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Heres my situation:<br>
I rent a duplex and my neighbors have filthy diseased children. Im not kidding or exagerrating. The kids, age 9 and 2, have chronic communicable illnesses (viruses, various infections, etc) and the households hygene is poor. I dont interract with this family much beyond socializing on the front porch. Here I am, pregnant, playing with the 2 yr old when the mom tells me, in a casual manner, about the girls staph infection. Or the other day when Im playing with the kids and it turns out they have strep. Now I know kids get sick and its normal, but Ive never seen anything like this. The family is seriously dirty.<br><br>
So I dont want them touching my son. Basically not ever. Whats a good response? I know they will want to touch him so I was thinking I would say "No, the pediatrician says he has a weak immune system" but that sounds kind of lame to me..<br><br>
What do you tell people who want to touch your newborn?
 

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lol, thats so direct! I dont want to hurt their feelings but i guess that <i>would</i> get the point across very firmly!
 

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in a way that "your kids gave the baby a staph infection that I have to care for" never could.<br>
I just don't want to play that game myself - staph is NOT a small deal!!! Neither are the hoard of other things it sounds like this family isn't too worried about.<br>
I am all about germs strengthen the immune system, but really now - staph? strep? those can both be really dangerous, especially to a LO with an still developing immune system.<br>
"Please, Please DON"T breath near the baby... or touch it... or look at it, (I'll send pictures!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><br>
added to say: plus it's MUCH nicer than, (to the parents of course) "your family seems to have some, uh..., health... hmmm, <i>issues</i>... You'll understand if I don't let you near the baby until his, erm..., immune system is... FULLY developed, right?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Usually I don't have a problem with folks touching DS, especially where we live since its a cultural thing to walk up and touch and coo at a baby, but this sounds serious. I would say "Please, don't touch the baby" or "I would rather you not touch him" or just try to avoid these people. Or you could move <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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i usually just put it on myself and say "oh please don't touch him, new mommy paranoia!" plus i'd probably do my best to just avoid them. that's really sad for those poor kids!
 

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Some of these responses make me lol :><br><br>
I think I will blame it on myself, thats a good idea. They already know Im "weird" bc I dont let their kids pick up my chihuahuas so if I just blame myself that should work. Plus I plan on babywearing which should fend off some hands.<br><br>
Its hard to avoid people whos front door is like 2 feet from mine :/ I try already. It is sad for the kids. CPS has threatened to take them before for various reasons.. I dont think they need to be removed, I think their mom needs to be educated! She even works in food service so you would think hygene wouldnt be a problem in their house. Then again, the fast food restaurant she works at doesnt enforce their glove policy so they cross contaminate all the time and touch ppls food with no gloves! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">: It grossed me out so bad I quit working there and wont let my husband eat their food...<br><br>
Im glad Im not the only momma bear who feels all "No touchy" about her babies!
 

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I TOTALLY feel you, mama. I'm a keep-your-damn-hands-off-my-child type myself. The baby wearing REALLY helps, although it doesn't eliminate the issue entirely. One of my tactics is to hold both of Curran's hands in my hands as soon as a stranger approaches, that way they can't touch his hands (which of course are always in his mouth). Consequently, people will touch his feet, which bothers me a lot less. I also tend to turn slightly away as they reach for him and say something like "He's shy" and smile while projecting the firm, boundary setting vibe. Usually works well.<br><br>
This is truly a challenge for many women, I think, and forces us to get in touch with our inner "mama-bear" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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i wear my babies and give the "dont you dare touch my baby" look.<br><br>
if they get aggressive with it i back away. not joking.<br><br>
a woman came at me all quick at ajs the other day. im not a huge germ worrier at all. but i have a very large personal space. she was all "HOW OLD? WHAT IS IT? WHATS THE NAME!?"<br><br>
I literally backed away and covered the baby with the sling tail.<br><br>
do people not get that we may not want them 2 inches from our babies face??<br><br>
ugh.<br><br>
sorry sep. rant
 

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I've told people on many occasions to not touch my baby plain and simple. I figure I'd never really find a tactful way to go about it and lots of times they rush out of thin air to so i got over feeling bad about hurting feelings and just said what I was thinking.
 

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We have the same neighbors! The kids next door would literally run at me with their arms out yelling let me see the baby with snot all over their face and coughing all over <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I would have him in the sling and say "please don't touch the baby, he is still really little and can't handle kids touching him". It was direct but got the point across and their mom always called them off when I came out.
 
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