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I'm due in April and there is a 50% chance that I am having a boy. There is a 100% chance that we will choose to keep him intact. What do I need to know? I've heard that it's not good to retract the skin and to make sure doctors who examine know this. Is there a special way that I have to clean the penis? Please let me know anything worth knowing on the subject.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm due in April and there is a 50% chance that I am having a boy. There is a 100% chance that will choose to keep him intact. What do I need to know? I've heard that it's not good to retract the skin and to make sure doctors who examine know this. Is there a special way that I have to clean the penis? Please let me know anything worth knowing on the subject.</div>
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Kudos to you for leaving your baby whole! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
Do NOT ever retract the foreskin and do not let any doctors do it either. Just clean the penis like you would a finger. Wipe it and leave it. It's so simple!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">There is a 100% chance that will choose to keep him intact.</div>
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YAY!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
No special care really. Just wipe it gently like you'd wipe a finger.<br>
Don't retract, your son is the only one who should do that.<br><br><a href="http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/peron1/" target="_blank">http://www.cirp.org/pages/parents/peron1/</a><br><br><a href="http://www.nocirc.org/publish/4pam.pdf" target="_blank">http://www.nocirc.org/publish/4pam.pdf</a><br><br><a href="http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html" target="_blank">http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html</a><br><br>
Congrats on your pregnancy!
 

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Thanks for the links...I'll bookmark them. I'm also planning on copying one off to keep in the diaper bag in case I run into an uneducated doctor.
 

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Congratulations!! As others have said- don't retract, wipe it like a finger, and otherwise, its pretty easy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm due in April and there is a 50% chance that I am having a boy. There is a 100% chance that we will choose to keep him intact.</div>
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I don't think you call that a chance. LOL!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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You've got half of it covered. (1) The only person who should ever retract your son's foreskin is your son. If somebody thinks it should be retracted, ask your son to do it. If he can't do it, no one else should either. (2) It bears repeating, clean the outside just like a finger. No more!<br><br>
If you suspect any problem, come here first. There are very knowledgable people here who will not lead you wrong. With the information you get here, make the decision if your son needs medical attention.<br><br>
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Even if your dr talks says they are pro intact and are pleased you are not going to circ. Dont assume that means they wont retract. We have had more than a few mom's come in with a anti circ dr who tried to retract or did forcibly retract their ds. So before the diaper even comes off tell them exactly what you expect ie do not even touch his penis. That way there is no risk of miscommunication. Also a good thing to have handy is the Intact Care Agreement <a href="http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/care.htm" target="_blank">http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/care.htm</a>
 

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i second the intact care agreement. i just spoke with a client today whose son (8mos, intact) was seen by a doctor last week. the doctor ordered urine sample taken which they proceeded to do by ripping down his foreskin and inserting a catheter in a bleeding penis. mom was protesting but no one listened.<br><br>
poor baby.
 

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Here is a link for you to go over with what you may experiance with him over time as well <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=764732" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=764732</a><br><br>
And this one may be helpful as well: <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=575627" target="_blank">The Definition of Retraction & Why it is BAD</a>
 

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Be careful of other care givers like the baby's grandparents or whatnot. In their day they were told to scrub with a Q-tip underneath, around the opening of the foreskin. They might not consider that "retracting" so don't just say "don't retract" - you have to make sure they know that you don't have to clean anything with a Q-tip!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks for the links...I'll bookmark them. I'm also planning on copying one off to keep in the diaper bag in case I run into an uneducated doctor.</div>
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Oh, that's a good idea! We just found out we are having a boy and have no plans of circumsising. This is our 3rd child, but first boy. I have been reading on this board for the last few months just in case, b/c it occurred to me that I knew I wasn't going to circ, but I knew nothing about the care of the intact penis. Anyway, I've learned a lot, but had concerns about how to share with others.<br><br>
don't mean to take over your thread, but I appreciate the question and the answers and links. Congrats on your pregnancy!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If you suspect any problem, come here first. There are very knowledgable people here who will not lead you wrong. With the information you get here, make the decision if your son needs medical attention.</div>
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I agree whole heartedly! There are just too many seriously misinformed doctors that you may run into. It is best to have some solid medical research to take with you TO a doctors visit if it involves the penis.
 

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Congratulations on maybe having a boy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Boys are wonderful! Remember in most of the world, like in my country, nobody circs and nobody would dream of retracting - and nobody worries about what to do with the normal penis! Just leave it alone - there's nothing to worry about and no special care needed! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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