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I have decided to delay the rest of my son's vaccines until he is 2 years or older. He doesn't go to daycare & isn't close to being school aged so I'm not that concerned with him catching diseases. I followed the schedule here in my province in Canada for his 2,4, & 6 month shots but I am stopping there until later. I will not be getting the chicken pox vaccine ever for him or hep B (which they do in grade 7 here).<br><br>
So my GF took her DS in for his menigitis & MMR 2 days ago. My son is older than her son by a few days so normally I'm the one that ends up going to well baby apts before she does but my apt with my Dr is on the 25th because my DR is on holidays this week. At that apt I will be telling her no more vaccines until further notice, I told the receptionist when I made the apt. I debated telling my GF that I'm delaying my DS's shots because I don't like to influence people in their decisions, but I ended up telling her after she had taken her son. She asked me why & I just told her I'm not confortable with all the vaccines that they give these days & left it at that. She didn't push any further & I didn't elaborate on why I'm not comfortable.<br><br>
So do your friends think you are weird for not vaccinating or delaying & what do you say? I don't want to scare people in my reason's why so I haven't told anyone what I'm going to do really except my mom that is fully behind my decisions.
 

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I generally don't unless it comes up. Now, if it comes up or if people ask if we do, I explain as briefly as possible our reasons for not vaccinating (which are many).
 

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i don't bring it up but if it comes up i give the short answer and go from there. My short answer is actually a question "Do you know what all is in those things?)
 

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I wouldn't say anything at all. It's private medical information, and not something I want widely known. I'm not interested in convincing other people not to vax, or "spreading the word." I honestly don't think it helps, because for most people it's so ingrained that you just sound like a wacko.<br><br>
If at all possible, I'd punt and do a "smile and nod" routine. It hasn't really come up for us yet, though.<br><br>
Also, ignorance works pretty well. If I just say, "Oh, I'm not sure; all I know is she's had everything her doctor recommended" I sound like a pretty good parent because I followed my doctor's recommendation, and lots of people don't know everything on the schedule. The bonus for me is that that response is true, so I don't have to feel guilty about saying it. (I don't like lying.)<br><br>
I am perfectly willing to let someone tell me how great the flu vax is and how I just *have* to get it for my whole family. Changing the subject is soooo much easier than explaining why I don't get the flu vax.<br><br>
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I haven't told anyone. I don't see why it's any of their business really. If it comes up in conversation I'm not going to lie but I'm also not going to tolerate any kind of debate or anything along those lines. If they're truly interested in learning more I'll tell them some book names and websites to visit and leave it at that. I'm just not terribly interested in borrowing trouble when I don't have to.
 

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My best GF has a daughter around my son's age, and while she's vaxing, she's an MDC mama too and understands where I'm coming from. We have an unspoken arrangement: I don't try to sway her, and she doesn't judge me. It helps that I'm also her daycare provider, lol. So the days after her dd gets shots, I'm about as vigilant a person as you can find when it comes to potential reactions. And she's nice enough not to ask me to change diapers after her dd's had her Rotateq (which, after this last round, she's decided to skip next time :p)<br><br>
With other friends, I don't say anything at all. I treat it like the family discussion. I don't want to go crusading and I don't think I can change anyone's mind, so I either say nothing or lie. I had to lie to my mom about it. And it sucked. But you pick your battles, and unfortunately, to a great many people, vaxing is a no-brainer. Actually ... haha ... that's kind of the problem, isn't it?
 

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If people ask, I tell them.<br><br>
Not a problem. no one has freaked out on me or anything...yet.<br><br>
Even my daycare provider is cool.
 

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If I think someone will be receptive to the debate, I might bring it up. Otherwise, I wait until it comes up. Then, I give my reasons.
 

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I usually don't discuss it. I don't talk about the other things in my childrens' medical records, so why talk about vax?
 

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Depends on the friend... I have one friend who is very likeminded and when she was talking about her doctor wanting to give her daughter the first of her shots at 1 month (when the package specifically said not before 6 weeks) I warned her and used that as our entrance into talking about what I know.<br><br>
She's now a delayer for sure, possible a not doing them at all'er <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Most people would either think I was crazy or think I was negligent though so I don't bring it up.
 

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I am learning the hard way that nothing good comes from telling, unless you are asked by someone who is on the fence.<br>
,,,Had a mature woman who overheard my conversation practically accuse me of neglect<br>
... had a mom physically move back, away from my daughter and I at the news.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I actually told a "barely" friend today. I say barely a friend because I do not know her well...she and her son attend a Kindermusik class that I attend with my son. Funny that when I told her she asked if I was not giving him vaccines because I was scared of autism. I told her that was only a tiny slice of the pie...that there are so many reasons.<br><br>
I actually got tickled because she said she had read some on the topic but felt like there was no autism in her family so she didn't have to worry. She did say she delayed his most recent round of shots by 2 months to "give him more time" to recover from his previous round. At that point I just mentioned that I was uncomfortable with the ingredients and feel that there is little known about what these vaccines are doing to ALL of us.<br><br>
I think I actually spurred her to go home and do more research! I told her what started me was knowing that in cats -- when they give a vaccine they actually teach vets to give it in the extremity so that if/when the vaccine causes a tumor they can remove the limb...as if it is OKAY that the reaction to the vaccine is a deadly tumor!
 

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wow, i'm surprised that the typical reponse is not to say anything. it seems that most of us are afraid that whoever it is were are talking with will think we are nuts and brush us off. i can see being discrete about it with who you tell, but don't you think you have a responsibility to share the things you've learned with others so maybe their kids have a chance to escape vaccinations?? i sure would want someone to share that kind of info with me. i think most people are at least willing to consider what you have to say about it, especially if you present them with a logical argument. just my 2 cents.
 

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Honestly. I'm finding more and more of my friends also didn't vax, or partially vax'd or forgot to go in and get the rest done. Those who do vax and know I don't it really isn't an issue between us. They are also the ones who if I explain some of the things about them they are shocked and often po'd that they were not told those things. It is funny though because they tend to have that nervous look on their face(the same one I probably have at the same time,lol) and then once they find out you do the same their faces relax.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">wow, i'm surprised that the typical reponse is not to say anything. it seems that most of us are afraid that whoever it is were are talking with will think we are nuts and brush us off. i can see being discrete about it with who you tell, but don't you think you have a responsibility to share the things you've learned with others so maybe their kids have a chance to escape vaccinations?? i sure would want someone to share that kind of info with me. i think most people are at least willing to consider what you have to say about it, especially if you present them with a logical argument. just my 2 cents.</div>
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I'm surprised too -- I tell my friends b/c they are my friends and will be my friend irregardless. They all know me and they know that when I research something enough to talk about it I know what I am talking about! I have influenced a few and am glad for that b/c I care about their children and would hate for something terrible to happen. I don't go around mentioning it to the world at random, but I definitely tell my friends.
 

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For me it depends on the relationship with the person.<br>
Most of my close friends I can tell anything too and they'll be cool. Some other friends I know it's best to just not go there. They read, know the risks and still choose vax, so that's their call and no point arguing. Vax safety is so ingrained in our society that you could tell em it'd make their kid purple, blind, throw up and they'd still choose it cause it's better then the "deadly disease."
 

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Well, most of my friends here don't vaccinate. We're moving soon, and that'll change. I don't plan to bring it up unless they do.
 

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Having a vaccine-free child is not something usual where I live. Although most of my friend's children have had a few, some are totally vaccine-free. It is not really a subject that we discuss unless a friend feels that their child has been affected adversly by vaccines and wants reassurance to stop or resources to research the subject further.
 

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My like minded friends are well aware of my status on vaxing. However, I don't mention it to others who I think do vax because lots of them might not fully understand. I would be honest if someone asked me. In fact, I did mention it to an acquaintance whose child studies with mine and she said when she had her last child nearly 2 yrs ago, she did some research and questioned them but felt reassured by a doctor relative and did them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 
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