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I'm not sure if this is the right forum my question, but I'll start it here and see. I did not initially intend to do CLW. The quick background is EBF until 6 months, slowly introduced solids starting at 6 months and continued BFing until 1 year. At 1 year, I stopped pumping at work and switched DS to cow's milk at daycare but continued nursing when we were at home. A few months ago, I started feeling like it was time to wean. I love the concept of CLW, but I don't know anyone IRL who has done it - few even made it to the 1 year mark, and I also have to admit that I just started feeling ready to be done for myself - I want my hormones normal to help sort out some health issues. So I initiated a very gentle weaning process with one nursing session at a time - mostly don't ask/don't refuse but sometimes a little bit of distraction if he requested to nurse.<br><br>
All of that went beautifully - he really didn't seem bothered by it and would readily take cow's milk instead of nursing other than the bedtime session. He doesn't seem to want to let go of that one as easily as he did all of the others, so I'm trying to keep his needs in mind and recognize that as an indication that he's just not ready to completely wean. Some nights he will go to sleep without nursing, but then he wakes up in the night and wants to nurse (he typically sleeps through the night if he nurses before bed). I'd much rather nurse before bed than wake up in the middle of the night to nurse him, so for now I can accept keeping this session for a while.<br><br>
So that's the background - my question is, any thoughts one what I can expect as far as CLW when we are done to just once a day at bedtime? Is it likely that he'll wean on his own in the next few months, or could we potentially be continuing this once a day routine for another year or longer? (He's a few weeks away from his second birthday now.)<br><br>
Also, any idea how much the nursing hormones would be affecting my body if I'm only nursing once a day for a few minutes?
 

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Its really hard to say when he we wean. He may hang on to that nursing session since that is the only time he gets to nurse. It would be great for him and you to keep that nursing session, he is only turning 2 so you are far from CLW weaning age. Some kiddos will wean earlier than others, but average age is not 2...<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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My son will be 5 in August and still nurses.<br><br>
Hormone wise what are you refering to, being able to get preggo or ?
 

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Yeah, I know he's no where near the average age for CLW. I guess I just wondered if there is any typical pattern if they've been weaned down to just once a day but then give the opportunity to continue with that nursing session for as long as they choose - like do they tend to hold onto that last one even longer, or do they wean earlier. I guess in the end knowing what's average or typical isn't going to help me much anyway - he's an individual and will do what he's going to whether that's typical or not!<br><br>
As far as the hormone issues, things are just out of whack with my body at the moment and I'm wondering if any of that is the result of breastfeeding. My cycles returned at 10 months PP and were completely normal for about a year, but for the last few months, I've been getting my period every 15-20 days and not ovulating. I'm not trying to get pregnant again now, but I hope to at some point in the future (6 months to a year), but these wacky cycles have me a bit worried about whether or not that will be possible. The only real explanation I've come across for cycles like the ones I've had is that it can be precursor to early menopause. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm 35 and hoping for some other explanation, so I'd love to be able to "blame" it on breastfeeding...but I would think if the hormones related to breastfeeding were having that impact, it wouldn't have started up after a year of normal cycles while cutting back on nursing during that time frame.<br><br>
The other issue I'm wrestling with is medication for anxiety/depression - the one I'm on that's most compatible with breastfeeding isn't working very well for me anymore, so I'd like to switch meds but don't really want to switch until he's completely weaned.<br><br>
Anyway, I'm getting way off topic! What it boils down to is that I have some issues/concerns with my own health and breastfeeding that make me wonder if it might be better to keep trying to wean completely, but then at the same time, I also want to respect DS's needs. He's not letting go of the last nursing session nearly as easily as he did the others, so that indicates to me that he's not ready and I shouldn't be pressing the issue. He's still such a youngster in terms of CLW and I'm still trying to come to terms with that in my own head, I guess. Before I was pregnant, I never imagined I'd breastfeed after 12 months, but now that I've done it and learned more about breastfeeding and CLW, I'm realizing how young 2 yrs really is for weaning. I have so much respect for all of you women who are committed to CLW. I guess I'm just trying to find the strength in myself to try to stick with it.
 

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Well my initial thought is don't expect it to stay that way. Sometimes we get down to one feeding a day at bedtime and even days go by with no nursing and then for some reason we are back to 3-4 times during the day and night. I just try to stay flexible and enjoy our relationship for what it is currently.
 
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