[~Megan~]

a client's baby died during birth or shortly there after. I don't think she'd had something like this happen before. Not only is she my midwife she's also my friend.<br><br>
As a birth worker what things would be or have been helpful for you?

 

[birthangeldoula]

My advice is to be there for her. Just letting her talk and listening is important.

 

[rnchrista]

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One of our clients had a late trimester loss recently. In honor of her, I bought some books on grief and loss for our lending library.<br>
And as Beth said, just being there for her and offering to listen is the best thing you can do.

 

[majikfaerie]

what helped me a lot when I lost a baby (as a mw - not my baby) was the story of a jewish tradition that says there are some souls who are very close to god; they only need to live for a short time to complete all their karma, and in that time they do a lot of healing work on the planet.<br>
these souls are always born to very special parents, and they come into the place where their healing is most needed.<br>
we are very blessed to meet these souls, even if only for a fleeting moment.<br><br>
Just be there for your friend, lots of hugs.