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My DD is 6.5 months. When I saw she was really, really interested in (and grabbing at) my food, right before 6 months, I gave her a little mashed banana. She grimaced and spit out. I tried again a couple of days ago with a pureed banana and mango (yeah, I know you're not supposed to combine foods; I made the mixture for myself and then thought to let her try it) and she liked it. So far I've given her this mixture twice, and she would eat about a tablespoon or two of it each time.<br><br>
So, now that she likes food, or at least this particular kind, do I have to give it to her every day?<br><br>
I have to admit, I find myself not wanting to feed her solids.<br><br>
1) I love exclusively BFing her. I know we'll be BFing for a long time even with solids, so this doesn't really make rational sense, but still, I just feel like I'm going to miss EBFing.<br><br>
2) I hear poop starts smelling bad with food. Obviously it's not a reason to delay solids, just one thing I'm not looking forward to.<br><br>
3) It's inconvenient to feed solids. Yeah, here I am advertising myself to be the world's worst mother, and I do promise that I do what's best for her regardless of convenience (why, just last night I nursed her every hour, getting very little sleep - so I'm fine with inconvenience). But anyway, I have to admit that I eat horrible foods (packaged tortellinis, veggie burgers, etc. - not near enough whole foods like fruits and raw vegetables, or even just plain home cookin') and I do not want her eating that stuff, so I can't just "share" with her. I have to make sure I have good foods handy for her.<br><br>
Did/does anyone else feel less than thrilled about solids?<br><br>
And given that I am reluctant, how do I balance my reluctance with what is best for her? (That is, I don't want to try TOO hard to stuff food down her throat to make up for my reluctance any more than I want to delay wanted/needed solids).
 

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Nope. You don't need to give it every day. Remember the reason to give solids in the first year is for fun! It's fun to splash in the wading pool, but that doesn't mean you have to do it every day. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
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Yeah, She doesn't NEED to eat solids every day. Especially if it seems she is getting enough nutrients with breastmilk. I personally think that regularly feedinf solids before a year or so are a way for parents to delay interaction with their babes because they eat less often.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">. I personally think that regularly feedinf solids before a year or so are a way for parents to delay interaction with their babes because they eat less often.</div>
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What a judgemental thing to say. I don't know anyone who thinks, "If I give my baby these green beans then I can ignore him for 2 hours!"<br>
I think people give solids every day because 1) they think they should or 2) baby seems to want it.<br><br>
ds likes to eat solids while we are all sitting at the dinner table. He gets a very small amount each day. And then after he eats it he's ravenous for nursing and a cuddle so I guess my evil plan doesn't work.
 

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I wondered the same thing when DS was that age. Mostly because I'm lazy and didn't feel like going through the whole ritual. Plus, a lot of times, he wouldn't eat much of what I was trying to feed him. So I finally decided that it didn't really matter, he loves breastfeeding and he gets all the nutrition he needs from that. Until I don't have to puree stuff, this is the way we'll do it. But I do let the grandma's feed him baby food from time to time. He seems to really like it when they feed him, but not me.???
 

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Seems that someone has never had a infant that enjoyed solids <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I don't think that you "have to" feed your baby solids daily, but I think that if you don't, it shouldn't really be for the reason you listed...it should be because your baby isn't interested in eating that often or because you are going into this new experience slowly so as not to upset her gut, promote allergies, etc. There are lots of things our kids need to do as they get older, and we shouldn't hold them back just because of our own biases and wants, IMO.<br><br>
That said, yeah, I miss the bf baby poop and exclusively bf'ing my kids. But it's not so much because of those individual things and it is because it's kind of bittersweet to see them grow up so quickly.<br><br>
Let her have tastes here and there (both our kids went straight to table food), but you don't need to force solids upon her. Just go by her lead.
 

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Okay you are assuming that I am saying that is the ONLY reason for issuing solids. I have just seen people do that and it sickens me. Somebody actually said this to me. "Well if I nurse or bottle feed without solids I will have to do it again in two hours, If I give them solids they will not eat again for four hours." I am assuming NOTHING. I am merely speaking from what I have heard other say. I am currently giving DS a few solids myself. He's almost 8 mos. He just won't leave my plate alone and he likes to steal his sisters food. Yeah, I DO get it it was just a point of view tha tcomes up from time to time. NOT a SLAM against ANYBODY.
 

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I felt the same way when I started solids with ds. I didn't really want to at all. I didn't do it every day. You have lots of time!!!<br><br>
Ds started to want to eat more regularly at about 8.5 months.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yeah, She doesn't NEED to eat solids every day. Especially if it seems she is getting enough nutrients with breastmilk. I personally think that regularly feedinf solids before a year or so are a way for parents to delay interaction with their babes because they eat less often.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> What an odd thing to say.<br><br>
ETA: saw your response...still think it's kinda odd since the OP obviously does not want to minimize interaction, but whateva <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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it takes more interaction IMO to feed solids with a spoon than to just hold a bottle in their mouth (which I have to do, my baby can't bf)<br><br>
but I think it's ok if you're not ready to do like 3 feedings a day. I didn't give any til 7 m. but at the same time, you don't want to disallow or discontinue something that the baby really likes unless it's for health reasons, so I'd say at least every 2-3 days give her a little because she enjoys it, yk?
 

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I agree! I can breastfeed and do other things at the same time, but feeding solids is a LOT more interactive.<br><br>
I delayed until 7 months. She does go longer in between feedings now, but that just means we have more PLAY time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We tried solids a while back and dd clearly didn't like them, so I didn't push it. In the last few weeks, she has started nursing like crazy -- more often during the day and also during the night (as in every 90 minutes instead of every 2 hours). I took that as a sign that maybe it was time, so we tried again. She wasn't that enthusiastic, but I continued to offer a taste every day, and now she's eating a tablespoon or two per day. Not a lot, but it's slowly increasing. It's kind of strange because her signals seemed a little mixed -- the frequency of her nursing led me to believe she would wolf down the solids, and that certainly hasn't happened. Anyway, I'm just trying to "listen" to her and do what seems appropriate. I think it's perfectly okay to not give solids every day at this age, though.
 

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what is most important is not what you want but what your baby needs. Just as it owuld be wrong to push solids on a baby who isn't ready, it is wrong to deny them if they are ready and want them which your dd obviously does. This is the first of many things that will happen long before you are ready to give up the pleasantness of infancy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
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I was terrible at feeding my children solids with any sort of regularity. probably until 14-18 month it was "oh she might like this - here eat this" or "ehh, nothing she would like today, have some nurnie" there comes a point (when they can talk maybe <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) where they get choosy about what they eat and start asking for real food more and refuse to be defered to nursing if they would rather something else. we take a pretty casual approach to solids. mostly feeding bites ioff our plates and snacks here and there. aiming to squeeze it in once a day but I was horrible at any sort of certain time or anything and often missed days.<br><br>
it just took so much more effort to feed solids and the fun wears off so quickly that it was just easier and tok less mental energy to nurse. but my children have all really enjoyed solids so i wouldh ave felt bad denying them that. But I did move on from smassed stuff pretty quickly. by 6 months they were eating finger food or well chopped but not special made, soft foods. I also didn't stick with single ingredient stuf very much.<br><br>
as a general rule I htink people way overthing solids. it is such a natrual process. in our house introduction was generally baby grabbing at what was in my hand or something on the stove that I thought was too good to pass up (for example fresh warm apple sauce for #2) so I offer them a bite. regardless of age I am not too concerned about offering my kids a bite/lick/sip of something. anyway,
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So, now that she likes food, or at least this particular kind, do I have to give it to her every day?<br><br>
3) It's inconvenient to feed solids. Yeah, here I am advertising myself to be the world's worst mother, and I do promise that I do what's best for her regardless of convenience (why, just last night I nursed her every hour, getting very little sleep - so I'm fine with inconvenience). But anyway, I have to admit that I eat horrible foods (packaged tortellinis, veggie burgers, etc. - not near enough whole foods like fruits and raw vegetables, or even just plain home cookin') and I do not want her eating that stuff, so I can't just "share" with her. I have to make sure I have good foods handy for her.</div>
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Sounds like a good excuse to start eating healthier to me. I was very lazy about solids. I figured for DD it was mostly social and experimental those first few months. So she'd get bits of what I ate, and I'd usually try to eat things I could share with her: oatmeal or pancakes for breakfast, beans and rice, bits of beans out of my burrito, chips and guacamole and she got guacamole, hummus, I'd make french toast then just cook up the leftover batter and let her eat the egg mixture (that was closer to a year).<br><br>
In short, she wanted MY food, so I shared it with her as far a she was able to eat it with no teeth. I also kept a few things like cheerios around, and had a nice, lazy policy of letting her feed herself (yes she made a mess). At first I'd put something on a spoon and hand her the spoon, or give her finger foods (bits of banana, cheerios, beans and rice are a finger food imo), and just let her find her own way to get it to her mouth. Never bought baby food, never made baby food, and can't claim I ate perfectly healthy, either.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">there comes a point (when they can talk maybe <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">) where they get choosy about what they eat and start asking for real food more and refuse to be defered to nursing if they would rather something else.</div>
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Ha, my 3 yr. old still hasn't found anything he prefers over breastmilk, I try and try to defer him to something else- fruit? veggies? pbj? pie? Nope, "but mommy milk is my FAAAVORITE food!"
 
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