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We were pregnant with our second child and just lost it to a miscarriage yesterday at almost 9 weeks. We had already been to our midwife and told everything looked great. We didn't want to tell anyone until we knew everything was ok, so since they said everything was ok we decided to tell everyone we knew that day. Next week is our daughters first birthday and we are expecting about 50 people and I have no idea how we are supposed to face them. We do not want to tell them of our loss at her party because it will ruin the whole day, but I definitely cannot deal with people congratulating us. So what are we supposed to do? If anyone has any suggestions I would greatly appreciate them.<br>
Thanks,<br>
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Oh man....I so sorry for your loss. And what timing huh? It;s never a good time of course, but wow.<br><br>
Do you have a good friend or close relative you could trust to call people to pass on the sad news? That's the only thing that comes to my mind.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Im so sorry for your loss. I agree with Gemini about having one person or two pass on the information. This way you wont get the congrats at the Party and you also wont have to go back and tell everyone. I had to go that when i had a m/c in April this year. It was pretty hard to have to go back and tell everyone that you arent no longer pregnant. Best wishes and bless you.
 

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Thanks for the advice..i think we will ask my husbands mother to tell his side and my mother to tell my side. Hopefully Ella will still have a great 1st birthday.<br>
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I'm so sorry for you loss <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> what a difficult time this is going to be for you.<br><br>
How are you feeling about having all these people over? Are you sure you're going to be able to get through both emotionally and physically? Do you have some close famly who can help you?<br><br>
I do agree that having someone talk to everyone before is a good idea. You'll be much more at ease knowing that everyone knows and that question won't have to come up.<br><br>
You're body has been through a great deal. Please make sure you remember to take care of yourself and accept as much help for others as you can.
 
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