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So Saturday we went to the ER b/c I had a gush of red blood the night before and pain on my right side. ER saw the baby, couldn't find a reason for the bleeding, but the heart rate was only 92. I was measuring a little over 5 1/2 weeks and the tech said it's possible the heart just started beating. I just got off the phone with my midwife and she said "oh that's not good" and wants a repeat u/s done Friday or Monday.<br><br>
So I ask my DH if he will be there and he said he wasn't sure. Not the answer I expected. Then he goes on to say that I am being paranoid and overly concerned with everything. I seriously want to kill him and cry at the same time right now! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I honestly don't feel that I'm being all that paranoid given the situation.<br><br>
I don't even want him coming home after work tonight, I am so upset with him!
 

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I am sorry to hear that.<br>
Men are not always great at being supportive when they should!<br>
I always have to remind my DH to be sympathetic to me more than anything else. Maybe one day he'll be trained!<br><br>
Sending you good thoughts about baby!
 

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Not in your ddc, but 92 sounds fine to me. I had a gush of blood at exactly 6 weeks with my son from a subchorionic hematoma, the u/s a few hours later showed no cause (the one a few days later showed the clot from the subchor. bleed, and baby was fine, and heart rate was higher!), and baby's heart rate was 96, which my ob said was low. He's now 16 months <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> This is from wikipedia, can't find info anywhere else. I would try not to be alarmed, it sounds normal to me. I'm sorry your dh isn't being supportive. Good luck at your next u/s, I'm sure baby is just fine!<br><br>
Week 5 starts at 80 and ends at 103 bpm<br><br>
Week 6 starts at 103 and ends at 126 bpm<br><br>
Week 7 starts at 126 and ends at 149 bpm<br><br>
Week 8 starts at 149 and ends at 172 bpm
 

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Thanks guys! It's funny b/c now DH is emailing me all these stats and normal rates too and saying he doesn't like the midwife scaring me. There are two midwives in the practice (I have always dealt with the other one) and I have to agree that "oh that doesn't sound good" should not be in their vocabulary.<br><br>
Is this what I have to look forward to with my husband during pregnancy? He's seriously the most sensitive and caring man I know so I just about went off the deep end when he was acting like that. I think I have some training to do!
 

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What is with all these pessimistic midwives people are getting? Gosh, I didn't like the doctor I had when I was pg with my DD, but he never made you worry about ANYTHING. He always reminded you that there's a whole range of normal within pregnancy - which we all need to hear sometimes!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> Totally. I get so irritated when I hear about midwives or OBs saying negative things to mothers in early pregnancy (or pregnancy at all for that matter). It's so unnecessary. Even if they are thinking something, there is no need to say it out loud, yk?<br><br>
Chisub <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">, pregnancy is a very interesting and sometimes difficult journey for partners. I think often they don't know how to react to what could be worrisome news. Some withdraw. And for a lot of them this is the first time they've been in a situation where their child is involved, but they have little power over it, yk? My DH was quite unsupportive for the first 3-4 months of my first pregnancy. He was scared, I think, and surprised, and kept being irritated that I was so freakin' tired and didn't want to do anything! I was like, I'm growing your BABY here! Jeez!<br><br>
Anyway, I think the best that you can do is to really honestly lay how you feel on the line, without sounding accusing. Something really simple, like, "It really hurts my feelings when you discount my worries. I need you now, and this is hard for me." That always works when I talk to my DH like that. Because what can they say if you are just being honest and not fighting about it? I am generally teary when I say something like that, too. DH usually gets it real quick!<br><br>
GL and keep us posted.
 

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I agree that 92 for 5 weeks is just not all that low. At 10 weeks, sure, but not at 5. A recheck is reasonable, but I'd try not to worry about it too much (yeah right, I know.)
 

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With the information others have posted it sounds like the hb is within normal range! Reassuring, but doesn't necessarily stop the worrying I know!<br><br>
As far, as DH's, mine is still in denial <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: so I know how you feel!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">With the information others have posted it sounds like the hb is within normal range! Reassuring, but doesn't necessarily stop the worrying I know!<br><br>
As far, as DH's, mine is still in denial <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: so I know how you feel!</div>
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Oh yes, this has put my mind at ease tremendously! I read the numbers before and should trust myself more. I spoke with my sister tonight who is a nurse and she said "you know, sometimes we make stuff up and don't know why". Basically she said what I already knew, that one person doesn't know everything and they say some inappropriate things sometimes.
 
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