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Personally, thus far, I indulge DS's desires, but sometimes I almost wonder if I should (if that makes sense). For example he will get on a kick where he literally wants to read with me for hours & hours (either him 'story telling with some sight reading from memory or me reading or just him on his own)... it lasts a few weeks then it's number- then it's letters and letter sounds- then it's music- then it's 'how things work', then animals and what they do, etc. I have a similar personality where I get really determined on things then switch interests after I feel 'accomplished' . Maybe this is the debate of child lead vs teaching course-work learning (sorry I don't know names, just got homeschool book). My point is there is nothing "balanced" about our days- rarely will he have a week where he wants to paint and draw AND read a lot. I make everything accessible to him, but he leads. I don't want to cause any kind of debate, I just want to know what you find most efficient and if you try and create balance. (Sorry if these are basic homeschool principals and I sound dumb <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> )
 

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I think it is a pretty normal thing for a lot of people and I'll admit as an adult I often do the same thing going on a phase where I really knit a lot or really read a lot about a particular topic.<br><br>
The only place I'd draw a limit is to think about what you've got available and want to give. It is okay to say you are sick of reading about a particular topic or to set a limit on how long you can look at the Way Things Work book before you want to poke your eye out with a fork.
 

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LOL- oh so you could see through me lol. I don't want to sound like a horrible mother but I can only read for about 4-6 hours before my mouth gets so dry I just feel like I can't do it anymore! I just feel like I'm failing him if I set limits on things like that.
 

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Books on Tape are your friends. Meet them. Know them. Love them. Check 'em out at the library.<br><br>
Yes, I'd just follow my child. Balance, shmalance, they know what they need...I think you the best example you can set - i.e. do you draw, write, listen to/make music, read for yourself?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">LOL- oh so you could see through me lol. I don't want to sound like a horrible mother but I can only read for about 4-6 hours before my mouth gets so dry I just feel like I can't do it anymore! I just feel like I'm failing him if I set limits on things like that.</div>
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4 to 6 hours? Man, I'm nominating you for sainthood, I'd never make it that long. Yes, you aren't obligated to do that for so long. I think your obligation is to allow your child in your world. If you've got something else to do feel free to invite him along to hang out by you, but you don't need to act as a human reading machine 24 hours a day and the kid is more likely to learn to read for himself when you don't.<br><br>
I did have my child convinced as a preschooler that I was so good at multitasking that I could engage in imaginary play, board games, etc. all while reading a magazine for myself at the same time.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">LOL- oh so you could see through me lol. I don't want to sound like a horrible mother but I can only read for about 4-6 hours before my mouth gets so dry I just feel like I can't do it anymore! I just feel like I'm failing him if I set limits on things like that.</div>
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Do you do this <i>every</i> day? Can I send my kids to your house? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Seriously, I could not read for that long. I'm sure that my kids would love it, but I would get nothing else done and I'd probably lose my mind. You've been more than wonderful for doing it for as long as you have, but stop! You're making the rest of us look bad! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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You all are going to make me cry with relief! Yes, honestly we do this for anywhere from a week to 3 I'd say... where DS is completely book absorbed. It got to the point that I couldn't keep up so I bought book lots of several hundreds each on ebay (even going to the library there's just no way for me to keep up) and re-sold inappropriate ones. I don't get enough done but I feel guilt saying no to reading! Tonight I tried your advice though while cleaning the kitchen & he sat right with me & read books from memory (yippee) I have gone so far as to read DS motorcycle coffee table books (which he loves <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and manuals & magazines just to change up from kiddo books & give me a chance to get some reading done <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I love the setting example idea! I'm trying to get through the Davidson's book (which is very emotional for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> and reminds me why I'm researching for my son!) & a couple others- it never dawned on me that he could sit next to me & read too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. Oh and books on tape is brilliant!!! I've never done those- should I get one with a book so he can read along?<br><br>
Sry typos always NAK
 

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I definitely think that you can have too much of a good thing. DS is 4 1/2 and he LOVES computer games. I mean, if allowed, this child would literally spend all day playing his different games. They're educational, and other than the whole hand-eye coordination thing, he is learning from them, but I think most people would agree that letting him spend over 30-60 min every couple days just wouldn't be good for him. Obviously reading is important, and a person can learn so much from it, but I don't think there's anything wrong at all to set a limit on it. It's easy to realize that we need to set limits on the "bad" things, like tv viewing, chocolate cake and so on, but I believe that we should do that for good things as well. For one thing it keeps it "fresh" and for another it saves mom's sanity! LOL! That's not to say it's not ok to let DC spend a day absorbed in what they enjoy. I remember a few days from my childhood spent in my pj's reading all day, and allow the kids the same type of days on occasion. IMO it would appropriate to set a time limit on how long you'll read to him (or whatever) each day, and then let him find other things to interest him. And 4-6 hrs a day? Yeah, you're definitely making the rest of us look bad here!<br><br>
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