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Ok, dd is almost 5 months old and honestly, sometimes I think that I should be doing so much more with her. We get out everyday because I would go crazy otherwise. Other than that...she spends a lot of time in her excersaucer/bouncy thing because she <b>loves</b> to jump or she spends a lot of time on my lap with me bouncing her. We do go to a baby class once a week and we have friends over a few times a week and a standing "playdate" with a friend and her baby on Fridays.<br><br>
But, I don't know...it just seems like I should be doing more with her. And I feel guilty that I really like it when she takes a nap in the afternoon.<br><br>
Does anyone else every feel like...they should be doing more? Or am I just paranoid?
 

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My 5mo's days were filled with museum visits, astronomy studies, poetry readings, and political rallies...<br><br>
No, just kidding. Basically it went something like:<br><br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
walk around in sling<br>
nurse<br>
nap*<br>
diaper<br>
nurse<br>
go outside (if nice) in sling<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nap*<br>
nurse<br><br>
*favored time for showering and other non-essential mom activities<br><br>
Sounds like you are doing fine! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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LOL, I tried to start a journal of my days yesterday, but I couldn't find the time to write it all down!!!<br><br>
But my experience is the more they sleep the happier they are. My kids always fuss when they are over tired, so the majority of the day is trying to help them sleep. Second to that eatting. 10 min on the floor for a baby is a long playtime - at least for my kids.
 

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I read something that said usually the moms who are worrying about not doing enough with their baby and providing enough stimulation are the ones who do not need to worry!! I always wonder about this too. I wish I could just peek in on other SAHM's w/o them knowing so I could see what they are doing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> My 6 month old likes to "help" fold laundry and do other chores (her favorite is to throw her socks into the bowls that mommy is cooking in-don't ask how she manages this)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> and play/roll on the floor with her toys as well as accompany mommy on errands or visits with friends. She is pretty energized so she spends a lot of her day on the floor. We also go outside when it is nice..there is so much for her to see, but she also finds amusement in the carpet. I'm sure your doing a great job. Baby will let you know if they get bored or need a change of scenery. Overstimulation backfires too, christmastime was MISERABLE for dd!
 

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I just wanted to say that I found that period between when my son was about 5 months until he got crawling about the hardest because I *wasn't* sure what to do with him and it seemed very... fraught, and a little boring. It gets more exciting, honest. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I took some classes (salsababies (dance wearing the baby) and Mother Goose just to have a bit of structure to our week and that's around when I started looking for other moms to hang out with too. We danced a lot and went for walks where I showed him things and let him feel leaves, etc. etc. But most of those things were more for me than for him. I'm glad though because now it's all his agenda! (18 mos <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">) He does, however, seem to love all the music we listened and danced to together during that time so be careful what you pick. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Shockingly I can't remember when DS was 5 months (and he's only 18 months, so it wasn't that long ago!!).<br><br>
I'm pretty sure the day consisted of sleeping, eating, playing! If you're worried about what to do with DC, or feel like you should be doing more, I always found doing a search on the internet for games and activities really helpful.<br><br>
You can find alot of interesting ideas, plus toys to make (simple things like a plastic bottle (sealed tightly!!) filled with water, food colouring, glitter and some beads - babies LOVE to watch it. Or a bottle filled with rice to shake. I like to make simple toys because it gives me something to do as well, and I love watching DS enjoy something that I made!)<br><br>
Or, put DC in the highchair, mix up a paste of flour and water (food colour if you want too) and let them squish it, and generally just make a mess!! Best to do this somewhere there isn't carpet, or with a plastic mat down - flour and water STICKS to carpet!! I learnt the hard way unfortunately!<br><br>
Or put on some music and dance around with your baby.<br><br>
Sing action songs / rhymes like "Round and Round the Garden" or "This Little Piggy". Old MacDonald was always a huge favourite with my DS!<br><br>
Is this the kind of advice you were looking for?<br><br>
And remember, there is nothing wrong with letting your baby just look around and discover the world! Don't feel like you need to be entertaining / stimulating every waking minute - she'll let you know if she gets bored and wants Mama!<br><br>
Also, do the house work while baby is in a sling. Loading the washing machine is very interesting when you don't have to do it everyday!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Talking! Lots of talking! Narrate your day. If DD spins a toy on her exersaucer tell her the noise it's making ("Wow! That makes a loud rattle, doesn't it?!"), what colour her t-shirt is when you're dressing her ("Shall we put on your green t-shirt today?!"), count the clothes as you're putting them in the washing machine, what something feels like when she touches it - it'll soon become second nature, and you're constantly teaching her about language, sights, sounds, smells, colours, numbers etc!<br><br>
ETA: I hope this doesn't come off as holier than thou! There are definitely days when I feel like I should be doing more with DS! Despite what the masses would like you to believe there is no such thing as SuperMum! You sound like you're doing an excellent job!!
 

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My favorite thing was to read out loud to ds, from whatever book *I* was reading. At that age they don't care much about content, they like the sound of your voice and the different cadence that comes with reading out loud instead of regular conversation. I knew that as he got older, busier, more verbal, and took less naps it would be much more difficult for awhile to read for myself so I got in as much as I could while he was still so little.<br><br>
You sound like you are doing way more with your baby than I did with mine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Our days were much like other posters have described.<br>
wake/nurse<br>
diaper<br>
nurse<br>
hold baby while getting myself some breakfast<br>
nurse while eating<br>
diaper<br>
baby watches mommy take shower (peek-a-boo!)<br>
nurse<br>
get dressed<br>
diaper<br>
try to eat a shoe-how fascinating<br>
nurse down for nap (exploring shoes is tiring work you know)<br>
mommy naps with baby<br>
wake/nurse<br>
diaper<br>
practice rolling<br>
find out carpets don't feel nice on the tongue<br>
nurse (to take away icky carpet taste)<br>
diaper<br>
watch mommy cook supper (from arms or bouncy seat, depending on what's cooking)<br>
how did we miss lunch? again?!<br>
daddy's home! woo-hoo!<br>
nurse baby while eating supper<br>
etc...
 

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Now is a good age to let your DC begin exploring different textures so maybe put together a little basket that contains things she can feel and play with -- a natural sponge, a small scrub brush with natural bristles (new), a piece of fur or felt, a large, cold stone, etc.. and just let her pick things out of the basket. If she's a bit too young for that, brush them against her cheek and hands and encourage her to hold them. I keep 'sensory baskets' in the living room, bedroom and kitchen that my DD can play with when I need to get some things done and need to keep her busy. I even just filled a basket with my headbands and new combs and (soft) hairbrushes and she loves playing with those.<br><br>
Just walking around outside and letting her see new things and places is an adventure in and of itself so get out as much as possible. I find that whenever DD is bored at home, she behaves perfectly when we're out. So much to see, she's too busy to be fussy!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My favorite thing was to read out loud to ds, from whatever book *I* was reading. At that age they don't care much about content, they like the sound of your voice and the different cadence that comes with reading out loud instead of regular conversation. I knew that as he got older, busier, more verbal, and took less naps it would be much more difficult for awhile to read for myself so I got in as much as I could while he was still so little.<br><br>
You sound like you are doing way more with your baby than I did with mine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Our days were much like other posters have described.<br>
wake/nurse<br>
diaper<br>
nurse<br>
hold baby while getting myself some breakfast<br>
nurse while eating<br>
diaper<br>
baby watches mommy take shower (peek-a-boo!)<br>
nurse<br>
get dressed<br>
diaper<br>
try to eat a shoe-how fascinating<br>
nurse down for nap (exploring shoes is tiring work you know)<br>
mommy naps with baby<br>
wake/nurse<br>
diaper<br>
practice rolling<br>
find out carpets don't feel nice on the tongue<br>
nurse (to take away icky carpet taste)<br>
diaper<br>
watch mommy cook supper (from arms or bouncy seat, depending on what's cooking)<br>
how did we miss lunch? again?!<br>
daddy's home! woo-hoo!<br>
nurse baby while eating supper<br>
etc...</div>
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Yep, I'm right here with this poster. The OP does waayyy more than I would even imagine doing during the week. Just reading that made me exhausted, lol, not that there is anything wrong with that. Different strokes for different folks. It just sounds to me like you have nothing to worry about. If anything you could probably scale down a bit and take a little time to yourself.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">And I feel guilty that I really like it when she takes a nap in the afternoon.</div>
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I have two girls - a 4yo and 2yo. You are doing fine! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
And let go of that guilt! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 5mo's days were filled with museum visits, astronomy studies, poetry readings, and political rallies...<br><br>
No, just kidding. Basically it went something like:<br><br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
walk around in sling<br>
nurse<br>
nap*<br>
diaper<br>
nurse<br>
go outside (if nice) in sling<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nap*<br>
nurse<br><br>
*favored time for showering and other non-essential mom activities<br><br>
Sounds like you are doing fine! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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ROFL at first part but the second part pretty much sums up what you do w the first one.<br><br>
As for the second and third. you do all that but also fit it in since you have a tot or school age child or another little tot to also do all that with.
 

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DS is 4mo and sometimes I feel the same way. When I wonder if he's bored I'll pull out a toy I've had packed away or show him something around the house he hasn't seen before or something like that. Everything is still so new to them that I don't worry about it too much. He loves to be held or worn and just check everything out and I enjoy that too!
 

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Wow, SaraBunny, yes, I felt guilty and still do that we don't do enough and you are doing more at 5 mo than we are doing now at 20!
 

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Thanks to this thread I feel so good with what I am trying to do with and around our 4month old DD. Housework is secondary to everything but I still am new to this SAHM thing and feel guilty for neglecting the house- the babe is a handful and we still nurse very often!
 

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We go out when she is awake. We take a long walk for the sake of walking in the morning. We walk/bus and do errands in the afternoons. When we are home, she plays while I hang out nearby- she likes to alternate between talking/playing with me and not- in the interim I do quick chores nearby (dishes, fold laundry), knit, or read.
 

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Sarah- you are doing awesome. I remember when I first started staying home with my son (he was 8 months old), I constantly felt like I should be entertaining him or stimulating him in some way. As I've relaxed into it a little more, I'm realizing the benefits he gets from exploring the world on his own terms, with me nearby to assist or protect as needed.<br><br>
As for naps, we ALL love naptime so no guilt needed there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Well, I definitely do enough OUTSIDE the house. I guess I was looking for validation for the fact that I am not teaching her latin every day or something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> KWIM? Like...we hang out together and play on the floor a bit or I sit by her sometimes when she is in the jumper (I think she would bounce right out of here if she could) but other than that...i spend a LOT of time in front of the tv. It seems like friends have such a good time "playing" with her...and I just don't do that during the day very much.<br><br>
Maybe its that it is easy to cram in a hour of play if it isn't YOUR baby? the idea of trying to amuse her all day wears my brain out. Oddly, when DH is home, I am SO much more animated with her and playing with her for a long time and enjoying her more. I wonder if I am just trying to make it through the day til he gets home? He is usually gone about 11 hours or so a day.<br><br>
Thanks for your reassurances Mamas!
 

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<i><span style="font-size:small;">"...I am SO much more animated with her and playing with her for a long time and enjoying her more. I wonder if I am just trying to make it through the day til he gets home? ...I am SO much more animated with her and playing with her for a long time and enjoying her more. I wonder if I am just trying to make it through the day til he gets home?"</span></i><br>
You are so honest! But, truth be told, a lot of Moms I know do the same and feel the same. I agree with a lot of the other Moms above, that as the baby gets older, these feelings go away because the baby becomes active and develops opinions and generally becomes more able to dictate what happens in their lives. Take heart, it sounds like you are doing great!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My 5mo's days were filled with museum visits, astronomy studies, poetry readings, and political rallies...<br><br>
No, just kidding. Basically it went something like:<br><br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
walk around in sling<br>
nurse<br>
nap*<br>
diaper<br>
nurse<br>
go outside (if nice) in sling<br>
nurse<br>
diaper<br>
sit on floor with toys<br>
nap*<br>
nurse<br><br>
*favored time for showering and other non-essential mom activities<br><br>
Sounds like you are doing fine! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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Oh no! When I started reading your post, I almost cried! THank goodness you said you were kidding!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> You had me there for a minute.
 

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When I read the title I thought Umm just try to stay afloat? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Then I read all of your activities and I got tired <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It sounds like your a pretty active/social person and I too agree with pp that your doing fine.
 
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