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No, he just moved out of state. He took a job in CA about a month or so ago and I'm in OR until we get a place together down there. The first week was torture. I called him in tears for 3 days in a row begging him to quit his job and come home. The kids were miserable, I was miserable, I didn't know how I was going to handle all the kids alone, or how I had ever been a single mom before him. He came home and stayed 3 days and kept reassuring me that it would be ok. Things have been easier since. It's lonely, but I relish the time we talk now and look forward to when I get to see him again.
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in answer to the OP. not much of anything besides shopping when we need to
wow. how pathetic to read that
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wow. how pathetic to read that
Um..what do we do togethor...hmm...
He goes to work, i stya home. i don't see him too much. We argue a healthy amount, we have sex. Occasionally we watch tv togethor, on rare moments I convince him to rub my feet. We talk on the phone about once a day, and argue then .
Honestly we really don't have all that much in common anymore( although, I do not think we ever really DID have all that much in common, but we were Ok with that then...now it seems to make things a touch more interesting though.)
I used to like to go camping with him, now I hate it. We used to spend the entire day in bed, that doesn't ocur anymore. We used to gout to eat, doesn't occur very often..Um..There are many things we USED to do togethor that I have no interest in anymore.
Sad really.
He goes to work, i stya home. i don't see him too much. We argue a healthy amount, we have sex. Occasionally we watch tv togethor, on rare moments I convince him to rub my feet. We talk on the phone about once a day, and argue then .
Honestly we really don't have all that much in common anymore( although, I do not think we ever really DID have all that much in common, but we were Ok with that then...now it seems to make things a touch more interesting though.)
I used to like to go camping with him, now I hate it. We used to spend the entire day in bed, that doesn't ocur anymore. We used to gout to eat, doesn't occur very often..Um..There are many things we USED to do togethor that I have no interest in anymore.
Sad really.
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i am fortunate enough that my SO runs a home business...
what do we do together?
well..... my mac is in his office, so whenever i'm online, he's in there with me. we talk about all kinds of stuff throughout the day... mainly current events / world events, and things that he and i see in forums that we go to. we rant to each other about things that piss us off, the amount of stupidity in the world, etc, and discuss between us issues that were brought up in the forums online.
we watch a lot of movies ~ we do the online DVD rental thingy where you sign up and get a couple of movies for as long as you want... you watch them and send them back and they send you more, for a certain amount of $ a month.
we also listen to audiobooks together, then discuss the story, holes in the plot, characters, etc. basically tear apart the story and discuss what we liked, didn't like, what could have been done better, what made the story good (or bad), etc.
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once i got out the entire Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy "trilogy" from the local library and he and i would stay up after our son went to bed and read it together. that was so fun!
we go out for walks together (usually to the store, which is the only way i can usually coerce him outside :LOL)...
and we play games (on our LAN)... on very rare occasions we pull out the Chinese Checkers board and stay up together, sharing coffee / tea / beer and playing lots of games of Chinese Checkers in a row.
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what do we do together?
well..... my mac is in his office, so whenever i'm online, he's in there with me. we talk about all kinds of stuff throughout the day... mainly current events / world events, and things that he and i see in forums that we go to. we rant to each other about things that piss us off, the amount of stupidity in the world, etc, and discuss between us issues that were brought up in the forums online.
we watch a lot of movies ~ we do the online DVD rental thingy where you sign up and get a couple of movies for as long as you want... you watch them and send them back and they send you more, for a certain amount of $ a month.
we also listen to audiobooks together, then discuss the story, holes in the plot, characters, etc. basically tear apart the story and discuss what we liked, didn't like, what could have been done better, what made the story good (or bad), etc.
once i got out the entire Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy "trilogy" from the local library and he and i would stay up after our son went to bed and read it together. that was so fun!
we go out for walks together (usually to the store, which is the only way i can usually coerce him outside :LOL)...
and we play games (on our LAN)... on very rare occasions we pull out the Chinese Checkers board and stay up together, sharing coffee / tea / beer and playing lots of games of Chinese Checkers in a row.
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We do NetFlix, too Klothos! We really look forward to our movie nights. We even make yummy stove top popper pop corn.
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We occasionally go out to dinner without kids and really enjoy the grown-up time.
We like to do jigsaw puzzles sometimes.
We do web searches and plan our pretend dream vacations (OK-I like this more than he does, but he humors me...
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We teach Sunday School together, so we plan our lessons together. Not very exciting, but it is together.
We run errands together on weekends, with the kids.
Oh yeah, and every once in while we....... ummm, well, you know...
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We occasionally go out to dinner without kids and really enjoy the grown-up time.
We like to do jigsaw puzzles sometimes.
We do web searches and plan our pretend dream vacations (OK-I like this more than he does, but he humors me...
We teach Sunday School together, so we plan our lessons together. Not very exciting, but it is together.
We run errands together on weekends, with the kids.
Oh yeah, and every once in while we....... ummm, well, you know...
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We talk a lot, sometimes mostly about the kids, but also about world events, politics, our families growing up. We play with the kids...games, ball and water fun outside. I also like to plan home projects which dh follows through on to the best of his ability. :LOL
We take lots of drives into the country. We shop, go to the park, take day trips and do hsing field trips together.
When we can...we also..
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We take lots of drives into the country. We shop, go to the park, take day trips and do hsing field trips together.
When we can...we also..
We do the ususal...shopping, eating, visiting family and friends. But our new all time favroite thing to do is geocaching. It gets us out of the house and in nature. We pick up trash along our way, so we feel that we are helping mother earth out. And it's something we can do with our 10M old.
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What we do....
Dh and I have quite a bit in common, which is nice. We play video games, watch movies, do yard work, talk talk and talk, ride the motorcycle (I'm getting my lisence so we can get a second bike.) Motorcycle riding is to become our hobby once the kids are older and once they are grown we will travel the country side by side.
We cook dinner together, exercise together, sing/perform together, shop together, read together, have very frequent "alone" time 9which is always fun
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I think I do everything with him besides breasfeed! Well, he's in the room but its hard for him to participate.
We are pretty much inseperable.
Dh and I have quite a bit in common, which is nice. We play video games, watch movies, do yard work, talk talk and talk, ride the motorcycle (I'm getting my lisence so we can get a second bike.) Motorcycle riding is to become our hobby once the kids are older and once they are grown we will travel the country side by side.
We cook dinner together, exercise together, sing/perform together, shop together, read together, have very frequent "alone" time 9which is always fun
I think I do everything with him besides breasfeed! Well, he's in the room but its hard for him to participate.
We are pretty much inseperable.
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My dh and I are both big history buffs. Right now we are doing research on the origins of our home. We've traced all the previous owners of the land back to 1760. Now we are trying to determine when the present house was built. We like to go to museums and antique stores (we never buy anything). We like to look through old cemeteries. SOmetimes we go to historic re-enactments.
We talk a lot. Watch Law & Order. Do yard work.
And then there's sex.
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My all-time favorite thing to do with dh!!!!
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We talk a lot. Watch Law & Order. Do yard work.
And then there's sex.
DH and I also have everything in common and do everything together. He's my best friend and he's hilarious so I spend a lot of our time together laughing. We also debate a lot, which we both enjoy - we agree to dosagree on many topics. We have very philosophical conversations which I love, and we talk a lot about the arts since we are both artists. I love weekends when he's home.
this weekend we are going to Indiana to a strawberry festival and Sunday to the Chicago blues festival. We are always doing fun things as a family. He's also a great dad and DD spends most of her time with him laughing too.
the only thing we don't do together is have sex.
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: He is going to see a doctor to get help for that one. I told him I was going to have to find a lover if he doesn't get it together sexually. Honestly, a man who doesn't like sex. Have you ever heard of such a thing??? I swear sometimes I think he's a woman
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:...oh, and we don't dance either.. I love to dance but the man has NO rhythm.
this weekend we are going to Indiana to a strawberry festival and Sunday to the Chicago blues festival. We are always doing fun things as a family. He's also a great dad and DD spends most of her time with him laughing too.
the only thing we don't do together is have sex.
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'scuse my ignorance, but what is geocaching?
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in response to the OP... dh and i have a lot in common and we've been pretty inseperable since we met. we are both huge movie fans so a date for us usually consists of him going out and buying a small container of really good ice cream and a new DVD and me getting the kids to bed a little early. he likes it when we pull out the sofa bed in the living room and snuggle there for a while where he doesn't have to share me with the twins.
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we also love thrift store shopping and garage sale-ing. and of course we talk a lot.
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Originally Posted by mraven721 We do the ususal...shopping, eating, visiting family and friends. But our new all time favroite thing to do is geocaching. It gets us out of the house and in nature. We pick up trash along our way, so we feel that we are helping mother earth out. And it's something we can do with our 10M old. |
in response to the OP... dh and i have a lot in common and we've been pretty inseperable since we met. we are both huge movie fans so a date for us usually consists of him going out and buying a small container of really good ice cream and a new DVD and me getting the kids to bed a little early. he likes it when we pull out the sofa bed in the living room and snuggle there for a while where he doesn't have to share me with the twins.
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Dh works all day, and I work 1/2 days so when he gets home, we eat dinner together, talk, have some wine.
Sometimes we'll go on a walk around the neighborhood w/ the kids.
We look around on the internet for information on his boat, or sometimes he'll read some MDC stuff with me. He finds it very interesting.
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We flirt a lot, have sex, (not as much as he would like though
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We have Netflix also, and love it. We usually watch movies together on the weekends while the kids take their nap. We used to snack on popcorn, but lately it's been crackers & hummus...yum!
We shop & run errands together when possible, and visit family on the weekends.
He does a lot of work on his boat, truck, and my car so the kids & I are often outside with him just talking, while he tries to explain to me what he's doing.
Sometimes we'll go on a walk around the neighborhood w/ the kids.
We look around on the internet for information on his boat, or sometimes he'll read some MDC stuff with me. He finds it very interesting.
We flirt a lot, have sex, (not as much as he would like though
We have Netflix also, and love it. We usually watch movies together on the weekends while the kids take their nap. We used to snack on popcorn, but lately it's been crackers & hummus...yum!
We shop & run errands together when possible, and visit family on the weekends.
He does a lot of work on his boat, truck, and my car so the kids & I are often outside with him just talking, while he tries to explain to me what he's doing.
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WE used to do tons of stuff before DD. Now we take walks (the three of us), we sometimes go bowling (the three of us), we go window shopping, do minature golf, work on the house or the landscaping or garden. Everything we do, we do with DD... we're the 3 muskateers now LOL
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I (usually) work at home, so we end up calling/emailing a couple times a day (cuz sometimes it gets lonely with nobody to talk to...). We try to eat dinner together a couple times a week (this week, we'll eat dinner together twice) but we each have so much going on in the evenings this doesn't happen as often as we'd like.
In the mornings before DH pushes off to work, we skim the paper together and chat about what's going on (and we always read the comics). We like to go for walks in the park together, or go inline skating.
We attempt to go out for a drink or dinner once a week for some one-on-one time but this doesn't always happen (though we've done well for the last couple of weeks).
Our favourite thing right now is planning all the details for our new home, which is being built as I type. Things like tile samples and curtains and furniture layouts. All kinds of fun stuff.
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In the mornings before DH pushes off to work, we skim the paper together and chat about what's going on (and we always read the comics). We like to go for walks in the park together, or go inline skating.
We attempt to go out for a drink or dinner once a week for some one-on-one time but this doesn't always happen (though we've done well for the last couple of weeks).
Our favourite thing right now is planning all the details for our new home, which is being built as I type. Things like tile samples and curtains and furniture layouts. All kinds of fun stuff.
My dh works 12 hour night shifts so it makes it hard to be together sometimes as he is gone all night then spends a great deal of the day sleeping.
On his days off we do everything together unless I sneak off some Saturday morning for yardsales.
We have seen each other every single day for well over 7 years.
We miss each other at night while he is working so we call each other.
We dont get out much just us 2, we like to keep our little family together.
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On his days off we do everything together unless I sneak off some Saturday morning for yardsales.
We have seen each other every single day for well over 7 years.
We miss each other at night while he is working so we call each other.
We dont get out much just us 2, we like to keep our little family together.
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In response to the OP... my husband travels. He is gone about half of the month including some weekends and more often than not holidays. When he is home we are inseperable. We run errands together, pick up the house together, visit friends together, care for our DD together, etc., etc. We have started bike riding together with our DD in a trailer - loads of fun and we really enjoy doing it together.
He is a wonderful man and I really enjoy spending time with him
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