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DD will be almost 4 when I have the baby. Do you keep your kids there while you birth or do you send them to stay at someone's house? My mom and MIL will probably be there to hang out so technically there will be people to care for her. Is 4 too young to be at a birth? Plus she is a fish and will probably want to be in the pool with me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> If your kids were there did it stress you out?
 

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My DDs were at my 3rd DD's birth 4.5 yrs ago. They were just turned 5yrs and almost 4yrs at the time. They did great, and they were happy to see their new sister be born. My mom and MIL were both there, as well, so they kept the girls occupied while I labored w/ DH. I have no regrets about them being home for it all, and they recall it fondly.<br><br>
To prepare, we watched lots of birth videos and role-played the noises and motions I might make.
 

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DD1 was almost 4y when DD2 was born. She did great, my mom was there to entertain DD1. They made pics for the new bbay, and had planned to nake a cake but didn;t get around to it before DD2 was born. DD1 was a little nervous and scared, but once DD2 was born, she just loved her. All the pics I have of right after DD2 was born, DD1 is hanging over the birth pool touching her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br><br>
That being said, DD1 did drive me nuts during labor. She was just sitting in the kitchen talking to my mom, but her voice was like nails on a chalkboard to me while I was in labor. I had to retreat to the other side of the house and hide. I did love having her through when DD2 was born, it was just during parts of my labor that she annoyed me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Maybe next time I'll have a summer baby and then I can send the DD's outside to paly, where I can't hear them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I understand this question and have wondered it alot lately myself.<br><br>
This is my first homebirth and this is baby #7 for us.<br><br>
My other kids are almost 13, 9,7,5,3 and will be almost 2 when baby is born...<br><br>
My kids are INCREDIBLY busy, and they FIGHT...and I wanna cry sometimes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I plan to have at least 2 people here when I labor who can take them upstairs AWAY form me...<br><br>
I am also praying I go in the middle of the night honestly, THEN we can wake them up for the very very end <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> (the older 5 that is!!)
 

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I'm glad this thread came up! I have never been comfortable with just anyone being at my births. Hated that so many strangers were there in the hospital, so it was the midwives, dh, and me at dd's birth. DS slept through the whole thing. We woke him up after. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I wasn't sure what to do this time around. The nails-on-chalkboard thing cracked me up, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I can easily see that happening this time around. Anyway, the mw suggested I find someone for the kids, just in case, because you never know how the mom will feel or how the kids will respond. My dd tends to get fake-dramatic and ds is still afraid the baby might die. (We lost our 3rd, they're both fully aware of death.)<br><br>
I had no idea who I'd get and I was kinda of stressed over that! But yesterday I was at GoodWillHunter's house and out of the blue I asked if she could be there for the kids, just in case they need someone. She said yes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I feel much more at ease knowing I have a person for them just in case. She can take them outside or off somewhere else completely if it comes to that, and if not, well then she gets to see a homebirth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
At this moment, I would be ok if the kids wanted to be in the pool with me. We'll see how it goes in October. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have two, 4 and 2yr old and have been debating what to do. 4yr would sleep thru it as long as babe was born before dawn, but 2yr? Probably not. I had my mw for a home visit today and the children were all over the place--they are highly active. My sister has said she'll pick them up and bring them back whenever I want and as of today, I don't want them here. I think it will be a total distraction for me. (I tend to not want anyone to talk to me or anything during labor, and I just can't see that happening with them here.) So they'll be happy at auntie's and as she only lives 10 min away, can be here whenever I say. I am happy with this plan. I had originally decided not to have them, changed my mind and thought I'd play it by ear, but it really stressed me out thinking of them waking and I don't want it interfering with my labor. Does that make sense? =)
 

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All of my babies have been born at night so I am trusting this upcoming birth will also be at night.<br><br>
The kids slept through the birth and dh woke them up after to come meet their new sibling. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:<br><br>
I do have somebody to watch them should I have a day birth.
 

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I will be homebirthing in December, my baby I sublet the upstairs apartment to my baby sister, and when the time comes, I will send my kids upstairs with her unless they are sleeping and it is middle of night.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DD will be almost 4 when I have the baby. Do you keep your kids there while you birth or do you send them to stay at someone's house? My mom and MIL will probably be there to hang out so technically there will be people to care for her. Is 4 too young to be at a birth? Plus she is a fish and will probably want to be in the pool with me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> If your kids were there did it stress you out?</div>
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Be prepared to have your feelings change at least once during labor regarding having your childr there (wanting her around, wanting her to GO AWAY, etc.) If you really are set against having her there now, then honor that feeling. If you have a smigin of a feeling you might want DD there, then make arrangements and *communicate* what you want before and during the labor/birth to your helpers. Knowing that you can ask for what you want and that you will be listened to and helped can take some of the stress of the decision away. You'll know better when the time comes, most likely. Every person makes decisions that will fit them best; I am sure you'll find something that fits your needs and DD's needs, too. Best wishes!
 

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4 years old is not too young. Kids aren't traumatized by birth when it's normal. My then 27 month old slept through the birth of my 2nd, but she'd have been w/ us had she been awake.
 
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