this extravagent stuff for DH because that is what I like. But really all he wants is to not have any dishes in the sink, to hear he is appreciated, and to watch an hour of TV. That would make him very happy.

So if you want to do something special, you should just ask what he would like.

 

[Lynn08]

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Originally Posted by shayinme In our case he prefers special treats

This is what I would suggest. Guys are pretty easy (no pun intended) and nothing makes a man feel more loved and appreciated than being *taken care of*. Especially if you rarely to never approach him.

(Sorry if this is too graphic - I'm trying to be as delicate as possible

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[annethcz]

Sounds a lot like my DH too. I go out with my friends or my sister about once a week, and DH doesn't have many friends outside of work, and doesn't enjoy bars or sports. To reciprocate for the time away, I give DH time to do things alone around the house. I'll take the kids out for the day, or leave DH alone so he can play video games all night after the kids go to sleep. I've also found that DH really appreciates it when *I* plan a date night. If I find a sitter and plan a night out, it makes DH feel wanted and appreciated.

All of this is in addition to giving DH lots of attention in the bedroom

 

[Theoretica]

I'm ditto-ing the special treats

and I love the euphamism

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Does he like to go golfing? What about fishing? Is there an outdoors show or a concert coming that he'd like?

Seriously though, I'd guess a day to do his own thing with no interruptions would be a great way to say thanks

How awesome of you to take care of him so well too!!!