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Hi all,<br><br>
DS, nearly 3, has been doing a great job with the potty for about a month or so now - one day he just said he was ready to give up the diapers, and after that had nary an accident. Both pee and poo went into the problem with no issues, and he was dry at night! We were all, including DS, very excited about this. It seemed like he was really ready in all ways, in things just clicked.<br><br>
However, in the past two weeks, he's been refusing to put his poo in the potty, putting it in his underwear instead. I'm not sure why - maybe a bout with constipation and a poo that hurt, maybe my less than enthusiastic reaction around the third accident.<br><br>
At any rate, I am really frustrated, especially because he was pooing in the potty with no problem at all, so I know he can do it. He is going through a really defiant phase overall right now, which is very trying for me (I am a SAHM, though kinda wishing I could escape the house to go back to work these days, LOL - I feel like I'd be a more patient mom if my time with the kids was a few hours each day instead of 12 straight and I could at least have a coffee break in peace and quiet, but the grass is probably always greener...). My other DS is newly 1 and into everything, including taking DS1's little potty apart or splashing in the big potty if he is able to get anywhere near it.<br><br>
Anyway, do I put him back in diapers? My mom thought this might lead to a set-back with the peeing, too, which he is really into and doing a great job with. What do I do? How can I help him and myself <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">? We've had three(!) poo accidents so far today alone....<br><br>
I thought about posting this in the potty learning thread, but got overwhelmed by the length of the thread.
 

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maybe try simpathy mode with him...<br><br>
I have a 1yo I EC with but I'm just thinking 3 poos in one day - maybe your boy is sick - something really bothering his stomach - certainly a level of stress in there somewhere - and maybe because you feel so worn out-<br><br>
thought about a mothers helper in the afternoons so you can get that cup of coffee by yourself - and rebalance - maybe get outside the problem for a bit, say 1 hour...<br><br>
something says to me that something has changed - something emotinal going on... and of course when we are cleaningup poo it is so easy to get really exasperated...<br><br>
Sorry you are dealing with this<br>
wish i could help more
 

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Thanks for your response, GradysMom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
I think he maybe had a painful poo, and/or two accidents in new surroundings (one at a birthday party, one when the neighbor was watching him for an hour), and maybe he is afraid and/or his confidence is lagging.<br><br>
It's hard, because he's so strongwilled and...well...just super willful in other areas right now, it's hard not to read into it that he's just being willful here now too...<br><br>
I am trying so hard to be patient, and I feel like I'm sort of failing him as a mom because I have to watch the (crazy, climbing, running, nonstop fearless energizer bunny of a kid) 1 yo so closely that I'll miss DS1'S signals. Like today, 1 yo is running toward the road just as DS1 decides to poo in his pants again. Or, even during quiet times - 1 yo is nursing, etc....<br><br>
I think all the accidents today have been part of the same poo, he's just releasing it one ball at a time (sorry for TMI).<br><br>
So in short, I think it's probably a problem both physical and psychological in nature. I'm working on the physical (constipation/painful poos) - upping fibers, fresh fruits and veggies, more water - and am trying to be understanding about the psychological, trying to stay calm and not make a big deal about it.<br><br>
But...if anyone has been there, done that and has some advice, I would be so grateful.
 
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