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And which of these do you think is closer to how others see you?<br><br>
It's weird, when I look in the mirror, somehow I just think I look good. Sometimes better than others, but never truly awful. I just can't seem to see a photo of myself without thinking OMG! I am so haggard-looking, my face is all angular, I look sickly skinny, I look ancient! I have got to put on some weight and makeup, and get some clothes that fit! (I have had some health problems this year, but I'm recovering.)<br><br>
Then back to the mirror, and I swear I don't see that skinny, drawn, sickly face. I see - well - I see someone sort of pretty!<br><br>
OK and in the past (and maybe future for all I know) I've had my share of weight issues mainly in the other direction - I've been 30, 40 pounds overweight a few times (lost it and gained it back again). But the mirror thing is the same. I would see a photo and say to myself, oh dear, I should not be wearing that outfit, it's too tight! Or, wow, I didn't realize I was sporting a double chin!<br><br>
Yet the mirror shows the same old me. Looking pretty good. Perhaps not great but good. Not department store mirrors, mind you - those are tough for whatever reason, and you'd think they'd want to have mirrors that make you look good - after all they are trying to <b>sell</b> you the clothes (which I, at least, will then take home and think I look good in).<br><br>
So, am I just crazy? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Am I maybe just ultra-un-photogenic? Because another thing is that people have always told me that I look good, like even now when the photos show this sickly skinny drawn-faced old lady, I have people coming up to me saying they are envious of how good I look. Are they lying? Is my mirror lying? Do photos lie? I'm not obsessed with looks really, I don't wear makeup or "do" anything with my hair or spend a lot of time on my clothes.... I just wonder about the BIG discrepancy.<br><br>
Anyone else?
 

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I don't think she's the end-all-be-all expert of the world, but Marilyn vos Savant just answered a question about this last weekend in her Parade magazine column. <a href="http://www.parade.com/articles/editions/2006/edition_10-08-2006/Ask_Marilyn" target="_blank">Here</a> is a link to the column... scroll down to the 6th question. I don't know if her reply is right or not (she says a big part of it is lighting and that what you see in the mirror is more accurate), but I did find it comforting.
 

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that is so weird i was thinking about this yesterday when i was trying to take a good pic of myself and i couldnt... then i went to the bathroom mirror and started talking to myself and making my normal facial expressions to see how i look <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , i sure hope i dont look like i do in picures!!
 

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This is why I am allergic to cameras. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I've got to go with the belief that the mirror is more accurate. I'm not a photogenic person, but I feel pretty good about what I see in the mirror every day.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I have wondered this myself! I'll think I look okay, then later see a photo of myself....Dear Lord, is that me?!?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:
 

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I had to laugh at the department store mirrors part.... because they are always awful! But the worst part is... I dont have a mirror that shows anything below the shoulders in the house. I am always really shocked by photos... I am really bottom heavy. Even when I think I look pretty good I look pretty awful in photos.<br>
Then I just blame it on my partner.... can't he take a good photograph? I seem to have no problem!
 

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Ugh. Yes. I totally relate to this. I'll think I look perfectly acceptable when I look in the mirror before leaving my house, and then when I get random pictures taken of me, my hair looks frizzy and awful, my facial expression looks wacky, my arms look big, and some part of my wardrobe always looks mangled. Why is this?!
 

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God, I hope that the mirror is more accurate. Because I'm the same way- I think I'm much cuter in the mirror than in photos.
 

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LOL, I'm the same way.. I thought I was crazy, but guess not! Interesting about being used to the reverse image of ourselves.<br><br>
(Oh, and I love the "milk isn't neccessary" article right after the photo one!)
 

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When I look in the mirror I think I look OK When I see a picture of myself it is always a shock, I can't believe how much weight I have gained that I don't notice in the mirror. In my mind I'm still the weight I was 12 years ago, until forced to confront reality. Ya, I have body issues. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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My mom has some neurological stuff, and her mouth is a little twisted. I barely notice it, and if you met her you would barely notice it either. But I've stood next to her looking in a mirror, and it's much more noticeable. My mom thinks her mouth looks grotesque, but really the mirror distorts it.
 

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I’m the same way – I think I look fine in mirrors but not so hot in lots of pictures. BUT, my mind has been changed somewhat on how pictures can make you look.<br><br>
The thing about it is, DD’s the cutest person on the entire planet, and we even get bad pictures of HER sometimes! Her eyes half-lidded looking like she’s drunk, with a double chin, a weird angle that makes her face look flat, etc. If the camera can capture a bad picture of a perfect, beautiful, flawless baby, well, just imagine what it can do to adults!<br><br>
So I feel a lot better about seeing bad pictures of me now.
 

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I too hope the mirror is more accurate. I think I look pretty good in the mirror, but recoil at most pictures of myself. Videotape is even worse.<br><br>
Dh agrees that I look better in person than in pictures, but of course he'd be pretty stupid to say otherwise.
 

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This fascinates me.<br><br>
I take horrible pictures. I'm not gorgeous. I'm not hideous. Just average. But what I see in the mirror doesn't match at all what I see in photos. I tend to think people see me as the Me in the photo.<br><br>
Conversely, someone I know who looks OK in real life yet takes beautiful photos. Something about being caught in a moment...she comes off as ethereal and quite striking in pictures. Weird thing, perception.
 

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i'm always shocked to see how big i am in pictures <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i thought i might have reverse body dysmorphic issues- seriously. i think i look pretty darn cute in the mirror & then i'll se a picture and really be thrown by it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When I look in the mirror I think I look OK When I see a picture of myself it is always a shock, I can't believe how much weight I have gained that I don't notice in the mirror. In my mind I'm still the weight I was 12 years ago, until forced to confront reality. Ya, I have body issues. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"></div>
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odd.<br>
I feel the opposite. I hate how I look in mirrors, but when I see pictures of myself I think I look a lot better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">
 

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I have had many photos really bother me too. In the mirror everything is great...then I see the photo. But, I agree with a PP, I have taken some awful looking photos of my kids, and they never look like that!!
 
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