Mothering Forum banner

1 - 20 of 43 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,103 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
DS, who will be 4 in January, is basically asking for everything under the sun for Christmas this year. He's super excited and we LOVE IT! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> But of all of the gifts that he keeps asking for, he tends to come back to a drum set - which, DH and I have decided will have to wait until next year for budget reasons.<br><br>
What if DS is disappointed on Christmas morning if there is no drum set by the tree? If Santa didn't fullfill his wish? It breaks my heart to think about it. This is the first year where I've even had to consider this because he is at that age where is aware of a lot more than we realize.<br><br>
Will he even notice? Any BTDT's? Any suggestions on what I might be able to say if he does seem disappointed?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
425 Posts
Walmart has one that's up to age three for only $20. It's the rockstar one with a little stool, two toms, a cymbal, and the foot drum whatever. It was in the strangest place by the bicycles. Even if it's a little small for him if you can find in your store at least he will get one. And for $20 you can see if he really plays with it or not. We went in looking for the advertised $99 one but when I asked an employee if the had a kids drumset she pointed to this one instead. How lucky can we get? Here's the UPC number<br>
40144 04020. It's got a small 8 before the bar code and a small 9 after it. The name on the box is "metal drum set". I'd call wal-mart see if they have it. I've often seen kids playing with toys they're a little too big for.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
12,633 Posts
<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">: he will live.<br><br>
dd is 7. yes we have gone thru many gift disappointments. she did not like what the tooth fairy got her last time. she even got over it. she was ok.<br><br>
will he notice? maybe. maybe not.<br><br>
but i think its a great learning tool for the 5's that he didnt get his wish.<br><br>
however since you are getting him some gifts he will have something to be excited about.<br><br>
if he shows disappointment i would sit and mourn with him some. 'ds you really wanted the drumset didnt you. and now you are full of sadness and disappointment because you didnt get it. it makes me really sad to see you so sad.' and stay with him for as long as he needs it. you have no idea how much that helps. sitting with them and helping them with their feelings are the best gift a parent can give their child. you dont need to fix anything. you just need to sit and listen so they feel they are not alone. the 5's coming up are going to be all about this disappointment - when our childrem realize the world does not revolve around them.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
838 Posts
I don't have advice, but I am in the same situation! DS will be 4 in Feb, and he wants nearly everything, ha! What a change...<br><br>
I've been telling him that there are only SOME things for the holidays, not everything. He does understand "too expensive" (in that it is something we say when it's a reason for not buying - don't think he really gets it), and so I've been saying that. I have been repeating that it will be a "fun surprise" to find out what, of all the fun stuff he rilly rilly rilly wants, that he gets.<br><br>
He gets pretty excited about anythng "different" these days so I'm hoping it goes well!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,221 Posts
I feel ya. My DD (4-1/2) responded to a "maybe Santa will get it for you" comment by me by reminding me of every single thing she asked for last year that Santa didn't bring. Sigh.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
488 Posts
I always tell my kids that santa has a budget and he can't buy everything under the sun (This was in response to my 6 years old DS's request for some very expensive LEGO sets). They now know that Santa has a budget and asks if the wish item is within Santa's budget before putting it on their list.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
7,499 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Irishmommy</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14739383"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">I keep pointing out that it is a WISH list, not a shopping list. I don't think we've ever had an issue.</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
Same as with us. I gave both my kids a sears catalogue and they cut out things they wished for. They know that these are wishes and that sometimes wishes come true, sometimes they don't. I'm lucky that my kids seem to really appreciate the things they get. We had a rough couple of years where the kids got nothing or something homemade (and CHEAP!) for birthdays and christmas, so I think they really appreciate the things they get now.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
757 Posts
We've always played up the wish list part too. We also talk a lot about how Santa only has so much room in his sleigh and SO many kids to take presents too. My 4yo (it must be the age! *sigh* I remember when he just wanted chocolate for Christmas) wants a whole lot more than he's going to get, and I flat out tell him that I don't Santa will be able to bring all of that. But I add that I know Santa will be him some things that he'll really love. He seems to accept that well.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,103 Posts
Discussion Starter · #10 ·
Great ideas, mamas. It looks like I'll have to start referring to the his 'want list' as his 'wish list' and incorporate the budget part. Totally makes sense!!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,054 Posts
Same issue here with a 4.5 yo <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
I was actually asking her last night to add to her Santa list, as I was worried that we didn't have enough ideas (she only had 4 items all of which were being purchased by the grandparents). Whoops that was a mistake! She went a bit crazy! Going through the TRU flyer asking for every 2nd thing, including Disney princess & barbies which we don't do. So I did explain again that Santa does NOT bring everything on the list, only some things.<br><br>
But I hear you--I'm a bit worried that she will be disappointed, especially since there is some stuff we WON'T buy and some stuff that gparents are going to be giving after Christmas. Of course, I'm a worrier <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
You've had some great suggestions here that I will be keeping in mind too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Enjoy the season!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
642 Posts
What about skipping other toys and doing the drum set and a couple of smaller items? I'd look around. I've seen small drum sets at both Target and Walmart for pretty inexpensive. Even TRU probably has one. Might not last forever, but a great way to see if a more expensive set is worth it.<br><br>
DS is going to be four in two days. So I completely get how they are. In the grand scheme of things, I don't remember what I got for Christmas when I was four.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,095 Posts
I saw a kid drum set for $22 at Big Lots, if you have that store in your area.<br><br>
I tell my 3 year old DD that Santa's elves don't have time to make a thousand and one presents for her because they also have to make toys for every other child. So she knows to only ask for special things. Thought that doesn't really stop her from saying she wants every single thing she sees...but I think she understands she won't get all of it, she just gets excited and likes to talk.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,221 Posts
My MIL told DH and SIL that Santa didn't bring anything that was advertised on TV. They bought into that one for quite a while! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
445 Posts
that is why we don't make a christmas list with our daughter (but thanks to my mother, she made one) and I make it a point to tell her that the holiday season is more about being with family and maybe buying a small gift because we love them, than getting tons of toys. She is 4.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
5,986 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>staceychev</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14744350"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">My MIL told DH and SIL that Santa didn't bring anything that was advertised on TV. They bought into that one for quite a while! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
that is awesome! No TV here but I am saying that Santa doesn't bring what is in the catalogs the mailman keeps putting in the mail slot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,288 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">
<div>Originally Posted by <strong>mamazee</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/14742222"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">I always said that Santa likes to surprise children, so it won't necessarily be what they're expecting.</div>
</td>
</tr></table></div>
<br>
Oh, that's a great way to look at it! I'll have to use that here at home. My almost 4 year old wants everything she sees on tv but I don't think she'll notice what she doesn't get.<br><br>
My 8 year old, in response to me telling her Santa can't bring everything, has informed me that she wants a wish box for Christmas. What is a wishbox? Well, according to her it's a large box wherein anything you wish for will appear. Yeah. Still trying to break it to her that such a gift will not be appearing under the tree!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,348 Posts
I've always asked the kids to tell me what they like so we can get some ideas for gifts. I've also framed questions with "If you could buy anything in the world, what would you buy?" That's a fun conversation with the kids, let me tell you! We've never had any issues.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,103 Posts
Discussion Starter · #20 ·
Well, I explained the wish list (also threw in the fact that mommy and daddy have a wish list, too, and it can't always be fullfilled due to Santa's tight budget) and the overall budget that Santa has for all of the children, to DS last night and then I asked him, okay, so what's on your wish list? The only thing he said this time was the drum set. I asked if that was it, he said yes.<br><br>
Not only is the drum set out of our budget, DH would really, really like to get him a new bike - DH is in to cycling and DS LOVES to go with him in the bike trailer. Over the summer, my IL's acquired a 12 inch bike from a garage sale and DS fell in love with it, but the only kind of bike that he has at the house is his tricycle which he's getting too big for. So, DH wanted to surprise him with either a 14 inch or a 16 inch bike. Apparently, it's already 'in the works', as DH likes to put it and it's really important to him and so that's another reason why I hope that DS won't be disappointed. My IL's and my parents are getting him quite a bit of cool things, too, so maybe once we he sees everything that he's gotten, he won't really worry about the drum set?
 
1 - 20 of 43 Posts
Top