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We are working on the NCSS for daytime naps since he will be going to daycare in a few weeks. He's been napping at least 1 time a day so far...the rest of the time in the carseat, swing, sling..etc<br><br>
At night...we co-sleep and I don't mind him waking to nurse....lately he has been getting better at it (going back to sleep right away, not refluxy, etc) and I can pop him off my nipple after about 5-10 minutes.<br><br>
My question is...what if I don't "want" to go to bed as early as DS wants? I do wear him in the sling until "bedtime" ...but then I have to have a snack, brush teeth, pee....etc and it wakes him... He doesn't just "lay down" with me and go to sleep. I have to sling, bounce, or nurse/rock all over again.<br><br>
Any tips? I've tried laying him in the bed...but it's like he "knows" I'm not there and wakes up no matter how long I wait until he is asleep.
 

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Both of my kids were the same way when they were that little. They rarely slept without me. I didnt necessarily "want" to go to bed when they did either, so i just layed them on my chest while i watched tv or spent time on the computer, or wore them if i was going to be doing things around the house. Really, he is still very very young and needs to know his mama is close by. I dont know what answers you are looking for exactly, because other than letting him cry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> im not sure what else you can really do about it since he is still so young. I do feel for you though, it can get draining when you are needed 24/7.
 

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Honestly, I think your DS is sooooooo little, that it's just going to take time. I'd continue trying to lie down to go to sleep with him, so that you can sneak away, rather than slinging him to sleep. If you do have to rock, sling, etc until he's asleep, lay down and nurse him in the bed, then sneak away. Bring a book, it can take awhile <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> But eventually he'll sleep in the bed and let you escape.
 

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Thanks... I know it takes time. My DD was a bit different....she let me sneak away no problem...or slept on a mat in the living room while we watched tv...etc.
 

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At that age I would just continue to sling until I was ready for bed. At that point they are still reasonable light and sleep well in the sling. They are not so easily distracted by noises and such then (while in a sling).<br><br>
I've heard people say to lay the baby down when they are sleepy but not asleep. That never worked for me. I've always had to nurse to sleep. I usually just lay propped up on my side and nurse until the sucking slows way down. Then I unlatch, but continue to lay with my breast having contact with her cheek. Sometimes she'll search for it again, but most of the time she kind of looks for it and goes to sleep while looking. .Then I ever so slowly creep off. She usually wakes up within minutes, but sometimes that's all I need to get teeth brushed, etc. Sometimes DH just holds her while I do that stuff, and she's usually screaming so I have to be quick.
 

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Glad someone else is having this issue...DD (born 9-15-07) is the same way. The Sears book and the NCSS don't address this- they just say that you can get some time with your spouse when the little one goes to bed in your bed before you do! Mine will go down for naps just fine by herself but at night all she wants is to curl up with mom- if I put her down asleep/nurse her to sleep she just wakes up after five minutes and screams if I'm not there...I love co-sleeping but I hope this part changes. Did this improve with age for anyone?
 
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