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Making a list for DH of things I would like him to do.<br><br>
One of them for me is a massage or foot rub without expecting anything in return and no action.<br><br>
be realistic please haha
 

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take out the trash<br>
fold <b>&</b> put away the laundry<br>
buy me little "treats" when I'm having a bad day (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies//2cents.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="2 cents">: chocolates)<br>
give me a Mothering subscription<br>
take DD for 2 hours on the weekend for a "daddy adventure"<br>
let me sleep in
 

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I LOVE that he somehow senses when I'm having a rough evening and takes it upon himself to cook dinner and clean the kitchen without even being asked.<br><br>
I would love if he would take all 3 kids sometimes and let me just do something for myself. DH, if you're reading this, the time when I'm mopping or showering does not count.
 

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When I've had a really really bad day, DH fixes me a drink, shoos into the bathroom for a long hot bath, and sits outside the door and with his guitar and takes requests.<br><br>
I really like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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what DP already does:<br>
buy me a chocolate pretty much every night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
make me sandwiches when i go away for a weekend<br>
have a major clean up of the house about once a week<br><br>
what i'd like him to do:<br>
let me sleep in a couple of times a week (yeah right...can see this happening)<br>
take DS out for a walk on days when he doesn't have to be at work before noon<br>
ask me about my writing activities and show an interest in them<br>
suggest activities for us to do together<br><br>
Knockeupbuttercup, I LOVE what your DH does for you! that's so romantic!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When I've had a really really bad day, DH fixes me a drink, shoos into the bathroom for a long hot bath, and sits outside the door and with his guitar and takes requests.<br><br>
I really like that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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That is very sweet, you are a lucky lady!<br><br>
My Dh Gets up with the kids an hour earlier than he needs to for work. He takes the kids downstairs, so i get the bed to myself for a whole hour.<br>
He is teaching himself to cook, so i am not the only one who has to make dinner.<br>
He gives me an adjustment whenever i need one (he is a chiro)<br>
He holds our fussy baby at dinner so I can eat first!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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This is what I would love. I would love it if DH could be more in tune with my feelings and my emotions.<br><br>
I have to spell everything out for him, usually several times before he catches on. Even then he doesn't seem to remember anything.
 

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DH comes home and helps me clean. I never have to clean the whole house by myself.<br>
He rubs my feet at night.<br>
Takes our DS so that I can get some time to myself.<br>
makes dinner and cleans up the kitchen.<br>
whenever i sit down to nurse, he brings me water and the remote.<br>
does the diaper laundry<br>
tells me i am beautiful almost every day<br>
kisses my stretchmarks and says they are lovely because they gave him his son <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When I've had a really really bad day, DH fixes me a drink, shoos into the bathroom for a long hot bath, and sits outside the door and with his guitar and takes requests.</div>
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Wow.<br><br>
That seems like something in a movie...or fairy tale.<br><br>
You are very lucky!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DH is up very early and brings me a cup of coffee in bed every morning. Can't ask for more!</div>
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That's what my DP does, and he walks the dogs!<br><br>
He pretty much does everything I could want. When I was in law school and he'd come to my house before I got home, he'd wash my dishes and clean my kitchen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">: Now he calls to check in a lot if he's traveling to see his daughter out of state, or like this weekend when he's on a charity bike ride.<br><br>
He encourages me in my business and encourages me to open up and talk to him.<br><br>
The only thing he could improve on is his foot rubs, but I have a wonderful massage therapist who can take care of that need.<br><br>
yukookoo, what do you do for your DH that he likes for which you expect nothing in return? that might give you some guidance for your list. Did he ask you to make a list, or is this something you are planning on giving to him?
 

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This is easy.<br><br>
I love that my DH washes dishes and makes coffee.<br><br>
Sounds boring, but these are two superior qualities to me when I come home to a clean kitchen, and wake up to coffee on the weekend mornings.<br><br>
I sometimes wish he'd get up earlier during the week for a nice breakfast with us and go to bed earlier, but I'm not going to push my luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
The man may drive me nuts, but overall he's a delight.
 

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I love when DH...<br><br>
BBQs when I've had a long/bad day and don't feel like cooking<br>
Leaves me the last... cup of coffee, scoop of ice cream, bowl of strawberries<br>
Cleans the house when I go anywhere and he's left home<br>
Buys me little things when he goes shopping<br>
Lets me sleep in on his days off (he always makes a big breakfast too)<br>
Takes care of the kids during my after dinner baths<br>
Gardens - soooo cute to see him growing veggies and tending to the fruits<br><br>
DH <b>used to</b> give me back rubs every night when I was pregnant with both kids... not anymore. He buys me massages at the spa, but it's just not the same.
 

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My husband does all of the vacuuming (I hate the stupid vacuum) and most of the dishes. He does about half of the laundry which is great.<br>
He gives great massages (he's had training!!).<br>
If I am sad or bored he reads me books and he does <i>great</i> voices.<br>
He is giddy as a little boy when he sees me after a day at work and he always grabs me for hugs and kisses.<br>
He respects my larger than average personal space needs and keeps his foot next to mine on the couch so that I know he wants to touch me but is refraining to be nice. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
If I express unhappiness about something he has done he wants to talk about it in depth so he will really understand the core issue instead of fixing a surface symptom.<br>
He dances with me even though he doesn't like to dance.<br><br>
There is lots more but I need to go eat the lunch he made me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I love that my husband drags himself out of bed at 6:00 am every day and goes to work in a bureaucratic rat race and still manages to be a level headed, up-beat person when he gets home. He's amazing.<br><br>
I wish my husband would FINALLY get it, that about a week before my period I get touchy and my libido plunges. I just need him to be hands off and not be needful at that time. Or I will bite his head off. And it's been this way for 14 years and it's like it's a revelation to him EVERY MONTH! I've kindly spelled it out to him and clearly stated that this isn't personal, I'm not rejecting his penis <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> and that I'd be a little stand off-ish with whomever my mate is, not just him. I would love it if we didn't have to go through this once every month.<br><br>
However, side by side, I'm willing to take the monthly pout to get the emotionally stable cheeriness. Basically he's a great guy.
 

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What he already does that I love:<br>
-He totally helps with the house. Actually he puts me to shame when it comes to laundry.<br>
-He spoons me at night even though I know he's more of a back sleeper.....just cause he knows I like that.<br>
-He'll go wherever...I know sometimes he'd rather sit at home and watch yet another rerun of Ice Road Truckers but if I suggest beach, D-land, whatever (I'm a bit of a go go go person) he'll get ready and go...<br>
-He picks up the dog poop even though its the yuck job...in 100 degree heat so that I dont have to.<br>
-Supports my "dream" even though its been a rough start and I've spent a lot of time and money towards it.<br>
-When he comes home from work and can tell its been a rough day and he just grabs the hopscotch chalk and goes outside with the kids....lol<br><br>
What I'd like him to do:<br>
Pick something. Anything. Where to eat, where to go, what concert to pick, what movie, what job he'd actually like.....anything. He's SOOO go with the flow, which is good...but sometimes I'd like him to actually decide fully on something....without worrying about what other people think, me included.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If I express unhappiness about something he has done he wants to talk about it in depth so he will really understand the core issue instead of fixing a surface symptom.</div>
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Whoa.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><br><br>
Men do this?<br><br>
Really?<br><br>
This is my dream for my DH, but he never listens, and doesn't even care what my unhappiness was caused by, and doesn't even stay on the issue long enough to know what caused it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: He calls that dwelling when we haven't even discussed it or figured it out.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I love when DH...<br><br>
BBQs when I've had a long/bad day and don't feel like cooking<br>
Leaves me the last... cup of coffee, scoop of ice cream, bowl of strawberries<br>
Cleans the house when I go anywhere and he's left home<br>
Buys me little things when he goes shopping<br>
Lets me sleep in on his days off (he always makes a big breakfast too)<br>
Takes care of the kids during my after dinner baths<br>
Gardens - soooo cute to see him growing veggies and tending to the fruits<br><br>
DH <b>used to</b> give me back rubs every night when I was pregnant with both kids... not anymore. He buys me massages at the spa, but it's just not the same.</div>
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Again, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><br><br>
I'm reading these lists and I'm thinking I wish and hope my DH would do half of these things.<br><br>
My DH would rather watch tv than garden (it's a sore spot with us).<br><br>
He mainly eats junk food so he'd never leave any of those kinds of foods for me since he has his own junk food stash.<br><br>
Never does anything unless asked at least twice with some prodding.<br><br>
Never lets me sleep in and says since I'm a SAHM and he has to get up and go to work he likes to sleep in on weekends himself.<br><br>
Never any little or big gifts, and wouldn't know where a spa is or how to phone one to buy a gift certificate for that. I'd die of shock if he ever did something like that.<br><br>
In more than 10 years with him, I can count on three fingers who many times I've gotten flowers and at least one time was one he was pressured by a co-worker to buy them for fundraising.<br><br>
Ok, now I know I'm sounding kind of bad...but seriously, your husbands do these things? For real?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I wish my husband would FINALLY get it, that about a week before my period I get touchy and my libido plunges. I just need him to be hands off and not be needful at that time. Or I will bite his head off. And it's been this way for 14 years and it's like it's a revelation to him EVERY MONTH! I've kindly spelled it out to him and clearly stated that this isn't personal, I'm not rejecting his penis <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> and that I'd be a little stand off-ish with whomever my mate is, not just him. I would love it if we didn't have to go through this once every month.</div>
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My DH acts like this too.<br><br>
And if I act irritated at another time of the month, because of something he did, he says, "must be that time of the month." That is so irritating to me because it is no where near that time of the month...I'm just irritated with him and something bad that he did! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Bugs me every time. I wish he wouldn't do that.
 
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