i take my cues from my children, but bedtime depends largely on what time we have had dinner and what else we are doing
last night dd was asleep in ed just after 7pm, this evening it was about 8.30pm as we got in a little late from the inside play place we went to
i always put her to bed first, then sometimes ds 1 then ds 2, or sometimes them both together, though recently, i have veered toward separate bedtimes for them.
with dd i just feed her and hold her after her bath and she will generally fall asleep and then i can lie her down, but she is an exceptionally chilled out baby and this is not something i could have done with either of the biys. she loves sleeping, yesterday she slept from 2pm-5pm then went to bed at 7pm, today she slept from 11am till 3pm then still went to bed at about 8.30pm.
the boys were NOTHING like that and as much as i love it i dont actually consider her particularly normal!
sorry i have had 2 glasses of wine and i am not really sure what your question was any more..
i think i will go to bed now!