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<p>Just curious.  I have a few ideas, and since everything I've read said that you basically get pennies on the dollar if you sell it...  Well, I could use those pennies, but they're tainted.</p>
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<p>ETA, I live in a state where apparently, if stbx is to be trusted, he's entitled to half of the resale value, anyway.</p>
 

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<p>I would take them to a reliable JEWELRY STORE and see what they say.  I've had some success in selling gold direct this way. I won't use a pawn shoppe or 'we buy gold' type of place.</p>
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<p>Well if STBX is entitled to 1/2 the value of your stuff, then you are entitled to 1/2 the value of his band right?  Works both ways mr einstein.</p>
 

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<p>He bought a cheap silver band that cost about $10.  My set is vintage/whatever, and pretty sparkly, but all I see when I look at it is ugly--he can have it, as far as I'm concerned.  Either way, the proceeds will either go to beer or whoever he's trying to charm at the moment.</p>
 

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<p>Well once I came super close to smashing it with a hammer on the concrete outside.......</p>
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<p>Right now it just sits with the rest of my jewellery. I will never wear it again, but I will never sell it, I may keep it for the boys? I really don't know.  </p>
 

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<p>I sold mine at a jewelry store. They said resale value of both rings together was about $1200, but paid me about $300. At first, I balked and thought about selling them online, but then I realized I didn't feel comfortable with that idea, and went back to the jewelry store. $300 was still a lot of cash to put in my pocket for two small items that were a reminder of vows broken. It felt great to get rid of them. The money was the start of my emergency fund, and it felt great to have cash to rely on instead of credit cards.</p>
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<p>If he's entitled to half (which I think is nuts, since the engagement ring was a pre-wedding gift), then I would set aside that money and negotiate it in some way later on. Does he pay child support? Is he ever short? Are you already divorced? If not, I would work it as a point of negotiation towards an agreement. Just don't spend his half until you have a signed agreement. </p>
 

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<p>Most places the engagement ring is NOT considered in equitable distribution. Smart people buy a small engagement ring and then buy a gigantic rick for an anniversary - because then they are entitled to half!</p>
 

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<p>i lost my original one and replaced it several years later with a new one.   It's in my jewelry box in case my kids ever want it.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Super~Single~Mama</strong> <a href="/community/t/1350203/what-did-you-do-with-your-wedding-engagement-ring#post_16941948"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><p>Most places the engagement ring is NOT considered in equitable distribution. Smart people buy a small engagement ring and then buy a gigantic rick for an anniversary - because then they are entitled to half!</p>
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<br><br><p>What she said.  That's pretty well established.  If you get engaged and never get married...he gets the ring back.  If you get married, that's part of your personal property.  Now, if you sell it and have a pile of cash before you divy up the marital property---that might be a grey area.  If you can survive without, it's probably better to sit on the ring until everything is finalized. </p>
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<p>Mine isn't worth anything.  It's sitting in a jewelry box in case a grandkid wants it. </p>
 

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<p>mine was just a plain, wide gold band that i bought myself about 8 months after we got married for around $250.  i got $70 for it at a nice independent jewelry store, two years ago.  they were buying it as scrap gold, i don't think there is any real resale value for just a gold band.  i actually sold it before i even left xh . . . it felt good!  i used the money for something for myself but i can't remember what, and took myself out to lunch.  :)</p>
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<p>i think my mom still has her set from her marriage to my dad, which ended in 1982.  :p</p>
 

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<p>Hmm. I kept my white gold wedding band. Dunno what to do with it, except keep it for DD, but now I wonder if she'll even care. Maybe I should just sell it as scrap gold.</p>
 

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<p>This "scrap gold" idea is getting my wheels turning.  I don't have anything worth much...but I have some cheesy heart stuff from XH that I'd never ever wear and a few rings with nice stones in white gold.  Throw all that in a pile and maybe I can pay for my cabin rental this summer!  :p </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Halfasianmomma</strong> <a href="/community/t/1350203/what-did-you-do-with-your-wedding-engagement-ring#post_16941991"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><p>Hmm. I kept my white gold wedding band. Dunno what to do with it, except keep it for DD, but now I wonder if she'll even care. Maybe I should just sell it as scrap gold.</p>
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<br><br><p>She might. She'll never know her dad, but it might be nice for her to have *something* from him, yk?</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Super~Single~Mama</strong> <a href="/community/t/1350203/what-did-you-do-with-your-wedding-engagement-ring#post_16942007"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><p>She might. She'll never know her dad, but it might be nice for her to have *something* from him, yk?</p>
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That's the thing...I have TONS of things belonging to him, mostly because he never took care of anything. His mother sent me all his report cards from K to 9, when he dropped out. I have his birth certificate, our marriage license, and lots of baby pictures of him. Since he was a photographer, I have every single picture and piece of digital art he created. I also have TONS of pictures of him, my former stepson K, a few of XH's third son with his mother, along with a lot pictures of his family. There are even of XH and I as a couple. And finally, I have letters exchanged between himself, his mother, and the brother he later threatened to murder. So, it's not like there's nothing left of XH. It's all in a drawer in my filing cabinet; when DD is ready she can look through it. I don't know if the wedding ring will really add to that collection...<br>
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<p>I'm keeping mine for my girls. I have a few rings from their dad and I refuse to wear any of them but I think my girls will like them one day. I also have a sapphire necklace. I just can't bear to wear them.</p>
 

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<p>I am also keeping mine for my daughter in case she wants it some day. My parents were divorced and I asked my mother for her ring a few years ago. She was happy to give it to me. I always liked the ring. And I like having it so I thought my DD might want to have mine someday.</p>
 

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<p>Gold is going to go up up up in the next few years, so I am hanging onto mine for awhile, and will eventually sell it.</p>
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<p>XH has his -- I think it's fair that we each get to dispose of our own.  Our divorce is done so he has no claim on anything of mine unless I win the lottery or something.</p>
 

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<p>XH took mine when he left the house. He wound up negotiating for it in the divorce. I didn't have an issue with it per se because the diamonds were from his family but I put my foot down when he tried taking back every gift he ever gave me.</p>
 

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<p>this is a sensitive subject for me. I was so desperate for money in the months after XH moved out that I put my lovely, vintage, art deco platinum ring up for consignment and then things got crazy and I forgot about it long enough for the contract to run out and the ring was forfeit to the shop. If I'd waited and not been panicked about money, I'd have wanted to save it for my kids, but now it's just gone. I'm the one who originally paid for it, too =(</p>
 

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<p>SBX told my attorney he wanted all the rings back he had given me (including one which was an appology for the first time he cheated on me) and my attorney laughed. Gifts are gifts, not marital property. Ex has no right to them, or any money I gain frim selling them.</p>
 

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<p>Mines value is 3000 we paid less than that but had it appraised so I wonder what it would bring me- that money could come in handy.  Mine was white gold round cut.  It was simple like me- but elegant.  I liked it a lot.  If  get married again I don't think I would get a diamond- just a simple white gold or gold band.</p>
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<p>I wear only one ring now and it is on the pinky finger of my left hand and it is ds's baby ring.  It sort of like a commitment ring to my children I put it on after I left xh and have never took it off except for MRI's and the like...</p>
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