What do you do when you tell your children to do something and they refuse? We don't expect our children do things beyond their ability. To clean up their toys, put their dishes on the counter or whatever. Sometimes they both flat out refuse. They are almost 4 and 2. Even the two year old can put his dishes on the counter and sometimes does so without being asked. But there are times both don't want to do something they are told to do. Sometimes it gets really frusterating. So, what do you do?