My DD (24 months) mostly uses regular silverware (the smaller forks and spoons that we just have in our drawer) and she eats off of plastic plates (although I should look at changing that). The reason for the reg silverware is simply because it's what we've got, the reason for the plastic plates is so that they don't break.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
We started with wood, from Nova Natural. Now that he "feeds himself" we use stainless steel - a plate, cup and spoons that my partner had when she was a kid. We love it, because now he knows he has to hold onto it so that it doesn't spin around on the table.<br><br>
It is, of course, good for flinging.
I was using plastic bowls, plates and utensils, but I have switched to ceramic bowls and plates and stainless steel utensils.<br>
I find that if there is weight to a dish, it doesn't move around while ds is using it. It also stays on the table and doesn't get picked up or dropped too much by ds.
DD uses kid sized silverware and regular dishes (just the small version- we usually give her the dessert dish or the saucer for her food). She's over the throwing phase, and while she occasionally drops things, she likes to use the "big" person stuff.
DS uses just about any utensil, but I only serve him in suction cupped bowls. They save me from having to vacuum the floor three times a day. They are plastic, but I never microwave in them. A pack of three different sizes is at Target for $7-ish.
We started with Ikea plastic bowls and utensils and bamboo utensils because they are soft on gums and non-breakable. As soon as we can we switched to our corningwear or correllwear (I forget) regular plates. They are ceramic, but won't break if one falls on the floor. We have smaller- bamboo utensils they still use, or the dessert sized regular forks and tea spoons.