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Kyara,
I have had a similar situation. We had to make room for new baby.
Do you have room for another matress or cot in your room? We ended up doing a mattress on the side of our bed and after a while getting a toddler to twin bed from Ikea and leaving it in our room. By the time the new baby was outgrowing our bed and ready for the toddler bed the other child was asking to be with the big kids in their room. This has worked for us. I know it is not totally co sleeping, but without a huge bed it is too hard to get sleep. I think that co-sleeping is about family harmony and if DH is not able to sleep that is NOT harmony! Hope this helps.
Wishing you peacful sleeping
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I have had a similar situation. We had to make room for new baby.
Do you have room for another matress or cot in your room? We ended up doing a mattress on the side of our bed and after a while getting a toddler to twin bed from Ikea and leaving it in our room. By the time the new baby was outgrowing our bed and ready for the toddler bed the other child was asking to be with the big kids in their room. This has worked for us. I know it is not totally co sleeping, but without a huge bed it is too hard to get sleep. I think that co-sleeping is about family harmony and if DH is not able to sleep that is NOT harmony! Hope this helps.
Wishing you peacful sleeping
Im sorry I am foggy brained too.
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I just noticed that you said you did'nt want him in a new mattress. I am sorry I don't have much solution for that then.
Hope someone will have an idea
Hope someone will have an idea
No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers (or preschoolers? I forget the actual title of the book.) I absolutely loved the baby edition, and she has lots of great ideas!
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you gals are so sweet--thanks for the ideas....we do have a teeny tiny house, and another bed wouldn't work in our "master" bedroom
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i think this may be one for the books.....will definitely try the no-cry solution...the worst thing is, i can't even imagine him sleeping somewhere else!
thanks again
cheers
kyara
i think this may be one for the books.....will definitely try the no-cry solution...the worst thing is, i can't even imagine him sleeping somewhere else!
thanks again
cheers
kyara
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well pantley will tell you that transitioning him out of your bed won't work then. she asks you to ask yourself, if dc got up and walked to his own bed tomorrow, how would you feel? in my own case, i would be heartbroken. which i think means it's not time for us to move away from the family bed.
Originally Posted by kpb the worst thing is, i can't even imagine him sleeping somewhere else! |
well pantley will tell you that transitioning him out of your bed won't work then. she asks you to ask yourself, if dc got up and walked to his own bed tomorrow, how would you feel? in my own case, i would be heartbroken. which i think means it's not time for us to move away from the family bed.
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You know, I'm gonna go ahead and offer another take on that. I think some parental decisions are just bound to be fraught with ambivalence--but that doesn't mean that you aren't making the best decision for your family. When your children first go to school, that's bound to be an emotional time for you as a parent (maybe that's a bad example if you're a homeschooler, but I'm sure there are parallels there!) yet you know that it's part of your child growing up. I was so sad and guilty and worried when I first went back to school (part time!) yet I knew that my little girl would be alright (she loves her time with grandma) and that it was what I had to do.
I'm not saying that you must definitely move your son out if you are truly not ready. But I just think that you can feel a little sad about it but still know that it's the right decision.
As a side note, we moved our daughter into a crib when she was 6months old but since that time she moves into our bed when she first gets up, which is anywhere from, say, 11pm to like 2am. I read the No Cry Sleep Solution and found it very helpful.
Originally Posted by PiePie well pantley will tell you that transitioning him out of your bed won't work then. she asks you to ask yourself, if dc got up and walked to his own bed tomorrow, how would you feel? in my own case, i would be heartbroken. which i think means it's not time for us to move away from the family bed. |
I'm not saying that you must definitely move your son out if you are truly not ready. But I just think that you can feel a little sad about it but still know that it's the right decision.
As a side note, we moved our daughter into a crib when she was 6months old but since that time she moves into our bed when she first gets up, which is anywhere from, say, 11pm to like 2am. I read the No Cry Sleep Solution and found it very helpful.
Not magic, but type "relax kids" into the search box on itunes
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Good for the giving-up naps phase.
There's a win-win solution in here. Your DS wants physical contact, you want enough space to sleep in and your DH wants space to sleep in. He has a big boy bed, you have a queen. How can you arrange these two beds to provide everyone with the restful night you deserve?
There's a win-win solution in here. Your DS wants physical contact, you want enough space to sleep in and your DH wants space to sleep in. He has a big boy bed, you have a queen. How can you arrange these two beds to provide everyone with the restful night you deserve?
We pushed a twin beside the queen when time called.
MIL asked me this past Turkey day "so, you're still sleeping with the kids in bed?"
I gladly told her, "Yes we are."
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If you wish to cosleep past toddler age, it can be done. The real question is are you and dh willing to? There's no doubt that we won't be transitioning the kids over the next year or so. They, like us, would prefer a lot room while they sleep. We have started to talk about this. Since we moved late this past summer, we didn't want to start right away. So we told them that after the New Year (and X-mas), they would be getting a new bed. While it's not a surprise, I expect some transition, aka, they wind up in our bed. However, the point is that we are willing to work through that so they are comfortable in their new surroundings. Not totally child led, but we are attempting to support them (remain attached) during this new phase. No different than potty learning or learning about the addition of a new sibling to the family.
MIL asked me this past Turkey day "so, you're still sleeping with the kids in bed?"
I gladly told her, "Yes we are."
If you wish to cosleep past toddler age, it can be done. The real question is are you and dh willing to? There's no doubt that we won't be transitioning the kids over the next year or so. They, like us, would prefer a lot room while they sleep. We have started to talk about this. Since we moved late this past summer, we didn't want to start right away. So we told them that after the New Year (and X-mas), they would be getting a new bed. While it's not a surprise, I expect some transition, aka, they wind up in our bed. However, the point is that we are willing to work through that so they are comfortable in their new surroundings. Not totally child led, but we are attempting to support them (remain attached) during this new phase. No different than potty learning or learning about the addition of a new sibling to the family.
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